Sorry in advance for the long post.
I've just had my first ante-natal appointment with my health visitor and she went through a questionnaire with me. She warned me that there were a lot of nosy questions but I am worried about it now and kind of wish I'd refused to answer.
I'll give a bit of background so you know what I mean:
I was in a women's refuge for a while with my mum when I was 13/14 due to domestic violence (although it was emotional not physical). When we finally got settled I experienced severe anxiety and panic attacks which resulted in me seeing a CBT (cognitive behavioural therapist), although I have been recovered for several years now.
When I had my DS 4 years ago I was living with my mum as a single parent. When DS was 6 weeks old I noticed a purple mark on his foot. Panicking I took him to my GP who sent me to hospital with DS as he did not know what it was and wanted him to have blood tests.
After a stressful few hours at the hospital I was finally seen by a doctor who asked lots of probing questions and insinuated that I had harmed my son and that it was a bruise on his foot. They kept us in for "observation" and the next day sent a social services worker to my home. By this time the purple mark had completely disappeared- it was not a bruise as it wasn't painful to him and didn't fade to yellow as you'd expect, just disappeared! Social services weren't concerned at all. However I expect they will have some record of this somewhere.
I have just repeated all of this to my health visitor and am now worrying that it will be used against me at some point or kept on record which may cause problems later. You hear all these horror stories about social services taking babies away because of misinformation so I am having a bit of a worry. Should I have not said anything (wouldn't that have set alarm bells ringing when/if they discovered this info later?) Please can anyone give me some advice/reassurance??
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Please advise/reassure. Health visitor questionnaire worries...
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goodbyekitty123 · 19/03/2013 12:16
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