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2 week wait for a re-scan

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Mummytothearkbuilder Tue 05-Feb-13 18:19:14

Hi ladies

Sorry to bother you all again - I have been on here all weekend and your support has been amazing.

We have had a very emotional weekend where we were told we had lost our baby at a private dating scan however after visiting our local hospital and a scan yesterday at the EPU we were told that I am much earlier than I thought (5 weeks rather than 7). The EPU internally scanned me and saw a pregnancy sac, yolk and functioning blood supply - the lady said it was a normal looking 5 week pregnancy and I had the same chance of miscarriage as anyone else who is 5 weeks pregnant. I have to go back on 18th Feb for a re-scan where they should see growth and a heartbeat.

I have had some brown spotting since Sunday which I understand is common in pregnancy this early however I think we are so much more anxious than normal because of the roller coaster weekend - the brown spotting is mainly when I wipe - nothing has collected on my pad I am wearing.

I am trying very hard to be positive but am so scared and hate this feeling of being out of control. I have only managed to get through one day so far and the 18th Feb feels like a lifetime away.

My DH is being wonderful and trying to be positive even though I know he is worried - I don't want to chip away at his positivity by going on about how worried I am (not that I come in here to moan and whinge either) - I just wondered whether anyone has gone through anything similar and how you managed with the 2 weeks wait.

Thank you all so much for reading xxx

Christelle2207 Sat 16-Feb-13 12:45:37

So sorry to hear this op. do look after yourself and be as miserable and sad as you want to be. You will get better, promise, and remember that a lot of ladies conceive healthy babies soon after a mc. Best of luck x

rosiedays Sat 16-Feb-13 07:53:39

Oh bless you. Love and Hugs, x were here if you need us.thanks

Mummytothearkbuilder Fri 15-Feb-13 21:34:55

Hi ladies - the scan showed that the baby had grown from a yolk to an embryo but there was no heartbeat. I was told to wait a week and if a natural miscarriage hasn't started by next Friday thy would re-scan and talk about surgery or medication.

I started miscarrying about 4pm this afternoon - out of nowhere this golfball sized clot fell out when I went to the loo - the clots, pain and bleeding continued for the next few hours and I think I am past the worst now. I am still in shock at the size of the clots and the amount of pain - I literally couldn't leave the bathroom.

I am going to rest the next few days - I can't ever imagine feeling normal again - physically I have never felt so drained in my life.

I feel oddly proud that it turned from a yolk to an embryo - I feel like it gave itself the best chance it could - like it really fought to grow but it just wasn't to be - I know that sounds daft but it has helped me get through today. I wouldn't wish this on anyone and still can't believe how horrible this process has been, thank you all for your amazing support xxxxx

Kafri Fri 15-Feb-13 19:10:11

any news for us OP. have had fingers and toes crossed for you.xx

wifey6 Fri 15-Feb-13 17:33:49

Have been thinking of you today OP. thanks

Mummytothearkbuilder Wed 13-Feb-13 19:23:22

Thank you for your posts ladies - I really really appreciate it. The clots and pain are coming thick and fast now - nervous about how much worse it will get hmm.

I'm off work tomorrow and then the scan on Friday - I know it's only going to be to confirm the loss though, but at least we can get a plan together and start thinking about moving forward.

It keeps hitting me in waves - I still can't get over how quickly excitement can turn to sadness - this time last month I was doing a random test and couldn't believe it was positive - now this hmm

Thank you again for your support - I know I am probably repeating myself in my posts but it really helps posting on here xx

rosiedays Wed 13-Feb-13 18:27:50

Hi mummy I've been following your posts and really want to wish you all the best. really hope things work out and settle down for you. keep posting

ohmygoshtake2yay Wed 13-Feb-13 17:49:04

ive just read your story up too now. I have no advice as never been in your postion but wanted to say i have my fingers and toes crossed for you and your scan. i have heard storys like yours with a positive out come so it can happen.
will be thinking about you and bean.

Kafri Wed 13-Feb-13 15:19:39

Hi, again

didn't want you thinking we'd abandoned you...

Oh sweet, that's just rubbish for you. Is there no way you can get them to bring it forward for you even more? Just so you know one way or the other now, rather than sitting worrying which won't be helping you either.

I don't actually have any other advice - not sure anyone would 'know' what to say but i, and i'm sure others are too, am thinking of you.


