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So ill, can't think straight

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cupcakeandtea · 31/08/2011 08:30

I know I'm at risk of sounding very overdramatic but I'm really at the end of my tether with feeling so ill.

I'm 10 weeks with my second and I feel so ill. I'm on anti-emetics but I'm sitting at my desk at work crying because I just don't know how much longer I can go on feeling like this.

This is a new job (started the day I found out I was pregnant) and I've already taken four days off with severe morning sickness. Just when I think I'm feeling better, I have a terrible day and I can't even look forward to having this baby because all I can think about is how poorly I am.

I just don't know what to do. Part of me thinks I should get signed off for the next couple of weeks but I'm on a fixed term temp contract and I don't want to put myself in a vulnerable position.

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cravingcake · 31/08/2011 09:42

Go home and rest, I was the same in my first trimester where if I wasnt being sick I was concentrating so hard on not being sick I couldnt get anything done and you are no use to anyone like that. There's no point worrying yourself as this is no good for you or your baby. Does your work know you are pregnant?

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cupcakeandtea · 31/08/2011 09:58

Yes, they know I'm pregnant and have been fine about it so far. I actually threw up this morning at work and broke down in front of my line manager. I keep thkining if I can just get through the next few weeks I'll be ok.

It's got to the point now where I can't even imagine what it will be like to feel well.

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MrsHuxtable · 31/08/2011 09:58

I'd second what craving said.
Staying at work and being miserable won't make things better as a) if you don't rest it can just prolong how you are feeling and b) they won't get a better impression from you at work either if you are so ill, you can get nothing done.
Get a sick note that makes clear your illness is related to pregnancy so it cab't be counted for your sickness record.

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BellaCB · 31/08/2011 12:02

cupcakeandtea - lots of sympathy, I remember all too vividly what it was like when you are either sick or crying, and it does suck. Please don't beat yourself up about it and force yourself to stay at work, you sound as though you really are suffering and this isn't something you can just 'positive mental attitude' it through. I third(?) going home, and also do go to your GP and explain how terrible you feel. You might feel better, or find it easier, if you have been signed off for a few days? You sound as if you need the rest.

Hope you feel better soon, let us know how you're doing x

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littleshinyone · 31/08/2011 12:07

I pushed myself too hard in my first pregnancy, and was in a similar situation to you.

I'm now 11 weeks and worse with sickness this time.

The thing is, we're used to being capable strong women who deal with whatever comes and just getting on with it.... but you just can't do it with morning sickness. It is all consuming.

I find the only thing that makes me feel close to normal is lying on the sofa, having a shower or going to bed. The rest of the time, I'm waiting until I can do one of those things!!

Please don't exhaust yourself. it only makes the sickness worse, and then the emotions hit in and it's even worse. You need some days to recover. Maybe ask work about working from home/ coming in late/ half days for a few days, but I haven't been at work for 3 weeks now... and this time round, I'm not feeling guilty.

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Empusa · 31/08/2011 12:11

Early pregnancy seems to be ridiculously hard work. Get signed off, your health is more important!

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Sandra2011 · 31/08/2011 12:15

I was off for 4 weeks in my first pregnancy because I had 24/7 nausea. So I know exactly how you feel.

Go home and rest.

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IvoryRoses · 31/08/2011 12:23

Cupcakeandtea I could have written your post! I am feeling exactly the same. I'm 11 weeks and feeling so so sick all day every day. I too have just started a new job and I'm on a fixed term temp contract, but I've had to ask the doc to sign me off. This is my fourth week off and I'm feeling so guilty as it's a new job but there's no way I could function at work. I am on anti sickness tablets but they are not working :( all I do I lie in bed or on the sofa and I'm starting to feel really down.
Take some time off work, it sounds like you need it. Hope you feel better soon x

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Bumpsadaisie · 31/08/2011 12:26

I had 7 weeks off with DD and 3 weeks off with this DC due in Oct.

Don't fight it, just go with it, you need the time off.

You won't be able to imagine it but as you get towards 15 weeks you should start feeling not quite so awful and by 20 weeks you'll probably feel like you again!

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Anchorwoman · 31/08/2011 13:03

Heaps of sympathy cupcake, I'm 10 weeks with 2nd and sitting at work now feeling completely grim. Am about to chair a long directors meeting this afternoon and honestly don't know if I'll get through it, but work don't know yet so I'm trying to tough it out just now. It's pants isn't it? I don't think I can give any advice really but just to say I know how you're feeling.
Be kind to yourself when you can.

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cupcakeandtea · 05/09/2011 09:19

Many thanks for your replies. I've been off since wed last week and my gp had prescribed some different anti emetics. I've emailed my manager thus morning explaining that I can barely function at home let alone work but she us a bit old school so I expect very little sympathy. However, it's a temp contract and mine and the baby's health is far more important.