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5 weeks and so scared of miscarriage!!

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katesav87 Mon 24-Sep-12 19:04:02

Hi, just want to talk to people to try and make myself feel abit better. I am 5 weeks pregnant and am petrified I am going to have a miscarriage or have an etopic. I have had 1 missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and 2 miscarriages at 5 weeks. I have one daughter who is 4 and I was so I'll with hyperemisis with her. I am now 5 weeks again and am so scared its all I think about. And I have heard u usually get hyperemisis with all ur pregnancy but I only have had slight nausea with this one and now scared its a bad sign that this pregnancy is going to fail. I am a huge worrier and suffer from anxiety. Just don't know wat to do with myself. My boobs r sore and have grown I'm always going to the toliet so so tired aswell but have this throbbing pain on one side of my abdomen tonight which is my head means it could be etopic

Ellypoo Mon 24-Sep-12 19:10:57

Didn't want to read & run, so sorry about your mc's, there's no wonder you're worried.

Do you have an EPAU nearby? Your GP should be able to refer you for any early scan to at least set your mind AF rest about ectopic if nothing else, with your history.

Take care & try not to worry - not easy, I know!

katesav87 Mon 24-Sep-12 19:14:37

They won't give me an early scan. The Docter said I have to wait until my 12 weeks even tho he is fully aware of my history. I'm just paranoid. I'm now paying for a private scan to put my mind at rest but that's not until a week Wednesday. Thank you for your message. I am resting. My problem is I have a very strong mind so if something pops into my head I can't seem to shift it. :-(

SammyFirstBaby Mon 24-Sep-12 19:37:31

Some epu's are walk in so your doctor won't need to send you
Try that!

terilou87 Mon 24-Sep-12 20:43:20

aww hun, try not to worry too much. you dont get hyperemisis in every pregnancy. iv had 1 boy which i did have bad sickness with and two girls which i had nothing wrong at all, didnt even know i was preg other than the huge bumps and again this time round im having a boy and sickness back again. iv also had a missed m/c at 12 weeks and 1 m/c at 10 weeks with twins. so like you i was terrified that everything was going wrong. i had pains in my side aswell this time round. i went to a&e who took me to epu to scan for ectopic it turned out to be a cyst on my ovary that was sore. and here i am 33+5 so its not all bad news good luck and try to keep calm, stress is no good for you x x x

orangeone Mon 24-Sep-12 21:06:20

Hi - can I join in And share support to deal with my anxiety too?
I'm 4+2 on my 6th pregnancy after 4 MC (1 MMC, 2 EP, including 1 rupture, and 1 early MC at 6 weeks). I have a DD aged 2.3 through IVF also.

Am totally paranoid this pregnancy is going to fail and am on so many drugs to support the pregnancy it's crazy! However, trying to take one day at a time till I get a scan at 6 weeks. Just waiting to have bad news and am symptom spotting. Also have pain in left side so paranoid another EP.
Can we hand hold in an unmumsnetty way over the next few weeks till we are out of the danger zone as I know just how you are feeling!!..

lotsofcheese Mon 24-Sep-12 21:57:42

Can I join in? I have DS age 3.75 - since then 1 molar pregnancy causing m/c then a mmc at 11.5 weeks (after seeing the heartbeat at 8+5).

Trying to step away from Dr Google & not to drive myself too crazy over-thinking things

Am nearly 6 weeks - got 2 weeks until early scan......

katesav87 Tue 25-Sep-12 02:08:31

Thanks terilou87 that does make me feel better. I really hope everything's ok in there. Of course. I'm glad there's other ppl out ther that know how I feel although I wouldn't wish this feeling on anyone. You can prob see the time but I'm finding it difficult to sleep at the moment. Is n e one else finding this? I'm so tired tho. I'm now sympton checking all the time which is driving me insane! I feel like I'm just waiting for the blood to come. I'm really praying it won't as this is a much wanted baby and feel like I can't go through this again don't think my anxiety could cope. Hope ur all feeling ok!

orangeone Tue 25-Sep-12 20:39:58

Hi katesav
Totally can't sleep at the moment too. Been waking at 5am for a wee and then can't get back to sleep. Also symptom spotting and knicker checking all the time. Thank goodness I had to go to work today as had to focus on something else for a while! Feel like the next week and a half are going to go so slowly and then I get waves of anxiety imagining hearing bad news at the scan (which is what usually happens!).
Any tips for postive thinking before I completely lose my mind welcome...

