I have no idea how we're going to do this without upsetting people.
Some friends of ours lost a baby not long ago, so we decided from that start that we would tell no one until 12 weeks. When I was 6 weeks pregnant DBIL told us that DSIL was 5 weeks pregnant. We still decided that we would wait though, as I'm really terrified of bad news at the 12 week scan.
The scan is in 2 weeks time, but we've just heard that DSIL has lost her baby. So now we're really unsure what to do. We're going to wait until we've had the scan but we're essentially going to have to tell them that we're having a baby due exactly at the same time as theirs would have been.
Has anyone got any advice on how to approach this please? Especially for DBIL and DSIL, but I think it's going to be hard for the whole family as PIL are devastated too.
I'm really worried that it seems cruel that we've waited until we knew for sure, and like it's somehow rubbing their faces in it :(
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DSIL just lost her baby - how do we tell the family about ours?
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ImpYCelyn · 20/09/2011 21:00
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