My DW (do you use DW for the counterpart to DH? am new!) has anorexia and is also ~6 months pregnant.
We live together away from both of our families and so have little in the way of a support network.
I have experienced anorexia before in the past when my sister suffered, and at the time I learned that the best way with her to deal with it was to completely butt out of any conversations about what she ate. Until now I've, on the whole, done the same with DW.
All tests of blood and scans of baby so far have showed no problems whatsoever. Medical professionals have all seemed happy with how things are going.
However... in the last few weeks DW's face has started to show the signs that I spot when her weight is dropping. Her temples and cheeks are a little more sunken than normal and she has quite a development of downy bum fluff on her jawline (which I know may all also be as a result of pregnancy).
She's actually upped her daily calorie intake from circa 1000-1200 before pregnancy, to 1300 to 1400 during it. And since I started to moan at her as a result of this recent facial change it has now gone up to ~1500.
She is ~5'4" and looks healthy when not pregnant when she's about 8.5 stone. When I punch these numbers into calorie intake calculators (there are a few on the net) it suggests she should have been on around 1900 before now, but now at 6 months gone should be on well over 2000.
I'm trying to convince her to up her intake - not an easy task with an anorexic. I keep saying to her that although it might be OK for baby at the level's she's eating it also might not and that there's no risk whatsoever if she was to up her intake. Obviously there is a risk with this to the anorexic mind - she might gain weight.
Result of this is that each time I approach the subject she becomes extremely (and I mean extremely) stressed about it. The anorexic mind comes to the fore and she turns nasty. It's a very jeckyl and hyde thing. This is extremely upsetting. I feel hated to the fullest extent and I have to work hard not to run away, curl up into a ball and cry, or lash out at the walls.
But if I don't say anything she will continue to eat around 1500 calories a day, which might perhaps be detrimental to the development of my unborn child. But then so might the stress that is casued every time I bring it up.
She eats fantastically healthily - fruit and veg aplenty - but is it enough?
I'm really struggling with this.
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DH2R · 01/09/2011 08:53
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