katesav87 Wed 26-Sep-12 07:17:24

I know I wake up at 1am for a wee and then my mind gets filled with all these negative thoughts I just don't know how to shift them. All we have to do is try and stay postive and hope for the best I think xxxx

orangeone Wed 26-Sep-12 20:08:11

Got through today by mentally reciting "pregnant till proven otherwise" in my head!! Reckon my work colleagues think I'm crazy! Oh well 4+4 today, only another 33 weeks to go!!! ;-)

katesav87 Fri 28-Sep-12 18:40:18

I know I feel the same everyone must be so fed up with me being so negative but they've never been through wat I have in losing 3. I just can't begin to describe how nervous I am. Even tho I have morning sickness and my boobs hurt I still keep thinking the worst xxx

orangeone Fri 28-Sep-12 19:25:42

I don't think anyone who hasn't had a MC understands the equal measure of joy and panic that you get when you get a BFP if you've had a MC. If you've had more than one then the joy of the faint positive line is just overcome with anxiety as to what lies ahead. I feel more pregnant with this one than several of my previous pregnancies but this will be my 6th pregnancy with only one DD o show for it. I think therefore it's ok to feel nervous in the early days. Just trying to take one day at a time...

katesav87 Sun 30-Sep-12 13:02:15

Yea I agree. I feel pregnant with this one compared to my last 2 mc but I just can't get over the negative thoughts I'm just planning for it to be negative and anything postive will be amazing. I just get scared as I had hyperemesis with my DD and I'm only throwing up a little bit in the morning with this one then just nausea throughout the day. I'm scared that's a bad sign as I always remember the docs telling me I would most proberley get it in my second pregnancy. But now docters saying all pregnancys r different and I may not get it. I also think I overdid it yesterday as my back ached and had a really bad ache in my abdomin. Do u think that could of been the reason it wasn't cramping it just ached like I had done to much xxx

scaredmummy2B Sun 30-Sep-12 18:13:59

Hey hun I'm nearly 5 weeks have on dd age 3 had a mc on xmas day at 11 weeks and a silent mc and d&c in may/June at 9 weeks I'm just like you so scared trying to just get on with it until 12 week scan sometimes heart don't start beating until 9 weeks so I don't wanna put my self though a 6 week scan and no heart beat after the last time of going back for 5 weeks for scam after scan waiting for a heart beat that unfortunately was never there :-( I'm scared too dunno wat to do with myself we didn't plan this me were gonna wait til next year because I'm not ready emotionally or physically :-(

scaredmummy2B Sun 30-Sep-12 18:17:00

Don't worry about the sickness thing I didn't have one lot of sickness with my dd and constant sickness with my last pg and it ended in mc so you can't go by that I got false hopes because everyone told me sickness means a strong pg well I can safely say thats b@#'*%x lol so don't panic yourself about not feeling sick that should be a bonus babe x

katesav87 Sun 30-Sep-12 21:40:47

Thank u I have an early scan on Wednesday but am scared I won't see anything which will prob happen to me. Try and stay postive xxx

scaredmummy2B Sun 30-Sep-12 21:46:43

Good luck hun let me know how you get my but don't panic if no heartbeat as like I said some don't start for anything up to 9 weeks x

katesav87 Mon 01-Oct-12 21:10:05

Thank u ill let u know how I get on, been to the docs today got really bad back pains and aches in my abdomin. He checked to make sure it's not etopic and says he dosent think it is so suppose that's good. Cervix all closed and blood pressure good as keep getting lightheaded so not sure y that is. Just want Wednesday to come. Just to know there may be a chance. Feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown which I know isn't good for me. Slept all day today and still tired. I forgot how hard pregnancy is but can't complain I want this so bad hope ur ok. X

orangeone Wed 03-Oct-12 19:08:38

Just wondering how you got on at your early scan today? Mines on Friday and I'm bricking it!

lotsofcheese Wed 03-Oct-12 19:25:13

Kate hoping it was good news for you at your scan.

Mine is next Tuesday (providing nothing changes between now & then) & I've such mixed feelings about it

scaredmummy2B Wed 03-Oct-12 20:00:50

Hope your ok hun pls let us know your all braver than me I don't even have the guts to get an early scan too scared after last time!!!

katesav87 Wed 03-Oct-12 20:43:11

Hey everyone got to wait one more night was so scared of my pains that I went to hospital yesterday they checked me over and were so nice said everything sounded normal! They have booked me in for my early scan tomorrow morning at 9:20 so I cancelled the one this afternoon at the private clinic. Feel like rubbish tonight don't know if its my anxiety or the pregnancy am shattered feeling sick. Can't seem to move at all. And feeling really lightheaded. Hope ur all ok x

orangeone Wed 03-Oct-12 20:47:49

Good luck for tomorrow. How far will you be then?
I've got my scan on Friday when I'm 6 weeks so hoping to see at heartbeat. This week has dragged so badly but have felt knackered and nauseous, which I hope is a good sign....

katesav87 Wed 03-Oct-12 20:58:47

Yep defo a good sign. I'm not 100% sure ill either be 7 weeks tomorrow or 6 weeks and 3 days but again can't say for definate as I didn't get a bfp until a week after I was due on so think I ovulated later. X

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