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Pregnancy After miscarriage..

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everythinghappensforareason · 12/06/2012 15:08

Hi Ladies, So i have today found out im pregnant (yay) But half of me is excited and the other half of me just wants too curl up in a ball and cry, im terrified i will Miss carry again. How has everyone found pregnancy after MC? this is DC2. just doesnt seem real at all. im around 4weeks xx

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everythinghappensforareason · 12/06/2012 15:41

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Kelbells · 12/06/2012 19:00

Didn't want to leave this unanswered... I'm 22w pregnant after 2 miscarriages and I just started to relax after the 12 weeks scan and then even more at about 16 weeks when I started to feel movement. I know how it feels to know how excited you SHOULD feel but all you can do is worry, the excitement tinged with stress but it will get better .... There are quite a few threads you can join for support and just remember, whatever happened before was NOT your fault and the odds are in your favour this time Smile

I hope everything goes smoothly for you this time x

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PickleSarnie · 12/06/2012 19:20

Having a miscarriage definitely takes a lot of the excitement out of pregnancy. The next 8 weeks are going to suck but once you've had your scan I promise you'll relax a bit. Then some more after the 20 week scan. But I don't think you ever fully relax. But the odds are in your favour that everything is going to be fine.

Hope you have a ridiculously uneventful 36 more weeks.

X x

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hzgreen · 12/06/2012 22:06

i'm 20 weeks pregnant after 2 MC's, the early weeks were so hard, i really felt all over the place. i wanted so much to feel excited and "normal" about it all but really i felt terrified, hopeless and miserable. but bit by bit it started to lift, the 12 week scan was a big moment and since then my fears have begun to dissipate a bit. i am still anxious for this baby but i find now i can get a bit excited too and start thinking about the birth and actually having a baby at the end of it!

Congrats on your pregnancy, i hope it all goes well for you. my best advice is don't think about how you should feel, but just take it one step at a time and reach out for support whenever you need it xx

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everythinghappensforareason · 12/06/2012 22:30

Thanks alot for the comments :) means alot! hormones all over the place already, really emotional and tired, im going to arrange an early scan i think, im just far 2 anxious to wait untill 12 weeks, ino that weather i wait or not the outcome will be the same, reassurance is all i need i think. These comments have helped alot though :) can't wait until im able to say im 20 odd weeks and my babas kicking away hehe!!

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randomimposter · 13/06/2012 07:17

am now 23 weeks with DC2 after 5 miscarriages. I'm afraid the first 12 weeks are just a 'take one day at a time' situation. I was lucky in that i was given scans at 6, 8, 10 and then 12 weeks, that really helped. But i've really only started to believe this might actually happen in the last 2 weeks or so, since feeling regular movements. Pregnancy after mc is terribly hard, good luck.

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Jac1978 · 13/06/2012 08:21

I had a healthy baby after suffering a miscarriage. I had an early first scan just to put my mind at rest. I would say the miscarriage certainly had an effect on me, the scans were very reassuring as was hearing it's heartbeat and feeling it move but I never fully relaxed, I followed all the eating guidelines to the letter and was very careful with what I did and whenever I spoke about the baby I would start each sentence with "if all goes well.....". All you can do is focus on being positive, this is a completely different pregnancy and having one miscarriage doesn't mean it will happen again. You've been very brave to try again and when you do have a healthy baby in your arms you will appreciate it all the more. Good luck xx

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tahlulla1986 · 13/06/2012 08:43

hi, I had a miscarriage in feb this year and also found out I am pregnant again. I'm about 7 weeks now. I feel exactly the same as you. I cant really relax and enjoy it like I want to. I had a bit of spotting last week and had an early scan which was great and has made me feel a bit better. I just want to get to 12 weeks. Everyday seems like an eternity. I hope everything goes ok.

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Midgetm · 13/06/2012 08:53

Pregnancy after miscarriage is harder, because the innocence is gone, but you just have to take each day at a time. Take comfort in the statistics that one miscarriage does NOT mean that you are more likely to have another. I take the attitude that 'i am pregnant today' and I try to remain positive. I am still acting a bit crazy an I am 21 weeks and have regular movements to reassure me. It's tough but so worth it. If you can wait till at least 7 weeks for an early scan and definitely no earlier than 6.5. Otherwise they can often be inconclusive. I Have also been lucky with scans this time having them every 2 weeks in the first trimester and now every 4. Good luck.

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CountryKitty · 13/06/2012 09:14

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I'm 7.5 weeks with DC3 after two mc's earlier this year and have booked a scan for 8.5 weeks. I'm just taking one day at a time and feel much better now that I've passed the point of my previous mc's. Midgetm is right, the statistics for a successful pregnancy are strongly in your favour. I still constantly knicker check and every tiny pain sends me into a full on panic but as others have said above 'I am pregnant today' and try to focus on that. Goodluck!

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cinderellabelle · 13/06/2012 11:16

I'm 11.4 weeks with DC2 after 2 mc and it is a rocky road. One minute i feel overjoyed then i think that's it its all over!
I've had 2 scans (1 privately as i was panicking so much) and saw the hb both times but am still up and down all the time.
I have my 12 week scan on Friday and even though i do have strong symptoms and have been reassured by epau and midwife there is still that feeling that something has or will go wrong.

I do believe after my scan i will relax but it is hard.
Take each day as it comes try not to worry to much (easier said than done).

