Second time new mums?(34 Posts)
I have just found out that I'm pregnant again (due October). I have a 17 mo DS.
Any other second time Mums around?
Bella... Had to laugh at your story of "baby in the tummy", my DS goes around saying that all the time. He was present at my 12 week scan so we explained it all to him then. He keeps asking everyone else if they have a 'baby in the tummy' and pulls up his top to tell me he has! He hasn't quite mastered the idea that only mummy has the baby in the tummy and that he will instead be the very special big brother!
I too am expecting dc 2 got a positive yesterday! due 17 oct by my dayes. ds is 2.5 feel a little anxious about having a second. ds is quite clingy (mummy's boy ) congratulations all
atrcts we've still got DS1 in our bedroom as he's not a brilliant sleeper. he still spends most nights (at least the second half) in our bed. i keep telling myself that there's lots of time for him to get "better", 4 months are an eternity for a toddler after all, and we'll
jump off cross that bridge when we come to it.
We haven't really told DS yet. He's only 15 months & his only words so far are giggle (tickle), Daddy & duck so I think it'll be a little while yet before he gets to the stage where he might understand! We talk about the baby in front of him though - it's never been a secret!
As far as sleeping arrangements go, DS1 is still in our room in his cot because we have a single bed in what will be his room & no space for the cot. The plan is to co-sleep with DS2, or put him in a moses basket if he's like DS1 & won't sleep unless left alone! For DS1s second birthday we're going to make a big fuss of him being a big boy now & get him a new mattress
because the current one is nearly 30 years old! & bedding & a bed-guard so he can go into his room. DS2 will be 4 months by this point & we'll move the cot back against our bed with the side off & semi-co-sleep with him in his own little extension like we did with DS1! We're going to make a big thing of making DS1 feel like he's a big boy, rather than give the impression that he's being kicked out of his cot/our room in favour of the baby. We may well stick to co-sleeping/moses basket for a month or 2 after we move DS1 out so he doesn't feel replaced!
Can you tell I'm a little concerned about how he'll react to the new baby? He's generally a v placid/accepting child so it'll probably be fine but I guess it's the sort of thing you can't predict!
We've told DS (19m) and this evening he rubbed my belly & said "baby!"
We've bought him a couple of books (Waiting for Baby; Lulu reads to Zeki) and he's always asking us to read them to him, so I'm hopeful he'll be excited & not feel too marginalised hopeful face. He's the only GC at the mo so always centre of attention!
We'll be keeping DS's room as it is and the baby will be in Moses basket in our room. When the time comes we'd put baby in our (current) spare room as no room in DS's room.
Nice to "meet" you all
DS is only 18mo, and not much of a talker yet, so no idea how much he understands, but he loves to stroke and pat my naked belly, and lean his face against it. I don't know if he's heard anything in there, or if he has any idea, but everyone is always talking about the new baby, he was at both scans, and has been to antenatal appts and heard her heartbeat. I've not attempted an 'explanation'.
We need to swap bedrooms over before she's born, am hoping furiously that this won't upset him!
I'm starting to feel the first flutterings of excitement today. But tonight we start the long road to wean DS. I looked into tandem feeding but I just don't fancy it. So I thought I'd start early and give him 8 months to get used to the idea. We might need that.
<eyes DS furiously suckling away>
He's currently on a kingsize mattress on the floor of his nursery. He's been a cot refuser since birth and I've never pushed it. So I play musical beds between my own bed and his mattress - was worried about him falling out of our bed, hence the mattress idea. I do want to set him up a little bedroom and bed before the interloper arrives though. It'll make bugger all difference to how he sleeps (he'll still want to be with me) but at least it'll be a start and visitors will no longer think he sleeps in a squat.
The next big challenge is to persuade him that daddy can cuddle in the night time too. At the moment, it's all about mummy and The Boob. DH isn't rushing to help with that one, funnily enough
I have a 22 month old DS1 with DS2 due end March. This PG has gone by so fast so no time to worry! Just bought a "tandem" pram and I'm more nervous at steering the bloody thing than labour!!
i'm second time new mum baby due in july..... 22 YEARS since last DD was born!!! any one beat that age gap???
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