Planning second pregnancy when first baby only 6m

[shellshock7]

Hi,

When I was pregnant with DS, I joined a lovely thread for people who were pregnant after miscarriage which saw me thru the pregnancy.

DH and I have decided to try again next cycle and DS is only 6m old...I was wondering if there were any threads going for people planning pregnancy / pregnant with a small gap between DC?

I had a quick search and couldn't find anything so if anyone is part of a current thread could they let me have a link.....or if not, is anyone else interested in starting one up?

[Jakeyblueblue]

Hi, this might not apply but we have a ttc whilst breastfeeding thread. All of our little ones are under 18months. Feel free to join us in obsessing about our fertile signs!

[Notgrownupinmyhead]

Go for it. Ds2 was 8wks old when ds3 was conceived. If you feel ready and up for it then go for it!

Good luck!!

[shellshock7]

Thanks jakey will have a look

Wow notgrownup, can I ask whether you found the close gap between DC2 & 3 harder than (I am guessing) the longer gap first time? We have defo decided to go for it, but I am a bit nervous about being pregnant/giving birth again so soon.....and mostly about the effect on DC1?

[terilou87]

i have 11 months between ds1 born 05/2007 and ds2 born 04/2008 i didnt find it much different from having one. reason i think is i was still changing nappies, making bottles ect there was never a gap. and ds2 was very good i hardly knew i had her. then when ds2 was 6 months i fell preg again and again it wasnt that much difference id be lying if i said it isnt hard at times but its something you just get on with. if you feel ready and youve got the support around you go for it, goodluck

[Notgrownupinmyhead]

I second what Terilou said. So far Im finding it not as bad as I thought with the 2 babies but it only gets a bit stressful when they're both demanding my attention but one (the elder) has to wait a bit.

Having an 8 week gap between giving birth and getting pg again wasn't a great idea but it was a surprise and I would've liked a bit longer between the 2 mostly so I could recover properly.

[4kidsplusbump]

I have several small gaps - and currently pregnant with DC5.

I had 11 months between DC's 1 and 2. Then gap of 3 years between DC2 & DC3. 13 months between DC3 & DC4 - and DC5 is due when DC4 will be about 14 months! I have never found looking after 2 babies close together hard - I have found the pregnancies much harder though - and I have to admit I am nearly on my knees having 3 pregnanies within 3 years! If you can put up with the pregnancies though I have found that having small age gaps is brilliant as they get older - as they are still at similar stages and interested in the same things, which you don't get with bigger age gaps.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

[shellshock7]

Thanks everyone, it's good to hear real accounts of things not being much harder...I am mentally preparing myself for a barrage of 'was it planned' closely followed by 'are you mad' if we are successful!

The pregnancy/birth is a worry as I struggled thru PGP (relatively mild) with my first one and the labour took a few weeks to recover from fully and i won't have the luxury of doin nothing all day this time!

[shellshock7]

Good luck with DC5 4kids