Hi,
I'm currently 23w and having a lovely pregnancy so far. This is my first so have never experienced it before, was expecting it to be scary and really hard work but so far, so good.
My issue is that I would love to try and have as natural a birth as possible. Obviously if something medical prevents that then so be it but I'm looking into ways of helping myself to be as relaxed as possible and able to manage it for as long as possible without medication.
What I'm worried about is my DH. He is lovely but I am pretty sure that he has some kind of attention deficit disorder. He's very active, impulsive and easily bored and quite frankly, he needs entertaining pretty much all the time as he doesn't cope well with boredom and will often end up doing silly things if he's bored which then frustrates me as there's then a resulting mess/breakage to clear up. For instance, last night we went to a restaurant for a meal, after we'd ordered I expected to sit and chat but he got bored and ended up studying the kids menu and then begging me to test him on it to see how well he's memorised it.
I do talk to him about labour and am trying to get through to him just how calm I need it to be, and that it may be boring for him but please could he put me first and focus on helping me where possible. He then mentioned he'd be in charge of music...as long as he got to skip tracks he found boring (grrr!). He can't sit down long enough to read a book - surprising as he's a highly educated man but he just can't concentrate enough. TV is a nightmare as he flicks from channel to channel. Then he said he'd bring along a pack of cards so we could play that - I said ok as long as he stopped when I needed to, but he said he couldn't stop in the middle of a series of games!!
I think part of this is me panicking but I just want to be able to concentrate on getting through the pain. I mentioned I was interested in hypno birthing and e laughed at me and said that wasn't going to work because he'd get too bored if I decided to 'zone out' and not include him.
Please tell me he won't be like this when the time comes and that he'll magically turn into the most supportive husband ever...please?!
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Worried about DH during labour...weird, sorry!
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spg1983 · 30/10/2012 08:38
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