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How long are you (planning) to take off for maternity leave?

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TwitchyTail Fri 15-Feb-13 10:13:09

I have planned 9 months, but am increasingly tempted to go for the full 12. We can manage financially and job is secure - I'm more worried about losing confidence at going back to work afterwards after being out of touch for so long...

What are you planning to do, or did you do with previous children?

Kelly1814 Sun 17-Feb-13 09:17:31

Wow this thread is making me jealous! I live in Dubai where maternity leave is 45 days...45 DAYS!! and this includes weekends! which means most people work right up unil their due date - colleague went into labour in a meeting!

most people try to add on vacation days to it....but still, it's horrific, hence a lot of people just don't go back to work and then try to find a new job when they are ready to get back into it again.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen Sun 17-Feb-13 09:15:46

I had 9 last time and hope to have the same this time. I get no money after 9 months and can't manage with that so I don't have much choice.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen Sun 17-Feb-13 08:40:08

I had 9 last time and hope to have the same this time. I get no money after 9 months and can't manage with that so I don't have much choice.

fatandlumpy Sun 17-Feb-13 08:15:27

OH is leaving the Army and planning to be a stay-at-home-Dad, hence me taking just 6months as that's all we can comfortably afford.

flyingsprocket Sat 16-Feb-13 13:05:14

I'm planning to take 11 months & OH the last month. We both work shifts including nights & nights away from home so I'm planning on going back part time (2 weeks on/2 weeks off) otherwise childcare would be almost impossible. OH is hoping to stay full time but take advantage of unpaid leave & parental leave so that he will be effictively working part time for a while.

I'm so grateful we're in a position to be able to take so much time.

Rockchick1984 Fri 15-Feb-13 23:19:13

I was planning to take 9 months when I had DS (main breadwinner, loved my job) but once he was born I just couldn't do it - he's now 2 and I'm a SAHM smile

MadameJosephine Fri 15-Feb-13 21:01:28

I'm having 9 months but will be returning 1 day per week for the last 10 weeks as KIT days to ease myself back in (and to get DP used to having baby as we can't afford full time child care). When I do go back I will have accrued enough holiday to take 15 hours per week for 3 months so will effectively be part time until DD is one but on full time money.

MrsAmaretto Fri 15-Feb-13 20:50:52

I'm taking 2weeks annual leave, then 12 months maternity, then 2-4weeks annual leave. Last time I took a total of 14months off.

ratbagcatbag Fri 15-Feb-13 20:46:02

Five months for me, I can't financially afford anymore, and will be back full time, only mega benefit is I can do flexi hours so even though will do eary drop off, I'll pick up dc (don't know what I'm having yet) around 3:30. Not ideal but no other way at the moment.

Twinklestarstwinklestars Fri 15-Feb-13 20:41:21

I'm a childminder and am only planning on taking off 2-3 weeks, working the summer hols then only doing part time (1 1/2 days a week) from sept for a few months. I can't afford to miss summer hols income but at least I'm still at home for my children. If I were to take longer I'd be starting from scratch again and it's too quiet here at the moment to risk that.

13loki Fri 15-Feb-13 20:37:16

All on 80% of 97% of normal pay, too smile currently working 50% and should get the rest of my time made up because I only took 6 months paid with my 7yo son, so on maternity leave 50% for him! I love, love, love having children in Sweden.

SlouchingPanda Fri 15-Feb-13 20:29:33

I think I might move to Sweden!

Will probably take a full year as I will have to go back full time, plus nights, weekends and evenings. Thankfully we are in a fortunate financial situation so can manage this...

Abigail9580 Fri 15-Feb-13 20:21:25

I was going to take 9m off, but love being at home and with DS that have decided to take the 12. But I am doing 10 kit days so I will still know a bit of what's going on, and won't have forgotten everything when I go back!!

