Punishment for a 5 year old?

[Nicky1306]

Hi,

Just wondering how/if you punish your 5 year olds? My daughter is pushing me to the limits at the moment.
I know there is a lot going on at the moment I'm 34 weeks with DC2, and we've just moved in with DP (not her father), so I am leanient to some extent.

But today she has just defied and disobeyed me and laughed about it when shes doing it!

Any tips on how to nip this in the bud before DC2 comes along? It doesnt help she is allowed to get away with blue murder at her fathers house every other weekend and at my mums house.

Thanks
X

[marshkat]

Hey, i have a naughty 5 year old boy!! We use the naughty step for 5 mins ( but by the time he has had a tantrum it is normally longer as the time doesn't start until he is sat calmly) or his worse punishment, which i have had to use today!! is NO pudding or sweets after dinner. To be honest im 28 weeks and am finding this quite hard now as am exhausted, but im afraid no one else seems to give me an answer, so at least you know your not the only one out there!!!xx

[CanIHaveAPetGiraffePlease]

I found the book, 'how to talk so your children will listen and listen so your children will talk' unbelievably helpful. I found my older daughter a real handful when I was pregnant (and tired and snappy) and the book really helped!

[beckie90]

I have 2 bad ones, I've always gave into them, but you Learn as they grow older that is a bad move because now they just do things cause they know they can. I've tried naughty step naughty corner they just scream house down and get back off, and I spend so long putting them back, but its me that ends up exhausted lol. Whenever I take them to anyone's house I.e my auntys or my mums everyone says I don't know how you cope, you just get used to it but dusnt mean its any less exhausting or draining. Ds1 was good up until ds2 started walking now they just constantly play off against each other to see who can be the naughtiest. So I can totally sympathise with you xx

[Bunnychan]

I'm not a parent but I teach 5-6 year olds. In class, they have 3 warnings then a time out if they play up again. Time out is usually 5 mins sat somewhere near me and boring. When I give the warnings, I make it really clear eg 'this is your first warning', 'I'm going to give you a second warning'. This works so well but I have to be consistent and always use the same method x

[ohcluttergotme]

Where I work we use The Incredible Years by Caroline Webster-Stratton, you can google all her stuff. I now use her strategies with my own lively & mischievous 3 year old and it works great (sometimes) I give my 3 year old a warning & tell him of he doesn't stop his behaviour then he will be having time out. I can then use this same strategy if we are out at someone else's house. Good luck with your dd OP

[elizaregina]

also try rewarding for good behaviour rather than focusing on the bad - say she can have something at the weekends if she is good then when bad - she is in danger of loosing...

keep telling her what a good girl she is - give her behaviour to aspire too...