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Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester and even graduates cuddling there babies!!, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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StateofConfusion Sat 08-Dec-12 22:32:33

New thread before the other fills and locks!

WLmum Tue 11-Dec-12 20:26:09

Oh mrs how horrid for you. Fx it is the bleed they saw and were unconcerned about. Xx

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Tue 11-Dec-12 20:42:23

Oh Mrs that is horrid, hope its what they saw and nothing to worry about. and thanks for the good thoughts of your experience.

I have also been feeling crap all day, and have had 2 naps. I presume i will be up around 3 am again, becoming a ritual, not by choice. lol

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 11-Dec-12 20:47:51

Mrsd, keeping my fingers tightly crossed that it's nothing.

foof, I'm going for a private scan on the 21st but I'm not going to speak to MW/GP until after Christmas, because if something happens over Christmas...that's 4 days they still think I'm pregnant.

MrsReiver Tue 11-Dec-12 21:50:03

MrsD - I've got everything crossed for you!

I've just sat and cried in the bath because DS is growing up. DH is out at work 6 days a week, so most of the time it's just me and DS, we're really close and joined at the happy. Don't get me wrong I am so, so excited and happy to be having this baby, but at the same time it's going to change everything. It will no longer just be the two of us, and I'm sad that's going to end.

StateofConfusion Tue 11-Dec-12 22:30:38

Oh mrsR I remember that feeling, I even remember thinking dd arriving would ruin things, but now I see them play and hear them talk and there relationship is the best gift I've ever given ds, it is a HUGE change but so rewarding. Your allowed to feel this way. I do to in a different way, lifes pretty easy with two, we now occasionally get lie ins, they'll happily play on saturday mornings in the bedrooms while we dose, that's all over again next week...

Countmyblessings Wed 12-Dec-12 00:40:07

MrsD - I have never bled in any of my pregnancies the ones that gave me my dc or the ones that sadly didn't so can't imagine how your feeling! If it continues a becomes heavier I would def go back! But hopefully its old blood just being pushed out!!!!
Mrs R- my gaps between my kids are quite big so I'm glad of the time we spent and get excited to see how each child deals with having to yet again share parents! I guess they have had a few good months to get use to the fact that maybe another baby will be joining the family soon!
Edd - up and coming would of been 17th dec and 28th dec! April was not good months for me to conceive clearly!!!!

WLmum Wed 12-Dec-12 08:27:12

Totally understand that mrs, but I second what state says. It took dd1 and 2 a long time to be at a level where they could play together but now they do, dd1s life is definitely richer for her sister and hopefully for this next one too.

I have mixed feelings all the time about my babies growing up, particularly dd1 who is now at school and having experiences I don't know about or can't influence. On the one hand I'm excited for her and look forward to my relationship with her as she gets older but at the same time, all that scares me silly and I want her back as a tiny!

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 09:14:38

There will be nearly 9 years between this two, and I worry they won't play together but DS has been talking today about teaching the baby to play with Duplo so I'm sure everything will be okay!

I'm feeling better now, but mind you, tonight is his school disco and I'll probably get all emotional when I see him all dressed up stinking of lynx!

StateofConfusion Wed 12-Dec-12 09:44:30

Ah mrsR it will be fine, I'm from a really close family, 6 soon to be 7 (argh) dcs all very close friends, they're 12,8 7,5,4 and 4. My dd is the youngest and she adores the eldest and they play together a lot he's wonderful with her!

Omg ONE week today!

WLmum Wed 12-Dec-12 12:10:14

state your family sounds lovely. mrs I really think it depends on the personalities and temperents of the dcs. There's 5 years betweeny eldest sibling and I, we were never friends or close and still aren't - we hit different life stages at different times. My other sibling is 2.5 yrs older than me and we were v close as kids, til late teens but now not paticularly and now my siblings are quite close in a way they have never been before. When I was at uni I had a friend who's brother was 10 years younger than her and they had a really lovely relationship. Perhaps hadn't played together in the way by sibling and I had but very close and supportive.

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 12:59:15

I'm the oldest of 8 ranging from 30 something right down to 6, and we all get on well in very different ways but I love them all so I don't really know what I'm worrying about grin

Feeling much better today, steam cleaned DS' carpet and cleaned the windows, I'm contemplating wrapping up and picking up all the litter that's blown into the garden.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Wed 12-Dec-12 15:14:51

Just thought I would post scan went well, only 6 weeks so obviously ovulated later than I thought so its definatly a honeymoon baby, all where it's supposed and really strong heartbeat apparently. I am very happy, think I'm in shock have been feeling strange all day. Now have to get thru the next 6 weeks before another scan so I can relax a bit.

WLmum Wed 12-Dec-12 15:29:38

Great news yellow! A honeymoon baby, how lovely!

