Anyone else feel like this? Prob tmi....

[rogersmellyonthetelly]

I'm 13 weeks, and have been feeling shitty for most of it. Tired, sick, get the trots frequently, usually with no notice. Dh is feeling a little ignored sexually, and I can't blame him as I haven't had the energy or inclination since half way through ivf.
Im now starting to feel better, and am quite happy for some fun, but I don't want him to touch my breasts. They aren't sore any more, but I just feel wierd about it, they have changed a lot since I got pg and he is looking very appreciatively at my chest, but the thought of him touching them creeps me out. Normally I enjoy it, but Thinking about him playing with my boobs as toys when they are gearing up to feed our baby just turns me right off.
I don't know how to approach it with him without making him uncomfortable.

[greenbananas]

Sorry to hear you've been feeling awful - hopefully at 13 weeks you are past the worst of it now.

I think it's pretty normal to feel that way about your breasts. I had a conversation with a group of women at a breastfeeding support group in which almost everybody agreed that their attitude to their breasts had changed and that their husbands were finding it difficult to come to terms with. Okay, so it's hard for the husbands when our breasts become so huge, enticing and off-limits, but they need to respect our feelings.

I read somewhere (might have been in The Politics of Breastfeeding) that in some other cultures breasts are regarded as primarily for feeding babies and are not seen as particularly sexual - no more so than earlobes, thighs etc. When told that western men liked to suck at women's breasts during sex, men from these cultures burst into fits of laughter and asked why they were pretending to be babies!

[rogersmellyonthetelly]

Well I took the plunge and told him last night how I felt, he totally understood where I was coming from and we agreed a look/touch but nothing more rule. Worked perfectly for both of us, and Im now looking forward to more fun tonight :0)

[greenbananas]

Good for you! Glad he was understanding about it