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Controversial!!! Have/do you drink alcohol in pregnancy?

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DanniiH Mon 04-Feb-13 10:02:27

Hi mummies.

Just wanting to get some opinions from real people not a regulatory body.

Personally I don't see the harm in having a glass of wine when pregnant but guidelines say to have none. I'm sure we've all heard people say my mum drank lots and I turned out fine and this is usually true I'm sure. With my son I drank a small glass of wine most nights, he is 3 and scarily bright so I've obviously caused him no harm. I'm pregnant again and whilst I won't drink every night I will have one if I fancy it.

Anyone else agree with this?
Anyone know of anyone where moderate drinking has caused harm to a child?

DietPregnancyResearcher Mon 22-Jul-13 17:59:25


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DietPregnancyResearcher Mon 22-Jul-13 17:59:03


My name is Vicki and I am a researcher at Oxford Brookes University. I am interested in dietary intake and alcohol consumption during pregnancy. I am currently recruiting pregnant women to take part in a dietary survey. It takes about 20 minutes to complete and you could win £50! Visit the website to take the survey or for more information

Thank you!

Teaandflapjacks Tue 12-Feb-13 14:31:05

Also on the toxiplasmosis, this is always tested as standard in Germany.

Teaandflapjacks Tue 12-Feb-13 14:28:13

I followed this read with interest. in response to the original question on alcohol - I am currently about 15 weeks and since I tested positive (3 weeks in) I have not touched any. I live in Germany now, where the current advice they give is none at all - they just don't know why it can affect one person with a small amount, and someone else can have more. They cite the latest research when they give you this advice here, and say, if you must, then a half glass every now and then - i.e. at a special occasion. Much less than once or twice a week. But I certainly don't judge others drinking - many of my friends and sister drank or are drinking small amounts in the pregnancies, they found it relaxed them, they also were healthy eaters and kept their sport up - all important factors. Although I have such bad morning sickness i eat what I can, and the idea of wine makes me feel a bit queasy. To be honest, you can get such good alcohol free beer in germany I make myself an alcohol free 'lager top/shandy' when I fancy a drink and am not praying to the porcelain god! I figure, it's now less than 6 months to go, and getting pregnant was really hard for me, I don't want to do anything, however really minor that may impact the little bean, even if that is just me stressing about it - and this stress has an impact.

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 21:57:39


BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 21:46:53

Yeah I know, sorry - hormones are making me a bitch! Yeah thats what I mean, I understand why it is allowed, and it must be a bloody awful decision to have to make so I would never judge either.

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 21:43:57

I wasn't trying to make it personal, I was just answering some posts.

I don't think i could have an abortion but for those women that have a late term abortion I don't think its a decision any if them take lightly and so I would never judge.and I do think the current law is disabilist and that is wrong.

BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 21:35:31

5madthings, FWIW I actually argee with that you are saying - that if you agree with full term abortion for some things, you shouldn't discriminate against others. I personally believe that the abortion law is too high as it stands at 24 weeks, so as you can imagine I don't agree with full term termination. However, I do understand why the law stands as it does, but that doesn't mean I agree with it.

BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 21:23:20

See this is why threads like this do my head in, you always get a few people who can't have a debate without turning it into an argument and getting personal.

Ultimately if someone is going to drink in their pregnancy, then they are best to stick to just a couple of units once or twice a week. There are always going to be people who don't stick to that, just as there are always going to be people taking drugs, smoking, eating undercooked meat and other risky behaviours. Obviously no one can stop them and that is simply life.

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 21:02:42

You said its legal to terminate up to term in exceptional circumstances, that includes when the baby has a disability. It may not means your 'exceptional circumstances' but you didnt say that.

You think abortion to term is shocking, I think if you allow it for some babies, you should allow it for all or you are discriminating against the unborn disabled child.

And you were the one complaining about the thread going off the subject of the op yet you continued yge conversation yourself. If you don't like mention if 'thread police' stop acting like one.

These debates always get emotive but ultimately it comes down to individual choice. I won't do lots of things in pregnancy and I font think I could have an abortion but each woman has the right to make her Owen choices and I won't judge because I am not that woman.

BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 20:50:30

Nowhere did I mention disability, this is why I said don't put words in my mouth. who are you to decide what I deem to be an exceptional circumstance?

And for the record I do not see disability as an exceptional circumstance. Someone with a disability is still a person - again, whole different thread.

And would you quit with the "thread police..."

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 20:40:00

You gave your views on abortion and I commented on them. I was simply continuing the line the thread was currently taking. As far as I am aware mnet has no rules on how threads go and if they can go off on a tangent. As I said there are no thread police and you discussed the issue yourself.

Ask said re drinking the smell made ms feel sick do I didn't, OK think I may have had the odx half a lager in late pregnancy. Ultimately women need to take advice and make an informed decision. And I believe in bodily autonomy so a woman can drink our have an abortion (for whatever reason) if she so wishes.

BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 19:51:27

There are some seriously misguided and rude people on here.

And SGB you are talking about extremism here, and there is extremism in every single ethical matter, it is not all as black and white as you make out.

