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Fed up, is this normal?

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StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Wed 07-Nov-12 08:43:54

Ive woken up this morning in a huge grump. This is happening more and more. Am 31+4 with DC2, have GDM for which i have to finger prick test 6 times a day (3 meals) an inject with insulin once. My levels are still not perfect, in my last PG i ended up on 2 clicks of insulin morning and night, im currently on 14 just at night, and have clinic today where I imagine that they will up the evening dose and perhaps start a morning one.

My DS has had a foul cough, and DP is working nights so despite being signed off, im Still having to get up 3 days a week to get him ready and to nursery (which is great as it gives me a break), obviously this isn't anyones fault but i cant get back to sleep after so my day still starts circa 7.

Im feeling tired and irritable, DP and I had a "discussion" about him tidying up after himself and that lasted all of two days...he does it when asked but asking pisses me off. DS is being a bit of a whinge and as D-Day approaches his behaviour is getting more erratic, although its probably more normal 3 year old behaviour, im running low on patience and find myself snapping then I feel like an evil cow.

DS finishes nursery in a couple of weeks to start a (much more local,and much better "fit") playschool. Im worried about this as he doesn't speak well (under SALT) and I just desperately want him to be happy.

I am signed off until end of next week, and my doc was willing to sign me off until the week following so I could go straight into my hol before ML but I stupidly said not to.. Now I'm a bit stressed about having to go back to work for a week even though I know its unlikely as my GP is very understanding.

I find myself quite anxious much of the time and wonder how much is normal, ive always been an anxious person. I have an appointment with another GP thurs who specialises in MH / anxiety to talk about things. I worry i'll be labelled From this and they will take away my boys? I dont think im depressed just stressed.

I dont really know why ive written this all down, it probably doesnt convey all thats brought me to this point (in brief bereavements, infertility issues, work issues, money etc) and I know deep down that im probably normal - I still go out every day still socialise DS is well looked after happy etc and attend all my (many) appointments. Maybe im just tired.

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Wed 07-Nov-12 11:24:14

BUMP

WendyWillow Wed 07-Nov-12 17:01:01

Hi,

It's perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed and down sometimes. TBH you sound very tired and overemotional, which you have every right to be. I've had a course of counselling via the GP a couple of years ago due mainly to infertility issues and I found it a massive help, they don't judge and they won't label you. Try to spend some time doing a few things you enjoy, even though you are a mother, a wife and currently an incubator to a baby you still need to have some time to just do something for you personally or you will go crazy.

X

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Wed 07-Nov-12 17:37:18

Thanks wendy helps to know I'm not the only person to feel a bit off! Since being signed off ive done a few things, gone swimming, dyed my hair etc, which has made me feel better. Im going to go into town next week and meet with friends whilst DS is at nursery which should help too.

Counselling would interest me I think, not sure if it would help but both my parents have died, my mum when i was ten, and that caused upheaval which i dont think i ever dealt with?!

Anyway im glad to know it doesn't sound like totally unreasonable behaviour, hopefully the GP will help x

Mummyof3tobe Wed 07-Nov-12 19:40:48

It sounds like you are dealing with an awful lot. I don't really have much advice except to say be kind to yourself and ask for the help you need.

Pregnancy is hard work, even with none of the other issues you are dealing with, so you sound like you are doing pretty well just to be able to keep going and putting one foot in front of the other!

Best of luck....

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Wed 07-Nov-12 19:55:11

Thanks smile im glad im not just a whinger i certainly feel like one the last few days!

Hopefully a good nights sleep will help

WendyWillow Wed 07-Nov-12 20:03:41

If you feel you need to talk about your parents to someone then you need to. I saw the counsellor (referred by the GP) as I was so angry and depressed with the world due to the unfairness of infertility but I honestly ended up talking about all sorts, parents, religion, work, even our cats! It's your time and you can talk about what you want. It's often just good to air things with someone not connected to you that listens without judging.

As Mummyof3tobe says, be kind to yourself and ask for help and take the time you need for yourself.

xx

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Wed 07-Nov-12 20:14:53

That certainly sounds like it would be helpful, hopefully the GP will be understanding, I genuinely think it would be good for my MH xx

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