Wow notgrownup, can I ask whether you found the close gap between DC2 & 3 harder than (I am guessing) the longer gap first time? We have defo decided to go for it, but I am a bit nervous about being pregnant/giving birth again so soon.....and mostly about the effect on DC1?
i have 11 months between ds1 born 05/2007 and ds2 born 04/2008 i didnt find it much different from having one. reason i think is i was still changing nappies, making bottles ect there was never a gap. and ds2 was very good i hardly knew i had her. then when ds2 was 6 months i fell preg again and again it wasnt that much difference id be lying if i said it isnt hard at times but its something you just get on with. if you feel ready and youve got the support around you go for it, goodluck
I second what Terilou said. So far Im finding it not as bad as I thought with the 2 babies but it only gets a bit stressful when they're both demanding my attention but one (the elder) has to wait a bit.
Having an 8 week gap between giving birth and getting pg again wasn't a great idea but it was a surprise and I would've liked a bit longer between the 2 mostly so I could recover properly.
I have several small gaps - and currently pregnant with DC5.
I had 11 months between DC's 1 and 2. Then gap of 3 years between DC2 & DC3. 13 months between DC3 & DC4 - and DC5 is due when DC4 will be about 14 months! I have never found looking after 2 babies close together hard - I have found the pregnancies much harder though - and I have to admit I am nearly on my knees having 3 pregnanies within 3 years! If you can put up with the pregnancies though I have found that having small age gaps is brilliant as they get older - as they are still at similar stages and interested in the same things, which you don't get with bigger age gaps.
Thanks everyone, it's good to hear real accounts of things not being much harder...I am mentally preparing myself for a barrage of 'was it planned' closely followed by 'are you mad' if we are successful!
The pregnancy/birth is a worry as I struggled thru PGP (relatively mild) with my first one and the labour took a few weeks to recover from fully and i won't have the luxury of doin nothing all day this time!