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40+3, grumpy and want my baby out NOW..........your experiences/sympathy much appreciated!

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lovemysleep Mon 10-Oct-11 16:04:22

Warning - am very hormonal and just want to rant/vent my frustration....

Had lots of braxton hicks yesterday, and a real low down dragging sensation all day. Got to night time, and it became more period-like, and thought "woo-hoo, here we go!". Decided to get some rest, woke up at 3ish, had a snack, still had the mild pains, again went back to sleep, so if labour was kicking in, I'd have had some sleep.

Woke up this morning, and bit, fat zilch..........

If another relative asks me if anythings happening yet, I fear I may scream and never bloody stop.

I am very tired and so bloody grumpy - sweep booked for Wed, and I really want a homebirth. I'm trying not to stress about being induced if this baby doesn't come out soon, and also, I just feel like I'm in limbo, and it's driving me nuts!

Got clarysage, eaten spicy food, been bouncing on my ball - may have to resort to sex (shudder).

This is DC2, and DD started coming on her due date - she was posterior though, so took 48 hours to arrive. So, I'm also paranoid about this one being posterior too.

God, I am such a whinger!!!! Honestly, I'm not usually like only 40+3, so should be prepared for a bit of a wait.

Please tell me how you got through this, or join me in a whinge....

edwinbear Mon 10-Oct-11 16:51:30

I started labour with DS at 40+10 and he was born at 40+13, I was a hormonal wreck by that stage. The constant waking up in the morning wondering if today would be the day was a killer. I was bored, uncomfortable and worried about going too far from home so sat in front of the TV moping about and feeling very sorry for myself. No advice, but I do empathise.

IssyStark Mon 10-Oct-11 16:57:57

Waters broke with DS at 40+14 (also posterior) and he was hauled out at 40+16.

I used to take great pleasure in answering little old ladies who asked when I was due '5 days ago' and see their faces drop!

We tried sex but it didn't work anotomically so had to give up on that. However a bit of masterbation on my part did the job when it came to my waters breaking!

MixedBerries Mon 10-Oct-11 17:24:44

40+4 here. I feel your pain. sad
I'm living in dread of induction.

lovemysleep Mon 10-Oct-11 18:32:24

Oh God edwin and Issy - being that overdue must have been a nightmare! Puts my wait into perspective.
It's the waking every day and thinking "Is it going to happen?" that's infuriating - and analysing every twinge.
Poor DH is getting it in the neck all the time too! I think I'd convinced myself that I was going to be a bit early too, so I've effectively shot myself in the foot!
Mixed - ooh, we're neck and neck here.......induction freaks me out! Fingers crossed we'll make it before it comes to that!

redexpat Mon 10-Oct-11 22:39:59

40+6. I hear you.

Have started answering the phone with "yes I'm still fucking pregnant, is there anything else?" There usually isnt.

ChippingIn Mon 10-Oct-11 22:43:08

redexpat grin

Book some very expensive theatre/gig tickets for tomorrow night!

Northernlurker Mon 10-Oct-11 22:52:59

As a veteran of 40 +15 (induced), 40+7 and 40+8 I feel your pain too!
When I woke up on the morning of 40+7 with dd3 I was a hormonal blubbering wreck because I wasn't in labour - had woken up in labour at that point with dd2. Dh said afterwards he knew it wouldn't be long - and he was right - a show about 3 hours later and labour in the early evening.

stuffthenonsense Tue 11-Oct-11 12:54:48

Oh i feel for you......i have done 40+11, 40+16 and last one was 40+18 before i stupidly opted for induction.....this one is going to come within 42 weeks or i am buying a trampoline.

As you can tell i have NO advice on how to get baby moving but Issy i am curious about your method that clearly worked....did it take long???

Hope all goes well for you and remember me in March when i am wailing at being overdue too.

Hotpotpie Tue 11-Oct-11 13:05:37

only sympathy from me because Im no where even close but would love to hear about your home birth when the time comes (hopefully at some point today) smile

lovemysleep Tue 11-Oct-11 15:20:17

redexpat - hehehe, why, oh, why do people keep bloody asking???????? I've even started sending DH on the school run as I can't stand being asked anymore. Thank God he's been working from home.....

Have decided to not be freaked out about induction anymore (yeah, right!) - if I do have to have one, it will be a

hotpotpie - I'll let you know all about the HB, if it ever happens.

Sweep booked for tomorrow - sounds so lovely - but hey, if it get things going, it'll be worth it. Right, am off to bounce on my birth ball.....

MixedBerries Tue 11-Oct-11 15:46:16

Hello again lovemysleep. Still waiting here too! 40+5. Not a twinge since Monday last week when I lost my plug and had bloody show and got all excited.
ChippingIn, that's a great idea about theatre tickets but I have an even better plan. ....Poor OH is having an endsoscopy/colonoscopy (camera up his bum) on Thursday morning. He has to take a massive dose of powerful laxatives on Wednesday evening and again at 6 AM on Thursday. So if I don't go into labour then, I don't know when I will! I think the plastic covers on the car seats may not just be for leaking waters. And I might have to take my cat as an alternative birth partner.
Hang in there!

madmomma Tue 11-Oct-11 15:51:35

Oh you poor thing. I went to 42 weeks with both mine, and I went out of my mind. You just don't know where to put yourself do you? It's so horrible. Good Luck. At least when the baby's here you'll forget how hideous this time was.

morethemerrier Tue 11-Oct-11 18:06:58

40+10 with DS2,having had DS1 bang on 40 weeks was sooo frustrating!

