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45 having doubts

(7 Posts)
Arranoxford Sun 14-Apr-13 18:21:16

Hi there.

I have been having a really positive pregnancy even with two bleeds and all the check ups. But for a week now everything has changed.
I just feel trapped and resentful of my partner and I had this urge to send him a text saying "I don't want this Fxxxxxing baby."

He lives in Scotland but he is planning to move down in July. It all started when I felt I was doing all the travelling to be together and paying for the tickets.
I am 33 weeks and he never asks if I need any help at home.
I decided I would not phone him and he has only text me since.

Whenever I go up there we have to go halves on the food even though he is the one earning and I have payed to get up there.

I am a postgrad student and have put my studies on hold until next year.
I certainly have less money coming in than him.

He loves children.

I just want to feel some TLC and Some genuine practical support rather than three kisses at the end of a text.

My 11 year old daughter has been fab and my Mum too.

He is meant to be moving into my house which I bought and I am not sure he is willing to share his earnings.

I have reached a stage 45years where I am happy to work hard but I also wan to be taken care of at times like these.

I feel like crying all the time.

Thanks so much for listening. I am in a pickle.

WorriedMouse Sun 14-Apr-13 18:46:38

Hi, I often find that my DH has no idea what I think or feel so maybe you should talk about it. Usually when I blurt out how I feel he stands shocked and apologises that he has made me feel like that. Have a good chat and good luck!

BabyHMummy Sun 14-Apr-13 19:16:50

I agree with worriedmouse you need to talk to him. Men are rubbish at picking up on subtle hints etc so you are gonna have to be blunt with him esp if he is moving into your house. Ground rules and expectations of behaviour/financial contributions need to be laid down

Arranoxford Sun 14-Apr-13 19:39:59

Thanks so much>
I just want him to make the first move to call me. It's been 3 days and I always call. Is that just silly pig headedness?
I was meant to be going up there for 10days on Tuesday. My daughter is going on a school trip.
He hasn't tried to persuade me to come. Which has really fuelled my doubt?

quietlysuggests Sun 14-Apr-13 19:44:03

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Arranoxford Sun 14-Apr-13 20:34:27

I think you are right. I didn't know there was a thread for relationships. I'll take a look.
Warmest wishes to you all xxx

quietlysuggests Mon 15-Apr-13 12:30:25

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