SolidGoldBrass Mon 11-Feb-13 19:41:01

THe other thing about supporting abortion on demand to term is that it is the only logical position if you support freedom of choice. I pretty much despise the sort of people who say that abortion is 'acceptable' when the pregnancy is the result of rape, for instance. Because rape is not the foetus' fault, is it? Yet people think it's OK to terminate in that case, but not if the woman enjoyed or consented to the incident of PIV that caused the pregnancy. How is that anything other than woman-hating?

SolidGoldBrass Mon 11-Feb-13 19:37:35

Actually, what people seem to be forgetting in all this 'waa, bwaa, you mustn't drink at all in pregnancy otherwise you are a selfish cow who doesn't deserve to have babies at all...' - lots and lots of women get pregnant unexpectedly and don't know that they are pregnant for the first month or so. So, logically, if half a white wine spritzer is such a terrible threat to the unborn (which of course it isn't. All that stuff about 'subtle' problems that we 'don't know about yet' is misogynist bullshit - we have no clue what causes a lot of things, we still can't read a gene chart so let's just say that anything which goes wrong must be the fault of the mother.) then women of childbearing age should be forbidden alcohol. Which would not be reasonable at all given that not all women have children or want them, not all women are fertile at all, and even those who do become mothers spend, on the whole, only a very small proportion of their lives being pregnant.

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 19:33:23

You said exceptional circumstances which includes the baby having a disability. Ultimately that means putting a lesser value on the life of a baby wuth a disability. I think thats wrong it should be one rule for all.

Threads can go off on a tangent and then go back to the origional op or not. But there are no thread police we can discuss and go off in various directions if we want to. I was following on from the last few posts.

educatingarti Mon 11-Feb-13 19:30:19

I'm not sure that talking about "rights" is so helpful here. The op asked about what people thought about drinking in pregnancy. I'm assuming that the op ( and pretty much all the other posters on here) are talking about pregnancies where the child is wanted and loved and has parents that want to do the best for him/her.

In this case, the most recent evidence seems to be that even low levels of alcohol may cause problems for some babies ( especially with particular genetic markers). In this case, surely it is best to err on the side of caution and not drink at all? Why would you want to risk it?

BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 19:25:24

I didn't say anything about it being different for disabled babies. So I would appreciate it if you refrained from putting words in my mouth.

My views on abortion have nothing to do with my views on drinking during pregnancy. And this thread is supposed to be addressing that.

LeBFG Mon 11-Feb-13 19:22:35

Your link educatingarti is the same as the paper I've linked to multiple times on this thread but no one seems to be acknowledging. It is indeed of interest and may change some women's views on drinking during pregnancy (it did so for me too).

I only brought up term abortion on this thread to illustrate the logical conclusion behind the statement that a fetus has no rights.....which everyone seemed to be in agreement with. SGB's case rests on bodily autonomy and complete respect of the woman's rights at the expense of any putative rights of the fetus. However, I think she is mixing this up with health advice that is given. No one is being obliged or compelled or forced to do anything wrt drinking. I don't think it helps to think of women's or fetal rights in the context of prenatal care.

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 19:15:29

And re drinking i didnt realky drink in preg as the smell of alcohol made me feel nauseous but i dont think the odd drink is a problem and the guidlines were ine/two units a week which seemed reasonable. Ulrimately its up to women to di what they feel comfortable with, you dont have to agree with it or do the same yourself. We have bodily autonomy as we shoukd do.

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 19:12:55

But its ok to 'murder' a disabled baby then? They are both human babies with equal value. Either we should be able to terminate any baby up to tetm or none at all. And yes i do think women shoukd have that right. But i dont think many women woukd have a late term abortion simply because they decided at a late stage they didnt want a baby anymore. A woman that puts herself through a late stage termination will have reason to do so.

BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 18:57:46

I know it is legal to terminate up to full term in exceptional circumstances, what I'm saying is, the thought of it being a woman's right to terminate up to full term just because they don't want the baby (which is what someone has said should be the case) utterly shocking! No one should have the right to murder, which is what that is in my eyes.

This is why I don't like being involved in ethical debates, especially when I am new to a site, but I do feel strongly about this. But I do also think we have all deviated away from the original question!

5madthings Mon 11-Feb-13 18:49:42

Woman already have the right to terminate up to term if their lufe is at risk or if the baby is found to have a life limiting condition such as downs syndrome or other conjenital abnormality

This is disabilist imo. If we have abortion to term for a disabled baby then iy should be for all. And yrs i think womem should have that control. Fgs women wont have late term abortions lightly.

BangersAndMashh Mon 11-Feb-13 18:42:34

There is a lot of man-hatng going on here! Wow! Still shocked at the thought that it should be a woman's right to terminate right up to term - that baby is already a human being before they are born - they don't suddenly turn into a baby as they come down the birth canal...

The logic behind some of the things being said horrifies me! Like I said before, people are entitled to believe what they wish, but when that involves meddling with an actual life, well I'm not so sure.

educatingarti Mon 11-Feb-13 17:15:00

this is the summary of the research done by the Universities of Oxford and Bristol that is referred to in the news link above

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