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Should I care?????

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Claire129 Sat 08-Oct-11 19:52:52

SHould I care what others think if I was to have baby number 4? I have an 11 year old dd, a 9 year old dd and a 4 year old ds but I spend my time thinking maybe people will think badly of us. My dad is VERY hypocritical which is laughable coz he is an alcoholic and didnt even bring me up after my mum died when i was 5. I am 1 of 4 and have 3 older brothers who have 2 kids each and I dont know what they will say. I know my dh parents will be fine coz they always have been but you never know things could change, maybe i am being silly but somethimes these things weigh heavy on your mind. SPoke hypothetically to my 2 dd and they both said they would love a baby bro or sis and my ds said he would love a bro to play with and share his bedroom with. Maybe i should stop worrying about others but I have spent ALL my life like this. I work part time and hope i would be able to return to this but would have to see how it went, just cant be a**ed with the agro and worried about my figure as well as it has taken a long time to get back into shape and will having a fourth ruin it altogether???? Abit shallow i know but all these things are wizzing round my head giving me 1 BIG headache, any ideas???? :D

HoneyMomster Sat 08-Oct-11 19:55:16

No you most definitely should not care about others! Even if they disappriove what's that to you? A few minutes of them doing pursed mouth faces vs the happiness and joy a child brings you (if you want one) no contest!

kiki22 Sat 08-Oct-11 19:59:25

as long as you can financially afford another child and feel able to cope with 4 then why not?

BadRoly Sat 08-Oct-11 20:03:52

For every person who is negative there will be someone else who is positive ime. And our family made it clear they thought we were crackers but love no4 just as much as 1, 2 and 3!

notlettingthefearshow Sat 08-Oct-11 21:59:05

It's your and DH's decision. As long as it doesn't affect the rest of your family in terms of childcare for example, it's not their business, so I would not discuss it with them. Just tell them the happy news if/when it happens!

pregnantmimi Thu 13-Oct-11 20:16:07

god stop worrying about what people think todays news tomorrows fish and chip wrapping soon have someone else to talk about its your life do what you want xx

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