My sil had a baby on Sunday morning and came home yesterday morning (Mon) I had a baby 6 months ago and she popped in on the day I came home which was fine. I really don't know when to visit her. We live 5 minutes away so are not going to stay for hours on end.
But her and her dh are very stand offish. We (and other family members) don't feel particularly welcome at the best of times. It's not so much her but him. I know if I phone he'll answer and say she's asleep etc which is fair enough if she's not feeling up to it. But if he gets to the phone first he'll make excuses. But I don't want her to feel we're ignoring her and the her new baby either.
The last time she had a baby we just turned up, she was happy to see us but he quickly ushered us into the kitchen to wash our hands before we held the baby. (we are clean people by the way.) Which put our backs up, I wasn't even expecting to hold the baby as being a parent myself appreciate that not all new mothers are happy to hand their babies over.
We thought about popping in this evening (early) and literally saying hi, how are you, see the baby, giving the gift and leaving. Unless their extremely welcoming and insist we stay! Which I very much doubt.
Does this sound ok?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Get updates on how your baby develops, your body changes, and what you can expect during each week of your pregnancy by signing up to the Mumsnet Pregnancy Newsletters.
Pregnancy
Visiting the new baby form the visitors view
11 replies
nancy10 · 04/10/2011 08:27
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.