Good luck and congratulations Smile

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PineapplePol · 13/06/2012 11:29

Like Jollster, I'm an old hand at this having suffered 5 miscarriages and the reality is that it is tough emotionally. If only we could hibernate for 8 weeks! All you can do is one day at a time. I've become a bit of a scan junkie and for the last 4 weeks have had a weekly scan. It helps to have that reassurance but doesn't take the uncertainty away. I wouldn't recommend weekly scans though - its safe for baby but can get expensive and to a certain extent fuel your paranoia! I've found confiding in a close friend useful as having extra emotional support is really helpful. Just being able to express your fears and concerns helps - and its not always easy to do with your DP following mc as they have their own concerns. I know mine battened down the hatches emotionally to begin with. Now we do talk to each other most nights about how we are feeling and the mutual support really helps. I get more and more scared as the 12 weeks date approaches (I'm about 10wks at mo), but the longer you go, the more likely you are to be successful. Do whatever feels right for you and accept it is normal to be scared stupid at this time. The statistics for a successful pregnancy after miscarriage are on your side. I don't think anything will stop you worrying but sharing your fears helps maintain some sanity. As others have said, enjoy that you are pregnant today and the love that has made that possible. Worry about tomorrow and what ifs, tomorrow. I wish and anyone else in this situation all the luck in the world.

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everythinghappensforareason · 13/06/2012 11:50

Thankyou so much for sharing all your stories, im very sorry for all your loses. It deffinatly takes the innocence away, with 1st pregnancy i didn't have these worries, just exitment. now every twinge i have a panic attack, and if i feel discharge coming out i assume its a bleed and go check!

Going to take 1 day at a time though, thats all i can do :) My MC was 20weeks ago today, so i'm thinking thats quite a while for my body to recover, i was 8weeks when i had mc, so maybe once ive passed that point this time i will feel much better x x

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Gillinthesticks · 13/06/2012 15:43

Hi everything congratulations on your BFP, brilliant news!! :o

I don't know if you'll remember but we were both on the TTC in May thread then I got a BFN that month and felt I was obsessing too much (!) so decided to come off the forums for a bit. Anyway, maybe it did the trick because I got a BFP yesterday which makes me 4+1 :)

Like you I've already got DC1 then had 2 MC (5 & 7 weeks) so while I am so pleased & excited to be pregnant again I am also scared stiff that I'll MC again, so I don't feel like I'm able to go through the same level of excitement that I did when I found out I was pregnant with DC1. There's some great advice on here though about taking each day as it comes and each pregnancy being different. I'm going to see my Doc's in a couple of weeks and see if they will refer me for an early scan, but if not then I'll go privately, there's no way I can wait until 12 weeks!!!

Good luck and hopefully we'll both be on here in 8 months time taking about our birth plans!! :)

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everythinghappensforareason · 13/06/2012 17:48

Hi gillin congrats to u too :o I stopped obsessing, using opk's ect and must have done the trick :) i still concieved in may, just about, the 30th.
its great talking to other ppl in the same boat :) cryed all last night because i was so scared + got very anxious today before seein dr.

im going to speak to my midwife next week about an early scan also, hope u get 1 too. if not like u i would go private to!

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Gillinthesticks · 15/06/2012 12:46

How did you get on with the doc's everything? Hope it went well & he/she was able to put your mind at rest. :)

I wasn't sure how early to book an appointment at the doc's ... thought I'd wait and see if I get past 5/6 weeks before getting in touch with them .. although I've read on some forums about people getting blood tests from their doc to check if their HCG levels are going up OK, but I'm not sure if ours would do that on request! I took another CB digi test today and it is still saying 1 - 2 weeks which is making me panic a bit because I should be 2 - 3 by now according to when I ovulated (although could've been a later implantation I guess) ... I know these things aren't always accurate, but I never went above 1 - 2 weeks with my first MC so it's making me paranoid!!

Hate to wish time away but I'd love to be at 12 weeks with a low risk nuchal scan result right now!!

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everythinghappensforareason · 15/06/2012 19:26

Hi gillin docs went fine, got BFP there to :) I would say, stay away from the tests. ive not bought anymore now. it will cause unnecessary worry!
ino how u feel i really do, its so hard. everyone is telling me not to worry, and the chances are in my favour this time. but i will believe it when i see it.
hope your okay xx

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elsabel · 26/10/2012 19:19

Hi everyone, hope its ok for me to jump on this thread..congrats to all whohave just got a bfp! I have been reading the previous posts and sounds just how im feeling! Im 8 weeks tomorrow, had a mmc in May this year which has made me really anxious this time round. I am constantly symptom checking and analysing how 'pregnant' i feel. I went for an early scan because of my anxieties last week and saw a healthy heartbeat which relaxed me alot. But now im worried as I havent felt sick for the last 2 days and was expecting to feel worse day by day. Has anyone else had any experience with feeling this way? i think its the circumstances of a mmc and not knowing straight away it had happened which is making it worse. Also i havent any children so no experience of a healthy pregnancy and how its meant to be. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated x

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LadyKinbote · 26/10/2012 19:43

A healthy heartbeat is a really good sign! I had two miscarriages and neither got that far. I've had four pregnancies in total (two lovely DC) and can honestly say that my pregnancy symptoms didn't give me much of a clue about how the pregnancy was progressing. Obviously the 12 week scan is the big milestone but it sounds positive so far.

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elsabel · 26/10/2012 20:08

Thankyou for you comments Lady . Some of the time im telling myself im being ridiulous and over reacting and other times i want to phone my doctor and beg for another scan now!! I wish i could be greatful i feel ok, but really im wishing for nausea!

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StateofConfusion · 26/10/2012 21:10

Congratulations everything I had two early mcs followed by a mmc at 14wks 3 months later I got my BFP and I'm now 32wks and all is going well. I felt calmer after my first scan, but still worry now. There's a group of us all together already on the pregnancy forum "pregnant after a mc" come over if you want :)

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