Just a quick question, is it scoially and emotionally acceptable to have 4 kids these days or is it just a no no. WOuld like to talk to people who have an opinion on this and whether I am going crazy with all these thoughts wizzing round my head :D
Have got 3 DS and am pregnant with DC4. I think it's a perfectly reasonable number to have. DH and I both work and are able to support our family HOWEVER I could not believe the negative responses I got when pregnant with DS3, ranging from "when are you going to stop having kids" to "I can't believe you're having another baby".
Peoples reactions did shock me and I was nervous to tell people about DC4, and then I thought sod it, we're thrilled about this baby, if they don't like it then forget them!
I've just found out I'm expecting number 4, I dont think it has too many social constraints. Once you get to 6+ people start to judge I think. But having said that you should do what makes YOU happy not other random people on the street.
Agree there's no socially acceptable amount. It really depends on the opinion of the person you talk to. Some people believe the world is so over populated you shouldn't have any. It depends on whether you can provide for them, financially, emotionally etc...
I'm one of four and loved it - big, happy family. Fabulous. And I definitely don't think it's a no no. But I do think that people are starting to think about these things more now and that there may be a teeny tiny trend to thinking about larger families ....
I speak purely anecdotally, of course. It's something that my friends and I talk about and was a big factor in DH and I deciding what to do (i would have liked 4 (like my family), thought I would have 3 as compromise but have ended up with 2). At the time we were thinking about no. 3 there was a lot of press about how sticking with two was the best thing you could do for the planet etc and it was a factor in our decision.
But quite obviously it is very much a case of each to his own and only you know what is right for your family. I also think that being "socially acceptable" is a pretty pants reason to do/not do anything (within reason naturally!)!