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am i a terrible person for thinkin god i hate being pregnant...

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kiki22 Sun 28-Aug-11 12:06:59

i really do hate being pregnant i've been so ill the whole time i just want to fast forward and get my baby! i feel terrible for saying it but it's true, i do get excited when i look at my scans and look at baby stuff but for the most part i just think it sucks!! I also hate all the things i suddenly can't do like play rough with my niece and nefew go on fair ground rides or stand up on the bath edge to change the light bulbs. I'm just thinking now if i can get thro the next few months it'll all be over.

Everytime i hear woman talking about how much they love pregnancy i feel like a crap person does anyone else feel like me?

peanutdream Sun 28-Aug-11 12:09:01

i hate it too. i find it very restrictive. but its not forever. how i am going to get through the next two months (i am 30wks) i have no idea as i am totally fed up with it. i know i should be grateful and i am but part of me is def feeling like you grin.

MrsVidic Sun 28-Aug-11 12:59:40

I started a post like this a few months ago (dd is 3 weeks) you will get the usual amount of ppl calling you ungrateful etc but I totally aggree with you!

If it helps dd2 is only 3 weeks and it is so much easier than when I was preg! I've lost all the weight etc and feel fab! Pregnancy is horrible when you are used to being fit and independent!

Labour wasn't that bad either as each contraction I was thinking, that's one closer to getting the baby out and not being preg anymore

RFCMummy Sun 28-Aug-11 14:10:45

I am so pleased to find others who feel like this! I am half way through with dc4 and have to say I hate every waking moment!

This is def my last one so I get through by counting each week to be one more over in my last ever pregnancy!

Roll on the time when our babies are here!

Empusa Sun 28-Aug-11 14:14:23

I can't say I enjoy pregnancy! Much rather have the baby out of me!

Have had hellish morning sickness though, and can't take painkillers for my back pain, so it's not exactly joyful.

As for being ungrateful? I'll be grateful once I've got through it!

RobintheRobin Sun 28-Aug-11 14:42:28

You've hit the nail right on the head! I didn't want to say it too loud for fear of seeming ungrateful/mean, but being pregnant is crap! All the other Mums-to-be were so happy and radiant at my ante-natal class, they were all leading normal lives, still working etc, but it seems to have been completely different for me......I've felt ill and not been able to sleep for the last 7 months, and I miss how active I used to be.

I'm glad to hear I'm not alone, but sorry to hear you're all suffering too. Of course it'll all be worth it in the end..........but it sucks!

paddyclamp Sun 28-Aug-11 15:39:26

I hated being pregnant...couldn't stand being big, not being able to wear my clothes, not being able to eat this that and the other...and worst of all not being able to drink!

In fact, even the pain of childbirth was preferable to being pregnant!

Don't feel bad for feeling like that...i love my kids...but hey it's a lovely feeling when you do deliver..also i was less tired with a newborn than i was when pregnant!

KateBC Sun 28-Aug-11 20:22:39

I love parts of being pregnant, namely the excitement, feeling kicks etc.

The rest I hate, not being able to throw DS around and not being able to get down on the floor and play properly with him, clearing up toys off the floor being a huge mission, SPD, heartburn, getting halfway through a job then not being able to finish cos it involves lifting or something else I can't do... so frustrating!

Three weeks till due date, can't wait!

motherinferior Sun 28-Aug-11 20:24:02

I loathed every single moment of both my pregnancies. At its absolute best it was like being in a weird cult with peculiar food/drink rules. At its worst...ycch. Just ycccccch.

emsyj Sun 28-Aug-11 20:24:05

I hated being pregnant, and also hated the newborn phase (thought my life was over!!!) But having DD (15 months) is now so amazing and wonderful that I have got over it! (just)


del1 Sun 28-Aug-11 20:38:47

I loved being pregnant with my first two, even giving birth shock
But this time has been totaly different.

We wern't planning this one, and I very nearly had an abortion when we found out, but changed my mind to keep it at the last minute.

I've kept it quiet, as I don't want to sound ungratefull, as I know lots of people struggle, and it is a gift!
I've felt uncomortable, stressed, erratic, and emotional. I've had cramps and painfull twinges every day.
I've put on loads of weight, and just feel old, tired and fat. And actually quite depressed!

I cried for ages the other day, as I secretly feel this way.
Can't really tell anyone, as you get judged.
But ....... I know when the baby is here ( due next week) that I will adore the baby.

