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Someone else sharing your pregnancy

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Jess8080 Wed 24-Oct-12 07:14:11

Hi ladies I'm pretty flustered about this girl that I stopped talking to for close to a year now. I have just entered my second trimester and have not formally announce our news because of a miscarriage that happened at 12 weeks a few years ago. The only ones that know hush hush are my immediate family and my inlaws. A few weeks ago she sent me a text to congratulate me on my pregnancy. I was baffled so I asked her how she knew I was pregnant and she replied 'sorry I can't say'. I found out from a friend that she had asked her if I was pregnant a month an a bit ago and a couple of weeks ago visited her to say that her source confirmed that I was pregnant. She is so nosy and has to be the first person to always knows the news. It was so peaceful when i stopped talking to her. Why won't she leave me alone? Over reacting? What to do...

sarahpip Wed 24-Oct-12 09:28:01

I had the same. I have only ever stopped speaking to one person - mainly because she started being very backhanded with the things she said to me and it was just getting me upset. I retreated and when about 20 weeks preg she got in contact. I felt the same as you that it was
Just her bring nosey and not genuine so I didn't respond to her. I do feel a little uncomfortable about this however we had not spoken in over a year. Personally I would ignore the questions if it's someone that you don't really talk to - the less hassle for you at the mo the better.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Wed 24-Oct-12 12:13:05

I had similar. Funny how these people always 'can't say' or 'I've forgotten'! I was furious - it was a work colleague I am not close to and I have no idea who told her. I didn't tell many people and I thought I'd made it clear it wasn't to be public knowledge yet confused
My reaction was to say Well if you remember who told you , tell them to keep their mouths shut, it's not public knowledge yet!.
I'm not sure there's much you can do with someone like that except tell her that she's upset you and try to find the source. Tell your family you don't want information passed on to her because of how she is?

Jess8080 Wed 24-Oct-12 22:10:52

I was pretty pissed when she said 'she can't say' that I told her she had no right. I saw her social media stat and she basically called me a sad case and a negative one at that. Very funny since I stopped talking to her because she was a negative gossip. I can handle not contacting her again but I'm just worried about reacting if I bump into her in a public place. I guess there will always be someone trying to rain on your parade. Thanks ladies

AlisonDB Wed 24-Oct-12 22:57:40

She sounds like a bitch!
If i where you i wouldnt rise to her remarks, or snidy comments,
I stopped speaking / fell out with someone i had been fairly close to, (found out they had been saying shitty things about me)
It was awkward at 1st but our kids go to the same school and i find the best thing to do is walk past her and not gain eye contact or say anything to her, i act like she is just a parent at the same school, nothing more nothing less,
At 1st she used to walk in my direction on the playground but after being blanked several times she no longer tries to make contact!

Good luck and Congratulations, dont let her spitefulnes spoil your preg!
;-)

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