Mummytothearkbuilder Wed 13-Feb-13 12:11:17

Horrible morning so far - bright red blood and cramps hmm

Guntie Wed 13-Feb-13 08:57:43

Thinking of you and wishing you luck.

wifey6 Wed 13-Feb-13 08:50:09

Wishing you luck for Friday OP.

Mummytothearkbuilder Tue 12-Feb-13 17:57:51

Thank you - I really hope that's true. Thank you for all your support xxx

ExpatAl Tue 12-Feb-13 17:10:49

I'm sorry. It's been a horrible long drawn out affair. This dream might look as if it won't continue but it doesn't mean that you won't have another very soon. Take care of yourself.

Mummytothearkbuilder Tue 12-Feb-13 16:36:25

DH is at work tomorrow and Thursday - don't know whether to go to work tomorrow or not.

I feel like the scan is to just confirm the worst and what we already know hmm

It seems so rubbish and unfair - i know that sounds selfish but I just feel really sad that its happened and a bit daft for thinking of all these plans with DS and new baby hmm


Kafri Tue 12-Feb-13 16:28:43

that's much better. how are you feeling today?

I agree with pp, do something nice with dh on Thursday.


Mummytothearkbuilder Tue 12-Feb-13 16:27:39

Bleeding has picked up - feeling sad hmm

ExpatAl Tue 12-Feb-13 10:58:25

Oops, on Thursday, not tomorrow.

ExpatAl Tue 12-Feb-13 10:58:05

Good news. Not long to go. Take it easy and do something nice with hubby tomorrow.

Mummytothearkbuilder Tue 12-Feb-13 10:56:16

Spoke to EPU and they are re-scanning me on Friday morning x

Kafri Mon 11-Feb-13 21:32:05

keeping fingers crossed for you

Mummytothearkbuilder Mon 11-Feb-13 20:02:17

Have started bleeding this evening - not a good sign.

I will call the EPU tomorrow first thing but feeling very sad hmm

Mummytothearkbuilder Mon 11-Feb-13 16:31:40

Thanks suzyrut - it is so reassuring to hear people coming out the other side with a positive story - fingers crossed that's me next week!!

I am the exact same regarding the symptoms - I don't have any pregnancy symptoms - no sickness at all and I keep poking my boobs and they feel the same as usual (although they were very sensitive when I first found out). I am a bit hungrier than normal but then again I do love food so not sure if that's my body's way of justifying extra chocolate!!

I am trying to hold on to the fact that I have had no bright red blood or clots and the cramps are mild (similar to the very start of a period) - still has me running for the loo to check!!

Thanks again for sharing your experience - I know I sound like a broken record but you ladies are keeping me sane (ish) until next week xxxx

suzyrut Mon 11-Feb-13 16:13:01

Hi mummy just to say that I totally sympathise with your situation (I came off the pill and was pg before I'd had first period, I count myself v.lucky in that regard) so decided to have an early dating scan. Like I fool I thought back over my symptoms and convinced myself I was about 7 weeks. Went for an early scan and there was only a pregnancy and yolk sac (no foetal pole and definitely no heartbeat). Was advised to go back in two weeks when we would see if it was "a viable pregnancy" (it was no where near as bad as your experince but she didn't provide me with me with much info and I left in tears) and they were some of the longest days of my life. I was googling missed miscarriage constantly, every cramp was the onset of me loosing the baby etc. I had no bleeding thank goodness but I was constantly poking my boobs and if I didn't feel sick then I'd have a panic!

I can't offer any different advice from the great stuff other people have posted around keeping busy and staying away from google. What I can offer though is some hope, I'm now 24 weeks and things are going well and as I type she's kicking away like crazy. I hope the next couple of week pass quickly or at least bareably for you and in the end you get to see a lovely heartbeat. xx

Mummytothearkbuilder Mon 11-Feb-13 13:53:19

Thanks for checking in - I really really appreciate it. No appointment from EPU - I haven't had anymore brown spotting today so hoping that is a good thing - still having some lower tummy ache but its more of a dull ache that stabbing pain so hoping that's all explainable.

This time next week we will know one way or the other (appt is at 11am next Monday). In one way it will good to know but on the other hand we still have a little bit of hope at the moment. Time is moving so slowly - it feels like a lifetime ago that we had the awful private scan x

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