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2 friends pregnant....just me left.

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cupcake78 Sun 30-Sep-12 17:45:48

We started ttc last month. This week I've found out two of my best friends are pregnant with their 2nd babies. I'm so pleased for them, they have been trying for months. Sadly im also gutted as I want to be. Feel like such a bad person sad

EdMcDunnough Sun 30-Sep-12 17:47:36

Don't be gutted. It is natural to feel like this in a situation such as you describe.

Fwiw I am pg and would gladly swap places with you, I hate it! smile

I know that doesn't help. Be kind to yourself x

EdMcDunnough Sun 30-Sep-12 17:48:01

I mean, don't think you're a bad person. It is natural to feel upset.

Iggly Sun 30-Sep-12 17:48:26

You've only been trying for a month? Yes it's hard but it's early days!

halloweeneyqueeney Sun 30-Sep-12 17:49:00

you're not a bad person for feeling that way, most of us have at some point!

what makes you a good or bad friend is how you ACT towards them, not how you feel about not being pregnant too! x

halloweeneyqueeney Sun 30-Sep-12 17:50:05

Iggly I don't think you can rationalise it down to months TTCing, I've felt irrationally wildly jealous of pregnant friends when I've not even been TTCing and have been using double contraception!

FluffyJawsOfDoom Sun 30-Sep-12 17:51:16

With all the respect in the world, you need to relax - if you only started ttc last month and you're "gutted" you're not yet pg, how will you feel if you're still ttc in 6? It can be a long and hard road for some and there's plenty of time for guttedness yet - chill, and make the most of all the things you won't be able to do in a few months smile

Dogsmom Sun 30-Sep-12 17:57:25

It's a natural feeling, it took us 3 years to conceive and in the meantime our neighbours on both sides had babies plus various other people we knew and I felt envious too, you aren't a bad person at all, it doesn't mean you aren't happy for them.

cupcake78 Sun 30-Sep-12 18:11:14

I'm really happy for them! We've had full girly chats about their pregnancies so far, getting excited about the planning etc. They both know we were trying. I felt I had to tell them as I've been pregnant 4 times already (only 1 ds) but fell on the first month each time! Didn't want to try without them saying it was ok in case I got pregnant before them and look what I've done lolgrin. Sod's law strikes againwink

My expectations are maybe a bit high considering I'm older now but my history suggests we're very lucky at getting pregnant it's keeping them that's a bit more tricky for mesad

Iggly Sun 30-Sep-12 20:40:19

hallowen I was trying to say its early days yet so try not to be so upset. Who knows their story in terms of TTC (I conceived quickly with my first but my second took longer after having a MC).

Iggly Sun 30-Sep-12 20:41:50

cupcake, see now you say you've been pregnant four time before but only one DS. Now I understand why you feel sad. I felt crap after my MC and other people getting pregnant even though I had only been trying one month after the MC!

wishiwasonholiday Sun 30-Sep-12 20:45:51

Ttc has to be one of the worst waiting games ever we are ttc number 3 but dp works away for a fortnight at a time, this month I think we've missed it by a couple of days. we were ttc ds2 for 6 months and it happened the month I thought we had no chance! Hope you get your bfp soon.

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