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scared i can't get pregnant..

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livelove Wed 31-Aug-11 23:51:27

i'm quite young but i feel ready to become a mum, i have had unprotected sex but am still not yet pregnant. I'm scared i can't have kids. I have skipped a period but i'm too scared to take a test. I don't think I could take the dissapointment if it came up negative. I also feel my relationship is falling apart and a baby would bring us so much closer as a family!! someone help me? please?!

PotatoesOfTheCarribean Wed 31-Aug-11 23:54:57

Where do I start.....

Graciescotland Wed 31-Aug-11 23:56:41

With once upon a time...

PotatoesOfTheCarribean Thu 01-Sep-11 00:04:39


In the land of makebelieve...

MissRee Thu 01-Sep-11 07:44:31

A baby will NOT repair an already damaged relationship! It's one of the hardest things you will have to do together, raising a child. You don't mention how your partner feels about this... does he even know?

RealityVonCrapp Thu 01-Sep-11 07:45:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

lollystix Thu 01-Sep-11 08:39:36

It always makes me smile when people think a baby will mend a relationship - it's one of the most destructive things you could possibly do to a relationship. Please wait till you are oldersad

justhayley Thu 01-Sep-11 08:44:03

without sounding patronising can I ask why you would want to bring a baby into a relationship that isn't working? If it's not working now it won't work when u have a baby making u cranky and sleepy and taking up all ur time. maybe u should think about working on your self and your relationship before trying to get pregnant. ill be 28 when I give birth, and am lucky enough to have had a really happy relationship for 7 years, but even I feel abit young and am worried about a baby effecting our relationship in a negative way.

Let's be honest if a baby brought relationships together there wouldn't be so many single parents, and Jeremy Kyle would be out of work!

How old are you? Enjoy being young!
If u havnt done so go to uni it's great fun (plus u get an education bla bla bla) see the world, travelling is amazing!
Experience all the things you want for you own life and then have a baby!

I'm sure youl have no problems conceiving, how long have u been trying? If your worried go to your doctor and get a fertility test and if ur not already pregnant maybe the pill.
Don't wana sound harsh, but its just worrying, if u think a baby will save a relationship ur probably not actually ready to have one.
I'm sure when the times right and your in a happy secure relationship with this guy or the next you will make a fantastic mum regardless of age!


Biscuitsandtea Thu 01-Sep-11 09:15:27

Well explained Justhayley - I'd agree with everything you said. I was 30 when I had DS and had been with DH for over 10 years - we have the most stable, calm, relationship and it is still a really hard thing to bring up children. Definitely not a fix for a relationship!

Can I add as well, I think livelove you said that you had already missed a period? If that is the case you should really do a test - if you are pg you ought to know and if not (and you usually have a regular cycle) it may be worth seeing your GP in case there is anything else (but don't panic - even if there is a problem doesn't mean you wouldn't be able to have children).

Good luck.

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