Lots of sympathy, it becomes a full time occupation looking for signs it can get very tiring!

And I m not convinced the sex thing works, we tried that a LOT, I think it really will happen when you least expect!

My DS2 came after a very expensive meal, which ended up down the toilet! When I had resigned myself to being pregnant FOREVER!!!!

I had a HB with DD at 40+3, they would have let me go to 40+10 so dont panic youve got lots of time. Have they said when they will let you go to, as I think it varies on where you live?

And this time (exp DC4) I am going to get a T-shirt printed with redexpat's response! grin

lovemysleep Fri 14-Oct-11 13:10:52

I've got an induction booked for 19th - so 12 days overdue. I'm trying hard to get to grips with my fear of going into hospital, and hopefully, she'll make an appearance before I get to Wednesday.

Second sweep today - baby does appear to be 3/5's engaged so that is some progress since Wed. No other signs though - cervix still soft and long. Asked MW about a % for sweeps working and she said 50/50, possibly less than that.

I'm rapidly coming to the conclusion that nothing really works, unless the baby is ready to come. I can't be arsed to fork out money on acupuncture or reflexology either - or maybe I will crack by Monday morning..

Perhaps I'll see if DH can book us in to our favourite expensive restaurant smile.

I am in the foulest mood EVER today as well.......I only have to look at DH and I want to hit him (he hasn't done anything wrong!!!). I daren't go out in public, as I'm scared that I'll have a hissy fit at someone, or even just randomly burst into tears.

God, what a hormonal wreck I am......

MixedBerries Fri 14-Oct-11 13:20:04

Owwwww. Sorry it's a bad day lovemysleep. I'm going for my third sweep in half an hour. I'm still clinging on to the vague hope that it might work.
My induction is booked for Monday (17th I think) which is 10 days over. I'm considering trying to reschedule to 14 days over as I'm still terrified of induction. I'm sure sure they'll be happy with that though.

MixedBerries Fri 14-Oct-11 13:21:16

Oh, and I was convinced that yesterday would be the day as OH was having a colonoscopy but that has been and gone. Pah.

kingram Fri 14-Oct-11 18:44:19

Same here I'm 40+2 sad was told id be early but still nothing!!! I have tried everything, I've lost my plug a week ago and baby is so low down she could fall out!! Even went to cinema last night to try and tempt fate but no here I am still. And I'm not having pains of anything grrrr... got a sweep booked for Tuesday but doubt it will work. All I want is to hold my baby and wear something other than maternity clothes and flat shoes sad.... hmmm still grumpy after rant lol. I so hope baby will come later!!!

sleepevader Fri 14-Oct-11 18:53:22

Hi Im 37 weeks and want this baby out! Been having tightening down low for a couple of weeks now. Have been sick all through pregnancy, heartburn and lost over 5kg in weight. Also borderline gestational diabetes and visual disturbances that after being blinded by eye drops today at eye clinic have been diagnosed as just migraines. I think Ive served my time and just want a good outcome at the end now.

I cant wait another potential 5 weeks. Time to hop on DP, crank up the raspberry leaf and get scrubbing some floors.....not all at the same time of course!

Cleme Fri 14-Oct-11 18:54:44

Hi there I thought I should tell you about my recent experience. I went 16 days overdue and had a natural birth of 4 hrs duration. I refused induction at 42 weeks but had tests to make sure everything was ok at this stage. I had 2 sweeps the last one at 42 weeks. She was ready to come at 16 days overdue. It is mad inducing at 10 days overdue. You have to be patient and keep your cool. I was fortunate in having a very supportive midwife. I know going 16 days overdue isn't for everyone but you do have to take one day at a time and be patient. It all turned out very well in the end!

MadameBoo Fri 14-Oct-11 19:02:52


Just found you in Active topics ican'tgetnosleep. Sending you cervix opening vibes lovely lady <smooch>

lovemysleep Sat 15-Oct-11 16:08:46

Well, I went for a big walk yesterday, bounced on my ball and even found some stuff on YouTube about stimulating acupressure points - so spent last night on the sofa, pressing 2 points on my leg and ankle.

Had a show before bed - uck! But still nothing today, but am feeling a bit more optimistic and am about to get working those acupressure points again.

DH reckons a work colleagues wife said that her induction was the best labour out of all 3 of her DC - baby out in about 3 hours! So, I'm clinging onto these positive stories. It's more the thought of hospital for me - hate the lack of privacy on the wards, and all the hanging about. Will be slugging Rescue Remedy if I have to go in........

Good luck to everyone else - keep us up to date! Want to hear of at least someone going into labour VERY soon!!!

lovemysleep Sat 15-Oct-11 16:11:14

ooh, hello Boo.......thank-you sweetie xxxx

Mimatchin Sat 15-Oct-11 21:52:28

I am grupy too and desperate sad


Milliways Sat 15-Oct-11 22:03:28

DD was induced early so I was unprepared for DS going 2 weeks over - in a heatwave and weighing 9lb 6!

AT 41 weeks I had a sweep and went in next day but it was a "false alarm". That was the worst as Mum had driven over to look after DD and all the neighbours were waiting for me to come back with a baby. I felt so stupid coming home with bump.

Advantage was, day before induction due, he arrived in about 1 hour flat - just made it to the hospital, literally ONE push and his head was out!

Good luck.

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