Is 'pregnancy glow' a myth?(89 Posts)
This is my first pregnancy, I'm 11 weeks and feeling tired, sick, narky, spotty etc, I've read that the first trimester isn't pleasant and was hoping that I'd soon be feeling the 'pregnancy glow' I've heard about.
However after reading lots of posts on here and other forums it seems that women go on to have spd, sore abdomens, back pain in the 2nd tri and then in the 3rd tri feel huge, bloated, uncomfortable and are desperate for it all to be over.
Is there really a glow at any time during pregnancy? is there ever a time when women feel normal? or is it really an unpleasant 9 months?
I'm 17 weeks and am starting to feel vaguely human again although am still greasy and spotty. And I look fat rather than pregnant. Still, better than the previous weeks!
I was lucky enough to have a fantastic pregnancy complete with glow. Everyone said I looked really well and didn't look pregnant from behind - unlike from the front - old wives tale says that it would therefore be a boy, well it's 50% chance and in this case the old wife (my mum) was right! Kept any morning sickness away by constantly dipping into a bag of nuts, raisins & carrot sticks (probably now regarded as totally wrong thing to do but worked for me).
Good luck to all expectant mums.
I'm just pregnant again (got one DS) and really hating the nausea phase again. That was a real shock to me first time round, as I'd only heard the phrase "morning sickness" and assumed you felt OK the rest of the time. I've never felt worse in my life! It went at about 17 weeks last time, then I did feel pretty normal til week 37, when tiredness caught up a bit.
However my face went a bit puffy which I hated, so I always felt pregnant-me was like an ugly sister to normal-me! No one else seemed to notice but I felt like I had 3 chins! Everyone around me said I was glowing but I think people just say that cos they like the bump!!
Someone above (OP perhaps?) mentioned about being tired after the birth. Of course that's true...but somehow it's a different tiredness, and I actually felt a lot better than when I was pregnant. The hormones must kick in and give you extra battery power...I did get shattered after 3 months of sleep deprivation, but at the start it was amazing how you can cope!
Personally I think it's a myth. This is my second pregnancy and it's ten times worse than my first one, which was pretty awful. The only plus side is that this time I know it WILL be worth it at the end.
Hang in there. Don't beat yourself up about the social constructs of required feelings during pregnancy - you'll feel how you'll feel and no one will be able to change it. And yes, you will be tired and sore afterwards as well, BUT you'll have a beautiful baby to cuddle and adore.
The rare moments of absolute euphoria and incandescent happiness that occur randomly during your child's first year(s) completely outweigh all the crappy tiredness, hormonal mood swings, changed body shape, non-existent social life etc etc. I promise.
I loved my first pregnancy once i hit about 16weeks, I've got to that stage again now and fining i'm more tired but i do have a 2 and a half year old to run around after!
Just cherish the good moments and no doubt you'll look back on this time as one of the better ones of your life!
For me it was not anything like a glow! More like a green aura.
For me it was relief from PMT- maybe I get it worse than most but not going through that hormonal cycle each month equalled GLOW in my book!
And yes, it doesn't really come until after the sickly first bit, so around 14-22 weeks, so hold on!
First pgcy I was spotty, hairy and pasty for seven months and then also massively bloated with oedema due to pre-eclampsia. No glowing for me.
Second pgcy I looked great! Washed out during first trimester sickness and knackered towards the end, but generally my skin and hair were fab and aside from a huge bump I stayed in good shape.
It took me until about 18 weeks, when the nausea finally disappeared. I was still very tired, which continued all the way through, but my hair, skin and nails were fab and everyone constantly told me how well I looked. So I guess that would count as glowing? At about 24 weeks I developed SPD, and it's all gone downhill from there really! 37+4 now and on the countdown!
Twins. Vomited until 13 weeks, with a few green moments right up to 16 weeks. IF I wasn't retching I was asleep. Absolutely pole-axed for months.
Felt INVINCIBLE around 16-20 weeks, got lost on a long walk and ended up on some very hilly downs for around 3.5 hours. Was a bit tired, but felt fine.
HIDEOUS SPD from around 25 weeks.
Premature labour at 30 weeks.
I am SHOCKING at pregnancy! . Fortunately I don't have to do it again...
What was even more shocking was the bits of my body I thought were holding together post-labour just looked horrendous. My feet were the size of an elephants' hooves for starters.
I am normally pasty and pale but thanks to pregnancy tendency to catch the sun have a golden glow instead. That with being so thirsty all the time means I am drinking gallons and being well hydrated makes me look fresh instead of haggard. So those things are making me look better
than I feel
DS 1 wasn't too sick, dizzy but no glow
D? 2 a lot lot sicker, tireder
and fatter and no glow yet 19 weeks so far.
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