Baby stuff: where to start?(32 Posts)
Can someone tell me what I need to get for Baby? I'm feeling totally overwealmed by the mountains of stuff available. We have to be careful with money so I don't want to buy anything more than we really need. My friend/neighbour is around the same stage as me and they've bought mountains (eg 20 pairs of shoes already and 3 different baby bouncer/swing things ). It's starting to make me very anxious. Baby due in April/May.
So far I've got:
- Second hand bugaboo (new mattress on order)
- a baby bath
- cotton wool
- car seat will be provided by local council here in Sweden
- 3 baby grows
- 5 short sleeved vests
- 5 long sleeved vests for cold nighttime
- pack of bibs
- pack of muslins (don't even know what these are for )
- baby shawl x2
- baby blankets x2
- cardigans x2
- anything else grandma can knit before he arrives
I'm not sure if I'll be BF or FF. I am autistic and have hypersensory issues so I won't know if I can manage BF until I try. If it completely freaks me out, then I'll FF. So I guess I need to prepare for both.
So what else do I need?
A couple of people have mentioned getting a snowsuit. Not sure if its the same in Sweden, but you don't need a snowsuit in the summer in the uk, a cardigan and a blanket will do. If you think Lo will need to be wrapped up more, have a look at baby hoodies as they are so, so much easier to put on than coats or snowsuits
i think you're pretty good already! you def need nappies tho. how about sleeping arrangements? we found a second hand toddler bed (if your budget stretches that far) where one sides comes off and pushed it up to our bed. that'll hopfully save us another big investment in the forseeable future. we found sleeping bags invaluable because DS moves around a lot, but blankets do the job just as well i guess. especially in the beginning when they're not that mobile.
personally, i would add another 15 muslins but that's because DS was such a sickly baby and we easily went through 10 of these a day. also, a few more longsleeved vests and babygrows. but all of this can be bought at a later stage if you turn out to need it desperately. ebay is excellent for clothes bundles for newborns!
all the best!
I'm also due in March and haven't bought anything yet. Do things like pushchairs/prams and cots etc get reduced in the January sales?
I haven't bought anything at all yet for her and she's due on the 8th of April, so I really seem to be behind and need to get her some stuff now. Hopefully get her some nice stuff after Christmas.
All I do have is a knitted toy and knitted blanket that my sister has kindly made for her.
Oh and if you do buy sleep suits, vests etc for your first, its worth getting them in neutral colour so that you can use them with number 2
I think it's also thinking about what is worth investing in for the future.
We didn't bother with a bath, DD baths/showered with us, meant life was much easier. We did invest in some soft baby towels and flannels. We won't be bothering again. The odd time we've needed a wash tub, we use the washing up bowl.
How likely are you to be able to pop to the shops if you find BF too much for you. If your local supermarket is going to have the items in stock, it isn't worth rushing out and spending money you may not use. I picked a steam steriliser second hand at a later stage. However DD was finnicky about what teats she would accept so we tried a few different bottles until we found the one that worked, so it's not worth investing in a large stash in case they don't get on with them.
I think you will need more vests and sleepsuits, I picked mine up second hand mostly, eBay or nearly new sales. Snowsuits are brilliant and cosy and keep them all snug and warm.
What is the second hand market like in Sweden, do you have family you can have stuff sent to in the UK who will forward it on to you? Would they collect something if it was local? I save searches in eBay for local items to collect and I have made some really great purchases this way.
I also bought my sling second hand, but I also bought a moby wrap at full price, but was a great investment for me, I have an awkward bodyshape for most slings and great big boobies that get in the way.
I agree little and often does the trick. Second hand really doesn't hurt, DD has some gorgeous second hand stuff that really no-one would know was second hand. Except I love to tell everyone about my savvy bargain hunting skills.
Shoes are pointless until they are walking, in my opinion. DD survived in socks/tights for quite a while as she had tiny feet, even once she started walking.
I found a book called 'What to Buy for Your Baby' by Caroline Cosgrove to be really useful. I thought it gave quite balanced advice about what you really need, what is useful but not essential, and what you really don't need.
When my Ds was born I had 5 sleep suits, nappies and a car seat and a blanket.
On day 5 I added a £65 McClaren.
Not bought anything either, and due February. I'm waiting for the January sales.
Not got any yet so no help there, but just wanted to say I'm due early March and have precisely nothing (well, have ordered a pushchair but only because the one I wanted was on offer). I've been researching and planned exactly what to get, but don't see the point in buying it too soon and cluttering up the house. Most people I know in real life didn't get much before the 7 month mark. Your neighbour sounds like she might have gone a teensy bit overboard Don't panic and take your time!
I'm due around the same time, and I have zero for the baby or me! I'd better get a move on!
It sounds like you're nearly there already. 20 pairs of shoes is utter madness!
I know what you mean. We've kind of been doing the same but putting it into a seperate account just in case there's anything in the sales after Xmas.
