Right, I am so fed up with this!
All I seem to be hearing this days is "Are you sure there's only one in there?" and "I bet you hope it's a girl".
I'm seriously worried I'm going to bite someone's head off one of these days. I can't do anything about looking 30 weeks pregnant at only 22 weeks and incidentally I AM expecting another boy. Don't get me wrong, I'm over the moon that I'm pregnant and I don't mind if it's a boy or a girl but I'm getting more and more worried that when he's born people will give me the "Ohhhh...what a shame it's another boy..." line becuase I don't know how I might react. I don't want this poor thing to be the subject of such silliness and I find it insulting that people can be so nosy and untactful and think that all it matters is whether it's a girl or another boy. Has anyone experienced the same and has it bothered you to the point that you're stressed every time someone new knows about the pregnancy because you know you're going to get the "I bet you want a girl" comment? Please help!
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Expecting the third boy and everyone keeps asking me if it's a girl...
beatrice75 · 04/10/2011 20:43
I had similar issue's when i was PG with my 3rd. Though i had 2 girls and was expecting a boy, people bugged the hell out of me saying "oh i bet youre over the moon!!" or i bet your DH is thrilled to be having a son!! 
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It drove me insane!!
I wouldnt even lower yourself with an answer to their rude questions to be honest.
Congratulations, have you thought of any names?, i found boys name really hard.
Really bothered me after DS3 was born, one friend actually said "Aren't you a bit disappointed?" as did my Nan 
It does bother me but now I just cut them off with "Actually I feel blessed to have 3 healthy children".
It annoys me because a) I really did not mind what the sex of the baby is and b) I hate the thought that when my DC hear people saying this it might start to sink in and they might wonder if I had them to get a girl IYSWIM.
If all else fails hold your head high and tell them that it was always your intention to have a five a side football team 
People do just say silly things.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I adore having 3 dc's 
even the midwife at the delivery of my ds5 fell silent!!!! Hold your head up high - don't bother with a retort OR as a special treat I'll let you use the one i have thought up for this one ( pg!)...
'someone must think I'm good at them!' 
someone did say to me 'you make gorgeous ones'
I used 'Did you mean that to sound so rude/intrusive/insensitive/stupid' - delete as appropriate - always said with an incredulous laugh. Every single person then started desperately backpedalling, making out it had been a joke .
Re size of bump - I was told I was massive/tiny on several occasions and just said 'Do you think so?' whatever the opinion was. As long as my MW/consultant were happy, wtf would I give any brainspace to anybody else's opinion? I delighted in thinking up abusive namecalling in my head, but managed not to say it out loud.
BTW, I had DS4 18/12 ago, so have the size of family I always hoped for, after 4 miscarriages and having had my first DC aged 37. So, when some old crone offered her bleeding condolences when I was out walking my gorgeous newborn, I am afraid I was just speechless. Did not say anything. Walked off. To this day, I have not come up with anything clever I could have said. I am still staggered when I think about it now.
Brace yourself. There will be remarks by stoopid people. Having said that, most people mean well, but suffer from Foot-in-Mouth-Disease. Much as I would have welcomed a girl in our family, I am very glad that the last one was a boy as I would not want any of them to have felt we just 'kept going' to 'get' a girl, grrrrr!
Congratulations! Boys are fab, noisy, affectionate, v physical, funny and mine make v entertaining Boy Piles now when they all wrestle together. They really are like a litter of puppies
Having said that, you are pregnant, you can say whatever you please: gawn, enjoy that privilege while it last and really let rip at the next person who annoys you !
Congratulations - 3 boys is fab. I didn't find out with ds3 and got so much crap off family and random folk re never mind crap. It was really upsetting. I'm now pregs with ds4 and chose to find out to prepare myself (or rather others so they don't give me the same shit- I'm still getting it though). 3 boys IS fantastic and I'm hoping 4 will be even better. I make lovely boys as folk always tell me
I think some people just roll out stock comments when you're pregnant. I am only onto DC2 but already had plenty of "bet you're hoping for a boy" comments. It infuriates me too OP. it's like theyre suggesting there is something lacking in having a DD. One of DHs friends actually emailed this week with the comment "Bet you're hoping for first prize this time, a straight boy". I was disgusted.
As for the size thing. Only bf concerned if your MW is. I rarely see my MIL and we were recently at a funeral together. She looked at my stomach in church and frowned saying "were you this big at this stage with DD?". At the wake afterwards she asked why my bump was so small compared to last time. I decided to average out her comments which meant my bump was just right
It's hard not to snap though, I try to hold back for the sake of my own mental health.
Congratulations on your pregnancy btw!
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