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winkle1990 Mon 19-Nov-12 18:34:31

hi everyone i have literally just this morning found out im roughly 6 weeks pregnant, just over a week ago i broke up with the father because he was controlling, accusing and wouldn't give me any breathing space, after he left he was very abusive and threatening via txt message to me and my mum. Needless to say my mum detests him now and says if i get back with him she dont know if she can stick around. and that i am not allowed to tell him about the baby because it will be another way of him controlling me, so the one person who should be supporting me wont be ( he already has 4 other children and he is 23) Also I already have a daughter from a previous relationship who has just turned two. i feel like im at a loss, im lonely without him and was tempted to give him a second chance but after what my mum, iv also gone on his facebook and seen he has sent about 15 different girls messages with his number to txt, im absolutely devastated i dont know what to do at all, i dont see how i can go through the pregancy and have this baby without telling him but if i do i run the risk of losing my mum, so far i feel as if its going to do nothing but cause problems, whatever i choose im at a loss, as my mum says me and the babies deserve so much better than him which is true but im so overwhelmed by doing it all on my own (before i found out me and my mum were making plans about me and my daughter moving back in with mum and today finding out im pregnant she has decided she doesnt think she will be able to cope with it) i really dont know what to do i just feel so alone iv got no one who understands. i see what my mum is saying as it is quite true, she calls him a mother's worst nightmare, but i cant help that i love him and miss him and want him to be there for our baby, i just dont know what to do :'(

TinkyPeet Mon 19-Nov-12 18:40:19

I'm sorry I don't have much advice but didn't want to read and run, perhaps look for a counsellor to talk to and see if you can work out your next step? I really do hope you find the right path xxx

butterflyexperience Mon 19-Nov-12 18:53:58

Can you post in relationships?
They are very good at giving advice for this sort of thing in there smile

winkle1990 Mon 19-Nov-12 18:59:41

Thank you both i am booking an appointment with the doctor tomorrow and i will repost in relationships now smile xxx

He has the right to know he is the father, but if he's abusive your DEFIANTLY better of without him. Focus on the future :-)

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