Apologies in advance if this sounds rather trivial to some, and a bit long winded - but has anyone had experience of non pregnant/child ready friends being a weird? I feel a bit put out - it is to do with a small group of my girls, my best single friends back in the days, some of whom are in relationships now - one living with her bloke, one still single, one in a relationship. I think I am a good friend, being supportive though breakups, random idiot men being knobs etc etc. I live abroad in germany so I fly back to the UK when I can (5 trips last year), and saw one of my ladies in south america when she had a year travelling, we all went skiing together last year etc etc. But since I have been pregnant things have much been more distant - they all had a great ski trip which I did get asked to (before I knew I was pg - so ended up not going), and now they have a week hols planned in June - but nothing was mentioned to me, even though we all discussed it originally, and I was part of the group - I have just been wiped off the list! I found out via FB, as you do.
I have had loads of complications with this pg, and need to have further scans in a couple of weeks to check all is ok (but they are very cautious in germany so i am sure all fine), but never hear a peep really from them to check, unlike my married/pg/with kids friends etc. I know they want to get married (the ones in long term relationships do) and the ones that aren't would like a decent relationship - but I can't help the fact that i am pg and happily married - I just feel they think - "she has her happy ending" and been side lined. Like my problems aren't really 'problems'. I don't ever go on about the pg to them either, since I think it makes them a bit awkward, but that makes me sad. I know this sounds a bit daft - when there are so many other important things to care about, and I have got some really fab friends who are supportive, but it has got right on my wick this holiday business, partic when they all said they would come over to see me here, and we planned a nice weekend, but since I said I was pg, no more has been mentioned by them, despite my saying 'please come anyway' etc .. I guess I feel pissed off at the time and energy I put into these relationships and don't seem to get it back now. Anyone had the same experiences?
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Teaandflapjacks · 26/03/2013 01:50
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