13loki Fri 15-Feb-13 20:15:23

I've moved to Sweden. We Will get 480 days, at least 60 for each parent, so I'll take 420 days, and then take the left over from DD, Which is about 144 days. So about 560 days. Just over 1 and a half years. But I can take them part time, so it might be longer. sorry for being smug

GingerDoodle Fri 15-Feb-13 19:59:48

Thought i'd take 8 weeks, booked 8 months now changed to take the full 12 + annual leave and then working my notice!

AmayaBuzzbee Fri 15-Feb-13 19:14:46

Planned to take 9 months with DD, but extended it to 12 during the leave. i just wasn't ready to go back whilst DD was so small. Will soon be going on maternity leave with baby #2, and this time I am going for 12 months straight off (plus holidays, so it'll actually be 13 months or more).

BraveLilBear Fri 15-Feb-13 14:18:27

Thanks Bonadea - I know they have to consider it, and the management has changed since then, but I know they're very negative towards compressed hours and homeworking as a rule.

I also thought cost would be an issue, but have just done some quick sums and I/we could afford a four-day week, although not a three-day one (accounting for childcare costs as well), so maybe I could see if they would consider something.

BonaDea Fri 15-Feb-13 13:44:44

bravelilbear - just bear in mind it might be at least worth having the conversation about reduced days. Your employer is not entitled to say "we just don't do that" and just because it didn't work for one person's role doesn't mean it can't work for yours! There are also other options not just part time working. For example, you could maybe look at a compressed working week where you do the same number of hours in fewer days, or you change your start or finish time. They have to let you apply for what you want and they have to consider it - if you don't ask you don't get. Yes, they might say no, and they may be perfectly entitled to refuse you, but then again, things might have changed or there may be different considerations!

Dexidoo Fri 15-Feb-13 13:44:14

I'm self employed too and the main wage earner. Think we will take 20 weeks maximum, not definite exactly how much yet.

TwitchyTail Fri 15-Feb-13 13:27:41

Thanks everyone. Lots of things to think about. Jeggie, you're right, my employer assumes the full 12 months and only needs 1 month's notice to change, but childcare is a different story - the good nurseries are so over-subscribed around here that I need to give them a ridiculous amount of notice if I'm changing the start date unfortunately.

BonaDea, I also technically haven't started my maternity leave yet (am off work but it's still annual leave) and am also dreading having to go back already grin

plannedshock Fri 15-Feb-13 13:22:24

I'm self employed so will be having 7mths off, 1mth before due date and just over 6mths after due date then going back to work 3days a wk, childminder for 2days and with daddy for 1day. I feel this is right for me and am lucky for the flexibility in my job.

FoofFighter Fri 15-Feb-13 11:42:20

The 39 weeks as that's all I'll get with MA I think.

BraveLilBear Fri 15-Feb-13 11:42:18

This is a real tough one. I'm the main earner, and I can just about manage 6 months off (works out at nearly full pay with SMP top ups for last 18 weeks). After that, I'll have a bit of holiday to take, and may be able to eke out another month if I can save up a bit.

I would love to have the full year - or even stop working altogether - but it's a financial impossibility at the moment unless OH gets decent payrise. Coming back reduced hours doesn't seem like a possibility - the person who had my job before me was forced into a different role when she came back from maternity and wanted to do 3days a week as my role 'demands' a full time post.

The precendent has been set, so it will have to be a full time return. Trying not to think about it as it makes me quite upset tbh sad

Eletheomel Fri 15-Feb-13 11:17:00

My DS was fine when I went back (he was 12 1/2 months) the month beforehand I would leave him with my childminder for an hour or so, twice a week, then I did an afternoon before I went back, and while he was a bit upset for the first few drop offs in the morning, by the end of that week he was fine. I think getting him introduced to childminder for a month beforehand made a big difference.

I can't comment on going back earlier, but I know that some babies go through a clingy phase at 9 months or so, so it's possible that might coincide with a return to work which might get them a bit upset.

Although I have to say, my son didn't have any separation anxiety at 9 months so I think he'd have been fine if I'd left him then (but I wouldn't have been :-)

rainand Fri 15-Feb-13 11:13:09

I'll probably take 12 months but considering going back earlier.

Is it easier for the baby to adjust if you go back earlier/later?

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