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little support please ladies :-(

(11 Posts)
Mytwobeautifulgirls Sun 31-Mar-13 19:06:34

hiya ladies.beware tmi!!!!

on Thursday afternoon I noticed I had some brown spotting at 5weeks 5days as the evening went know after my bath I noticed some pink spotting and I gradually started cramping. I knew this was not a good sign I got into bed and rested.
at 6am I woke with the most horrendous pain I have ever felt and bleeding quiet heavy bleeding.
the pain was so intense I could not move I took adequate pain relief and continued to rest. throughout the day the pain Began to slowly ease and clots came out. after he clots the bleeding eased. on Saturday I felt as though an elephant was jumping on my head I had a very severe migraine. today I feel emotionally drained and deflated I'm exhausted. I keep going over and over in ny head why has this happened? I know deep down it is nothing I have done, but can't help but blame myself.
the bleeding is moderate today not at all heavy or no clots.

I am wondering anyone else out there who has had the upsetting experience of a miscarriage can shine some light and tell me how long the bleeding lasted and if the fell pregnant again how soon after.
I know the say for emotional reasons and to date the pregnancy more easily to wait for one cycle then to try. anyone fell pregnant very soon.

thanks guys

RJM17 Sun 31-Mar-13 19:11:45

So sorry for ur loss! I have had two mc and I bed for about 5 days with each similar to a period!
I can't comment on how quickly as we waited 3 years to try again as we decided to do other things first (get married, house etc).
Hope all goes well xx

HPsauceonbaconbuttiesmmm Sun 31-Mar-13 19:14:28

Sorry for your loss.

I mc at 5 weeks last may. Started trying again straight away (as soon as I got a clear negative when POAS). Fell pregnant not that cycle but the one after. Currently 38+2.

Unfortunately we just get to know we're pregnant very early nowadays, so we get to know when we've lost too. I'm late 30s so I knew 50% would end up failing if I found out early. Knew both times before 4 weeks. It's nothing you've done, just one that was never going to make it, im afraid. That's how I got through and was glad it wasn't any later.

Ttc is hell and mc, even an early one, is devastating. Let yourself grieve. Good luck.

Mytwobeautifulgirls Sun 31-Mar-13 19:22:33

thanks ladies. it's just a massive shock u don't ever think these things could happen to u.
hp congrats and good luck u don't have very long left at all. grin

Dexidoo Sun 31-Mar-13 20:28:12

I had a mc at 6 weeks exactly last June. I went for a scan but by the time I got there it showed uterus was empty. I bled for around 5 days, physically it was like a heavy period but emotionally it was torture. It took me a couple of months to get my head around it but don't think I'll ever be 'over' it.
Happily we got pg again in November and I'm now 20 weeks so hoping for a happy outcome.
Be gentle with yourself. The miscarriage association has online leaflets that I found helpful x

elsabel Sun 31-Mar-13 23:37:05

I had a mmc last year and because it was taking so long i had an erpc so didnt have to go through the dragged out physical pain. All i can say is be kind to yourself and dont push yourself to do too much physically or mentally, eventually everyday you will start to feel a bit more normal until then take care and lean on those around you x

squizita Mon 01-Apr-13 13:50:12

I have sadly had 2. With me the pain went after a few days, with twinges of 'after pain' for a few weeks. I am now 5 and a bit weeks pregnant and fell pregnant 6.5 weeks after my 2nd MC. Both times my Dr said after 1 period I should be OK but to look after my mind as well as body and only try when I felt emotionally better.

squizita Mon 01-Apr-13 13:50:58

Oh and go to the miscarriage association website. They have so many answers and are very supportive with a helpline.

Kw2013 Mon 01-Apr-13 17:10:11

Hi I am really sorry for your loss... I miscarried at 10 weeks and not long after was diagnosed with pcos and told it would be unlikely for us to have more children... Currently 36 weeks pregnant! And while I have been so so sick it's unreal my little boy is growing fine has a perfect heartbeat and no signs of any problems.. Just wanted to give you a bit of hope!

Mytwobeautifulgirls Mon 01-Apr-13 20:50:55

so nice to year all of your positive stories. thank you so much. I'm feeling so much better today pain has gone bleeding is very minimal. it's been 3days I'm going to c the gp tomorrow and find out what is next. etc .
I'm really confused how you would start dating now. would I be on cycle day 3 now or would you wait till the end of the bleeding to count. sorry really am clueless with this. I have always been lucky just to go with ewcm and dtd then.

thanks ladies
oh and I did take a look at the miscarriage website it's really helpful and informative.

Bambalam Wed 03-Apr-13 21:26:29

Oh I am so sorry to hear this flowers

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