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Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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StateofConfusion Wed 22-Aug-12 22:27:11

Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

backwardpossom Wed 22-Aug-12 22:30:44

Hello, I've been waiting for the new thread to join in! wink I'm 11+2 today following a mmc at 9 weeks in May... Had an early scan at 9 weeks and all was looking ok. I have another scan on the 3rd (I'll be 13 weeks according to the dates from my last scan) so can't wait for that... but as the date gets closer, I get more nervous!

sundaesundae Wed 22-Aug-12 22:33:02

I am having a panicky evening, I am 11 and a half weeks and I almost feel crampy. Not painful, but not comfortable either. My hips have played me up all day and suddenly my boobs are incredibly sore.

i am sooo scared I am going to lose this pregnancy so every time I have a twinge I get very scared sad

StateofConfusion Wed 22-Aug-12 22:41:31

thread here

StateofConfusion Wed 22-Aug-12 22:45:12

Messed that up blush above is a link to the old thread.

Welcome along possom good luck for the 3rd, my mw told me after a mc the chance of a sucessful pregnancy is higher, and after seeing a heart beat even greater, I lived off that info for a long time, and today, my fourth scan, was the first I looked forward too! It does get easier! Xx

sundae I had aches and cramps at that stage, still do, its common in pregnancy, even more so after a mc. Take strength from the fact that many of us went on to sucessful pregnancys, and browse the old thread and see we all felt like you, had aches pains and panics. Take care and talk here, its saved my sanity! smile

WLmum Wed 22-Aug-12 22:45:28

Welcome backward and sundae. If you can bear it, have a read of some of our early posts, you'll see we were super scared too but thankfully all seems to be going ok for us now. Fingers crossed for you too.

phoenixrose314 Thu 23-Aug-12 06:29:34

Hi, am same as backward, actually - 11+2 today and feeling very anxious. Desperate to get to my next scan, to see how baby is and how much they have grown since I saw them as a tiny blob at 7 wks.

Had several miscarriages before, one at 13 weeks so don't think I'll really relax until I get past that point... Have bled a little on and off throughout pg so far, and every time I freak out and start crying... I know it's normal but I just don't think I could handle losing this one, not after all the treatments and horrid hormone therapy treatments I had to go through (I have severe endometriosis).

Keeping fingers crossed for a sticky baby. Really really glad I'm not the only one going through this smile We'll all be fine!

welliesandpyjamas Thu 23-Aug-12 10:28:51

Hello new thread!

Hello and welcome, new ladies smile The early days are so tough. Chatting with others in the same situation on this thread has helped me keep my sanity. It's worth browsing through the old one to see how anxious we've all been, and that still we're here!

Thanks for the reassurance at the end of the old thread stateof. Hopefully it is just baby's position or lots of water (even though she did say I was all baby hmmgrin). The scan date feels a long way off (doesn't it always, though!!). I've busied myself this morning making out a list of hospital phone numbers and addresses for DH, just in case grin paranoid, moi?!

StateofConfusion Thu 23-Aug-12 12:18:06

If it helps to be organised what's the harm! I'm the same when something worries me I need to sort something!

Hope everyones doing ok today! Hi to the new posters smile

SwanseaMum Thu 23-Aug-12 12:57:52

Hello new thread smile

Hopeforever Thu 23-Aug-12 13:18:08

Hello, can I join?

Not sure I can even type it, I'm so nervous. Got a BFP on Monday after feeling sick all day driving round country lanes. I've 3 children already but over the last 2 years have had a mmc, a mc at 6 weeks and another at 5.

I'm also very old, so had almost talked myself out of ttc again

MrsReiver Thu 23-Aug-12 14:20:22

Ooh a shiny new thread!

Welcome to all the new faces, it feels really weird because not that long ago I was the new one, all nervously saying hello.

Am still on a high after the lovely wriggly show baby put on yesterday, spent a happy hour or so on the phone telling family. The best phonecall was to my cousin who is due in 5 weeks. We'd both been trying for so long together, and I was dying to tell her when I saw her the other week. And she's promised me first dibs on her newborn nappy stash! Yaaaaaay!!

StateofConfusion Thu 23-Aug-12 16:57:57

mrs I always feel so good after a scan, our sonographer let us watch a while yesterday, wriggler was opening and closing its mouth, swallowing fluid, sucking fingers and very busy, it was amazing!

I feel horrendous today, dp let me lie in, I woke at 11, but just stayed in bed until 12, came down ate and crashed out again, just don't want to move at all! And we have loads to do as were off to stay with the ils as there's a family wedding on saturday and they're all a lot closer, plus I've avoided there since the mmc, so its been 10months since we went there blush

On the bright side were popping to kiddicare on our way up so I can fully indulge in my pregnant shopping urges!