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 15:40:02

Oh wonderful news Yellow - hopefully with Christmas and New Year, the next 6 weeks will fly in for you x

FoofFighter Wed 12-Dec-12 16:14:17

that's put a smile on my face yellow smile and a honeymoon baby to boot, how romantic smile can we expect a Beckham-esque type name after where you honeymooned??

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Wed 12-Dec-12 16:53:52

ha ha DH wanted to do that the choice would be jordan or petra as we were in egypt and jordan, But I don't really like either, thou Petra would be ok as a middle name if it is a girl.

DH is worried because i was crying after the scan and haven't really said a lot today as its so real now, that i have to look after this little thing all by myself for 9 months.

Just don't think i will relax until 20 weeks.

But am so happy we are going to have a baby.

StateofConfusion Wed 12-Dec-12 17:35:46

Fantastic news yellow smile

I was an only child until I was 17 and my sister arrived, my baby brother is ds' best friend, makes playdates and sleep overs nice and easy ha grin my own ds and dd can be close and good friends or ignore one another for weeks. I'm close to my siblings despite them being my own dcs age group, whereas dp is one of 5, 2 of his brothers he wants nothing to do with, one he speaks to if he happens to see him, but he/we have a good relationship with his sister who he's the biggest age gap between. Being siblings doesn't garuntee a lifelong friendship sadly, we can just hope, because for me I find it quite lonely as all my friends are close to their sisters who are the same age group and I don't have that, or the support from same age siblings, that was my driving force in having 3 children. Despite dp being convinced from his experience siblings are evil ha grin

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Wed 12-Dec-12 18:28:52

on the age gap chat, im the youngest of 3 with a 12 and 9 year age gap with my siblings. the older two that have a 3 year age gap can barely be in the same room as each other and have never liked each other, even as children. where as i have kind of flitted between both of them.

All my cousins are older than me as well and i am closer ages to their children. but get on with all of them. Thou it does mean if everything goes to plan with this baby, it will be in exactly the same situation as me regarding cousins, which is a little rubbish, But DH is an only so wants at least 2 kids and hasnt even thought of cousins since he doesnt have any,

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 18:48:30

My youngest sister and brother are DS' close friends as well.

I have a cousin nearby who I love dearly and her DD is 2 months old, so we're really excited at the thought of them growing up as close as we were when we were little smile

I know there are arguments in favour and against close age gaps, I was just feeling wibbly last night. Thank you for your understanding and kind words - they helped a lot xx

Countmyblessings Wed 12-Dec-12 18:49:12

Age gaps with my siblings is at a 3 year pace which I just thought was funny every 3 years till I was born! Although a few losses before my sis and me!!!
Dc ages are dd18,dd12,ds2 so this will be the smallest gap!
Am excited to see how they get on!!
Funny my oldest looks after her db likes she's the mum!!!!! She adores him!

Countmyblessings Wed 12-Dec-12 18:51:15

Great news with the scan Yellow! Hopefully 6 weeks will fly by! Can't believe I'm now 27 weeks it really did go quickly from my 20 week scan!!

StateofConfusion Wed 12-Dec-12 19:42:24

My cousins are the 12 and 8yos I mentioned so I really am kind of out on my own, but me and my mum are close so its ok.

I'm fascinated to see how ds and dd will be with this baby, ds was 16mo when dd was born and he never really noticed her until she was about 4mo, she was enchanted by him would watch him all day smiling and squealing at whatever he did, he can't remember a time before Lola, I don't think I can most days! Ha, and she is the youngest in my family so she's no idea what's coming, I'm hoping though her 3hrs a day at nursery school will help, she has her time away and soemthing that's just for her and hoping with time dc3 will have a nap after lunch so dd gets some 1 on 1 still, no idea about poor ds as he's at full time school!

This time next week ill have my baby, might need to decide on a boys name!

Mrsd77 Wed 12-Dec-12 21:25:59

Hi. Thanks for your words of comfort. Everything seems to have settled down now and I've had no pain at all. Fx it was the old stuff just shifting. I hate this panicking lark!!

I went back to work today so that has taken my mind off things. Only just in and I've devoured a chip butty. Hoping being starving is a good sign!

There are 9.5 years between my bro and myself. Twas hard when he arrived as I was adored and spoilt!! We've rubbed along well at times and then at others it's been explosive!

Great news in the scan yellow x

backwardpossom Wed 12-Dec-12 22:14:07

Great news on the scan, yellow

I'm sitting here being absolutely battered by the baby. Reassuring, but also sore at times!!

Tomorrow would have been the due date of my miscarried baby. Feeling sad, but also optimistic about this baby, if you know what I mean?

StateofConfusion Wed 12-Dec-12 23:24:26

I know what you mean backward its a year today since my erpc, its a weird feeling, I'm very grateful for this baby today that's all I can conclude.

Off for pre-op bloods tomorrow, things are getting very real.

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