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DH has some sort of illness with very fast onset and now I'm terrified...

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curiousgeorgie Thu 15-Nov-12 23:37:14

My DH is never ill.

Yesterday and the day before he was shivering, but boiling hot, severe headache, nausea... And today he keeps saying his hands and feet hurt... and it's become more and more severe until he's literally hobbling around and his fingers have a sort of red rash of spots that look like heat bumps on them.

He's not a baby so he must seriously feel like crap to be acting the way he is...

He said he can't miss work tomorrow as he has to process someone's time sheets for them (a contractor who is away) as a favour and so can't see a doctor.

I'm 8 weeks pregnant after 6 miscarriages and I'm terrified he's going to give me something... This sounds completely selfish I know but so much has gone wrong I just can't think of anything else.

JustFabulous Fri 16-Nov-12 17:27:56

I don't need to be made to feel better. I mearely posted my opinion.

MikeLitoris Fri 16-Nov-12 17:13:07

Fgs dont nit pick just I think my point was clear enough.

If it makes you feel better how about i change my post to 'I'm almost positive you will be fine'

Makes a world of difference doesnt it? hmm

CindySherman Fri 16-Nov-12 17:09:32

You do need further advice for yourself OP.

JustFabulous Fri 16-Nov-12 16:59:53

ML, how can you say there is a tiny risk and then that you are positive the OP will be fine. You can't possibly know that so while you are right to air your concerns I think then saying that kind of negates them.

MikeLitoris Fri 16-Nov-12 16:32:10

I dont want to appear to be scaremongering but it isn't entirely safe for pg women.

Not only is a shitty illness to have there is also a tiny risk of mc.

I went through recurrent mc so i do understand your anxieties.

I am positive you will be absolutely fine but i couldnt not say anything.

emeraldgirl1 Fri 16-Nov-12 15:40:57

Glad to hear it OP! Hope you can relax now!! Poor old DH, but at least no harm to you/baby

curiousgeorgie Fri 16-Nov-12 15:36:48

Yes, it's hand foot and mouth quite severely, but thankfully not harmful to pregnant women apparently!

So relieved!! grin

MikeLitoris Fri 16-Nov-12 15:21:13

Any news op?

3littlefrogs Fri 16-Nov-12 14:12:49

He needs to tell them about your pregnancy and your history so that they can give advice.

curiousgeorgie Fri 16-Nov-12 13:28:14

He's there now waiting to be seen.

I think he just feels a bit silly going to A&E when it doesn't feel strictly like an emergency...

I'm so much happier now he's gone though!

JustFabulous Fri 16-Nov-12 13:26:33

Why would he ring for advice and not take it? He might not want the hassle but he has a baby to think of now.

cleoismycat Fri 16-Nov-12 13:22:48

has he been?

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Fri 16-Nov-12 10:24:29

Why doesn't he want to go to A&E? Men! Can't he understand the gravity of the matter?confused

Popumpkin Fri 16-Nov-12 10:23:45

Oh, and after I had managed to get an appointment for DD last week (after 3 days of phoning at 8.30am) - I noticed a board in the waiting room asking people to remember to cancel their appointments if they no longer need them as 68 people had missed appointments last week and the appointments went to waste! That does make me angry, everyone must know how hard it is to get seen, why would you not cancel so that someone else can have it?

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Fri 16-Nov-12 10:23:01

Think you need to speak to a doctor right away and live with family or friends for a while...

Popumpkin Fri 16-Nov-12 10:20:51

I would agree with what everyone else is saying - just make sure he sees someone today. It is most probably nothing to worry about but with your own medical history you obviously don't want to be taking any chances.

3littlefrogs - mainly the elderly who book an appointment for 1,2,3 weeks time etc. on their way out - just in case they need one hmm. I was a Drs Receptionist for a few years & it was quite a common thing to do.

curiousgeorgie Fri 16-Nov-12 10:14:13

I don't have a midwife at the moment, I'm under a consultant and having viability scans but won't get my green notes till next week.

We're already staying at my parents while our house sale goes through... I might have to send him to his parents. I feel like a total drama queen but I can't help worrying.

He's going to wait till midday to see if he gets a cancellation at his surgery then go to A&E... Fingers crossed its no big deal.

Thanks everyone.

Hope he's been seen op nd you've seen your midwife

3littlefrogs Fri 16-Nov-12 09:17:14

You need to think about going to stay with a friend or relative if you possibly can.

3littlefrogs Fri 16-Nov-12 09:16:05

Have you got a walk in centre anywhere near you?

Some A&Es have a WIC on site.

It seems to be virtually impossible to get a GP appointment these days. sad

What I want to know is, who are all the people who do manage to book up all the available appointments, and how do they do it?

I agree with everyone else, it is really important that your DH sees a doctor asap.

Jojoba1986 Fri 16-Nov-12 09:10:45

Definitely not if that's what NHS direct said to do! Kick him out of the house & tell him not to come back until he's seen a doctor!

curiousgeorgie Fri 16-Nov-12 09:02:18

NHS direct told him to go to A&E and he said he didn't want to do that so she said to get an appointment with his GP. He's called them this morning and he can't get an appointment for love nor money.

Is it stupid to go to A&E?

FrameyMcFrame Fri 16-Nov-12 00:52:10

Sounds like he has influenza. Rash and joint pain very common. Flu can be a very serious and debilitating illness.

shinyblackgrape Fri 16-Nov-12 00:04:52

OP. - found this impn NHS website link. Thankfully you will see risk us v low. However, he does need to call NHS 24 now.

I don't think you will have had your booking in app yet? If not, google the number for your local maternity triage. You could give them a buzz and just get some reassurance re you. If you have been booked in, number is at front of notes.

curiousgeorgie Thu 15-Nov-12 23:51:36

Thanks everyone... Feel like my panic is a bit more justified!!

He's calling NHS direct.

Is hand, foot & mouth dangerous when pregnant? I'm totally clueless I thought it more of a children's illness...

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