Cadmum Thu 23-Aug-12 17:20:44

Hello. May I join your shiny new thread? 4 docs but too many late mmcs to own up to without feeling foolish... 7+5 and feeling dreadful which is better than after the first trimester when I feel healthy but worried silly.

gemdrop84 Thu 23-Aug-12 17:36:20

hello ladies and to all you just joining us: welcome to the thread! from experience I definitely know how you're feeling, I've felt nothing but anxious and worried sick over the slightest twinge since I found out I was 6 wks pg. I've had 3 mcs ranging from 6-9wks in last 2 yrs, I would say that I feel more sensitive to my body's aches and pains due to this and would always freak out at any twinges I've had. I can't give any advice other than to take each day as it comes and be kind to yourselves smile. This thread has really helped me through the shit days so we're here if you need to rant/vent/share your worries. Much love to you all and your sticky beans/babies x

StateofConfusion Thu 23-Aug-12 17:40:33

Welcome cad

Don't feel foolish, all of us here have been there once, twice or many more times!


RozziRaspberry Thu 23-Aug-12 22:17:07

Hello can i join, I will be 7 weeks tomorrow, I had a miscarriage in June last year. Dh is working away and not supposed to be home until November but is going to sneak home early September for a private scan at 9 weeks as he cannot come home at the end of September when I am due my 12 week scan.

I already have 3dchildren, the youngest is 9 so when I had the miscarriage last year at 11+ weeks it was a total shock as my other 3 pregnancies went like clockwork and I didn't think it would happen to me. I was quite relaxed throughout the first stage, not this time though every twinge fills me with fear and I'm trying not to get too attached to this pregnancy until I know everything is okay.

bonzo77 Thu 23-Aug-12 23:01:37

just popping in to catch up and check out our new thread: thanks for starting it state. Welcome to all the newbies: we've all been there and fully get the anxiety, particularly early on, and the psychological importance of reaching the milestones of dates of previous losses. I'm now 20 +5 but still anxious on and off, though much less so than in my first trimester.

StateofConfusion Thu 23-Aug-12 23:48:39

Welcome rozzi I totally understand how you feel, I have a 5yo ds and 3yo dd so things going wrong never entered my mind! I tried to stay very detached, and expect the worst, by my 2nd scan I was getting calmer, 4th scan was yesterday, I'm 22+5wks and finally relaxed mostly. The good thing with being in tune with our bodies (noticing every twinge) is most of us noticed movements earlier, I was 13/14wks!

Good luck, take care, relax (haha I know that's impossible) and post here, many of us find it very helpful. And also the old thread linked above may reassure you, seeing us worry at your exact stage xxx

Welcome over bonzo 20+5! Past half way! <Squeee>

Cadmum Fri 24-Aug-12 02:29:39

Thank you for the warm welcome. My post had typos. I have four dcs (not docs as auto correct suggested). Our first loss was at 19 weeks after our first two easy pregnancies. Way back when I barely knew that late miscarriage was a possibility, I was blissfully naive. I had another two losses between our second and third babies (13 weeks and then 17 weeks with twins) but still thought it was bad luck or extenuating circumstances. I have had a few early losses as well but felt mostly relieved that my body had known what to do on its own rather than waiting for confirmation at a scan. In 2010,I was sure that I was safe at 21 weeks but lo and behold there was no heartbeat at the anomaly scan AND I needed a c section to deliver as the placenta was covering the entire cervical opening. I am feeling ridiculous for being in this position again as the odds of a medical emergency are greater than the odds of a healthy baby especially at my age. I will feel blush telling anyone that we are expecting... even my own dcs will be more afraid than excited. Sorry for the moan.

StateofConfusion Fri 24-Aug-12 02:39:38

No spelling or grammar police here cad

You poor thing you've had a rough time hey! We've had some interesting reactions to this pregnancy as ds and dd will be 5 and a half and 4, "why start all over again" etc ummm we wanted a baby, another child? I repeat in my head its not their business! Ignore any negative comments and focus on you, your dp and dcs xxx

phoenixrose314 Fri 24-Aug-12 08:18:01

I know what you mean Cadmum, every time we tell one more person I cringe inside, almost like I feel we're tempting fate... I hope I'm wrong, I hope we all are. Sticky babies for all smile

Hopeforever Fri 24-Aug-12 08:45:34

Cadmum, thank you for writing more. I get the bit about feeling strange about telling people.

We were on holiday with my sister when I did the test, after telling DH (which was hard as I had to get him away from the other 8 people in the house) I whispered the news to my sister. Her only response was " you are brave". sad

My youngest is ten, then I have a teenager and my eldest has already been through uni and left home, but I thinks will be back in the autumn to save on rent!

I had a mmc before my teenager then 2 very easy pregnancies but since ttc 2 years ago have had operations and stays in hospital due to MC, so I do wonder why I'm putting myself through this, and my DH and kids. I'm going to be 45 when this one is born. Boy that was hard to write, I wanted to say, if this one makes it.

Cadmum Sat 25-Aug-12 08:25:57

Thanks for your replies and for the understanding. It is good to know that I am not alone in my thinking/worrying. I am feeling terrible with all-day morning-sickness today after having barely slept last night. Getting dd2 to ballet this morning was more thani felt up to coping with. I hope everyone else is enjoying the start of the weekend.

welliesandpyjamas Sat 25-Aug-12 10:17:37

Hi, how's everyone this morning? This is my latest panic. I'm so drained by the worries that come along along all the way through a pregnancy after miscarriage. To have baby born and in my arms in a few weeks is going to mean sooooooooooo very much. Of course, then it's a lifetime of worry that they are safe and happy grin Can parents ever relax?!

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