10 I'm just really worried about finding the money to buy everything in one go. I don't work so it all has to come out of my husband's pay cheque. A little bit each month doesn't seem quite so scary.
nora you're far more organised than me! I'm on the same board as you and only got a Moses basket so far!
DS is 17 days old. I use:
Sleep suits and vests - 10-15 to allow for washing
Fleece snow suit (I'm in the south of England, you might need something heavier for Sweden)
2 woolly hats, 2 pairs woolly bootees
15-20 nappies (reusable so again allows for washing and drying)
Stretchy wrap sling
Moses basket for downstairs sleeps, crib upstairs. Sheet on each, plus 2 blankets that move with him.
Car seat with small blanket
Push chair with small blanket
Muslins for face wiping, catching leaky milk, head support in sling, padding nasty plastic public changing tables etc
Cotton wool in vast quantities for cleaning at nappy changes
Baby bath and sponge (bathed weekly, they don't get dirty apart from mouth and bum)
Ds was 6lb2oz so everything was too big - socks keep his feet in his sleep suit and sleeves can be rolled back. We managed until my mum could get to the shop for Tiny Baby sizes (he's still only just in new born). So if i were you I'd get bigger then have a relative pick up the right size on their way to visit if baby surprises you.
I'm breast feeding so can't advise on bottles, I'm afraid
Steriliser, bottles with slow flow teats.
Sheets for both/either
You will need far more vests/babygros than you think..some babies are very possetty (sick) and so will need a change if clothes 3/4 x per day.
You don't need special baby toiletries, but wash cloths and towels just for baby use are a good idea IMO, ESP as they get older and may have stomach bugs etc
Nappies if using, nappy sacks, bum cream
Nice colourful blanket for baby to lie on/tummy time.
Erm.....think that's it!
I didn't use many bibs, mine were just never sick and bibs are easy to get hold of.
When I said clothes I didn't necessarily mean proper clothes I just couldn't be bothered to write everything separate
I think disposable knickers are a no no. People on here advised me to get them in a bigger size to allow for pads but I found them a waste of time. They just didn't work for me.
The other thing is bibs you need a lot of these. It's crazy how many you use.
You'll find that once your baby is here you'll get into your own way of doing things. I've dressed my son most days in clothes from about week 2. I didn't every day but most days I did. I didn't find it any harder or fiddler that baby gros/ sleep suits.
Hope all this info helps.
I was planning on Baby sleeping in the carrycot and buying a cot a bit later when he needs it. I did read on here that sleeping in the carrycot overnight is not recommended but I asked in the shop where I've ordered the mattress. They were perplexed and knew nothing about it so rang Bugaboo themselves to check. Bugaboo were also perplexed by this advice and hadn't heard it before. They said 'of course it's safe, that's what they're designed for' .
Lots of really useful stuff here. Thank you so much.
I bf both of mine and never bought a tube of lanisoh. Perhaps wait until Lo arrives and see how you get on.
Congratulations on your pg Nora.
I had my first one at about that time of year, its such a lovely time to have a baby, in fact am a bit .
Think you have bought plenty already. I too didn't know which way I would feed so bought absolutely nothing to do with feeding as I didn't want to waste my money. If you do decide to bf some breastpads and a couple of nursing bras would be useful, but unless you live in the middle of nowhere you will be able to get these after Lo arrives, same with formula and bottles. Find out too where your local bfing support is.
There are a couple of things I would add to your list, you need to think about where Lo will sleep and what bedding you will use. Mine slept in a Moses basket with a sheet on the mattress and they had those baby sleeping bags.
How about getting some nappies. Don't get too many though as different babies suit different brands and you don't want to buy loads only to find they leak.
I'd also suggest Babycalming by Caroline deacon. It's a great book on babies and is good whichever way you feed your baby. Only wish I'd read it before having my dc1.
Get a sling, I found mine invaluable and stock your freezer up with lots of scrummy meals.
I think everything else is pretty much ok, they don't need much at first, just you! You will probably get lots of presents anyway, my cousin gave birth recently and was given 5 baby gyms.
Don't feel bad because your neighbour is able to buy lots for their baby and you aren't. Your Lo won't care what other babies have, all your Lo will want is your love and attention
2nd hand baby sales are great for getting really cheap clothes. Yo sound like you have everything you need at the moment. You can always add more after baby is born.
For my last baby I had;
pram (2nd hand)
moses basket (given to me)
bedding (2nd hand)
Terries nappies and washable bottome/face wipes
Plastic stacking drawers (for clothes, bedding and nappies)
Supermarket packet of 3 babygrows, 3 vests, hat and gloves
Stuff for you though;
You can't really tell how many clothes and how much bedding you need until baby arrives. Some are really sickey and go through loads of clothes and blankets, others are fine and you just need enough to have clean stuff out of the wash.
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