Early scan after last yrs miscarriage, but when to stop worrying?!

[SimplySoo]

My first ever pregnancy ended in missed miscarriage last year, diagnosed at 12 weeks. At the time the midwife said the foetus grew til around 8 weeks. I'm pregnant again (yay!) and had an early scan as reassurance last week at 9wks+ 5. All fine, which is such a relief. But when can I be sure it won't happen again? Have we actually passed a hurdle here? I guess it doesn't help that I'm feeling sick all day every day, which is exhausting and perhaps getting me down.

Can any other mumsnetters share their experience of this?

[Ju1es22]

Hi simplysoo

Congratulations!

I know too well what your through after a rough 3 years I find myself 17+3 pregnant after 5 unfortunate early losses all but one before 8 weeks! I had a private reassurance scan at 10 weeks and was told the chance of mc was less than 1% after hearing and seeing a healthy baby at that stage! I still worry now it doesn't go away completley, but every week that passes my anxiety seems to decrease!

Sickness is a pain in the arse but was a great sign my little bean was growing as it should:-) mines only just gone but im starting to feel little bits of movement as reassurance he's still there!

Hope this helps a little

Xx

[TheHouseofMirth]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Sadly, any pregnancy can end in an early or late miscarriage, stillbirth or neo-natal death so you can never be sure it won't happen, but thee is an much higher chances that all will be well. I had a MMC about 5 years before I had DS1 and like many people I hadn't heard of them until it happened to me and it was a total shock. As a result I never truly relaxed in either of my subsequent pregnancies until my baby was in my arms. I did find buying a doppler helped me but I know some people find them hard to use and this can increase their anxiety.

[funchum8am]

I had two MCs at 6+2 then a bit of time off TTC and now am 15+3. I had a reassurance scan at 9+4, then was more relaxed for a bit, then got stressed again for no obvious reason (lack of symptoms mainly, as no MS - I know, I know, it was actually a good thing but it didn't feel like it at the time!) as the 12 week scan approached (was actually 12+5 in fact). Since then though I have felt much, much better and now am more stressed about whether I'll be a good parent than about whether the baby is going to be OK. That's just me, and my losses were much earlier and I suspect a lot less traumatic than yours. I keep telling myself that once past 12 weeks the risk of problems plummets and there's no reason to think the worst. GOOD LUCK!

[SauvignonBlanche]

My consultant, who also looked after me when I lost DS2 at 22 weeks, told me that "you won't relax until you have that wee baby in your arms" and he was right.
Good luck!

[KatAndKit]

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and on a good early scan. A good scan at 9 weeks is excellent news, it does mean that your odds of having a miscarriage are very slim indeed.
But, having had two prior miscarriages and being 38 weeks pregnant at the moment, I can agree with sauvignonblanche that the worrying doesn't go away entirely. But it will ease off. You'll feel even better after your 12 week scan, and then after 20 weeks a bit better still, and once you start feeling movements you'll mental about that for a while but it will reassure you as well.
I had a doppler which I got at 14 weeks and could only just pick up a heartbeat then. It was a cheapo one though. But I did find it reassuring to listen to the heartbeat in between 14 weeks and feeling movement at 21 weeks.

[SimplySoo]

thank you so much everyone for your responses! I know there won't be a point as such where we can 100% say everything is going to be okay, but it's very reassuring to hear your views and experiences.

I imagine I'll go through the same process as everyone, worrying less over time after more scans. All the best with your pregnancies!