So, no - you're not a terrible person for hating being pregnant. I've only understood this time, that each pregnancy is different.

You'll be fine once you have your baby in your arms. wink

BikeRunSki Sun 28-Aug-11 20:42:37

I loathe being pg. Hospitalised with hyperemisis for several weeks both times. In bed for 2 months. Shattered and queasy most of the rest of the time. No biking, running or skiing. 32 weeks pg with DC2 now. In 2 months time my child rearing days are OVER!

m1nn1em0u5e Sun 28-Aug-11 20:45:31

Im not a pregnancy fan either!....3rd time around with Hyperemesis, which is hopefully calming down now, but I hate being big, uncomfortable, worrying about kicks I would do anything for a nice cold Corona right now!....22 weeks to go! smile Its all worth it when the baby arrives smile

roisinanna Sun 28-Aug-11 22:52:09

I hate it... And I had IVF so I should be grateful... But I had it to get a baby, not get pregnant. I've been really sickness.. And I still hate it. It's boring. You're wracked with guilt, anxiety.. Then the's horrible..and yes I know how lucky I am to be having a baby but you're entitled to have issues with the pregnancy.. Plus, I think women lie about how wonderful they think it is.. What the fck is wonderful about it???? proceeds to beat self up with guilt and worry I'll be a terrible mother

MsChanandlerBong Mon 29-Aug-11 08:17:52

OMG I am so glad I'm not on my own. I had no idea just how hard pregnancy was going to be! I haven't really had any significant problems, but seem to have had a bit of a dose of everything (morning sickness, spd, oedema, migraines, carpal tunnel, etc). Plus I have really struggled with the lack of independence and physical ability. And I keep thinking "if I can't cope with this, how will I cope with a baby!" (this is my first pregnancy) so MrsVidic your message above had given me a glimmer of hope... thank you!!

Bartimaeus Mon 29-Aug-11 08:30:20

I'm not enjoying it either. It completely changed my life practically from conception due to sickness, exhaustion etc. and I had to give up my hobbies (karate and walking) because I just can't physically do anything. It's so frustrating.

I have now got a stinking cold too which means my already disturbed nights are even worse.

I'm so looking forward to getting this baby out. For a while I loved feeling the kicks etc. but even those hurt now because I think he's getting cramped in there so he keeps stretching out and OW!!

But I do feel bad about voicing these complaints because I know I'm lucky to be pregnant when others find it hard. I just wish I was one of those women who sail through pregnancy with a smile and a glow.

ElfOnTheTopShelf Mon 29-Aug-11 08:30:38

I do not cope being well pregnant. I had a horrible first pregnancy, I was sick every day, I couldn't eat anything and by the end of the pregnancy I was only able to stomach plain cobs, fish fingers, double decker bars and fanta. Everything else, even the smell or sight, made me sick. I had terrible heart burn, felt faint all the time, could not get comfortable, and the pain in my fricking ribs was awful. A friend of mine was pregnant at the same time and she had an excellent pregnancy which made me miserable.
I waited five years to become pregnant again (well, three by choice, two by nature). Everybody told me that pregnancies were different, and that the second one would be "better". Nope, sick every day again, food was terrible, heart burn was awful, the rib pain almost killed me off. I was sleepy all the time.
Don't get me wrong. I love my children. I just do not enjoy being pregnant. Fortunately me & DH had already agreed that we would only have two children before we had any, so I don't feel any pressure at the idea we had planned another.

PrincessScrumpy Mon 29-Aug-11 09:53:04

I have friends who, a week after giving birth, are really sad they're not pg anymore. I don't get it. I love the kicks and that's about it. After dd1 was born I likened it to a parachute jump I did - glad for the experience but don't need to do it again! I am doing it again but only because we want another baby, would have gladly skipped the pg stage. tbh my pregnancies (even this one with twins) haven't been terrible, but I still want to feel like me again.

GiganticusBottomus Mon 29-Aug-11 10:01:11

Oh I hated it too. It was like being ill for nine months. Love the dc but hated being pg. Oh the backache and the endless weeing - just thinking about it makes me want to lie down. You have my sympathies!

pregnantmimi Mon 29-Aug-11 10:32:47

Can I have a moan now... had sickness, bleeding, massive weight gain 3 stone in 23 weeks, tiredness (my thyroid went underactive might explain the weight gain) spotty skin, greasy hair, wetting myself (sorry). needing a wee every 10 mins and up at night weeing, migranes, pelvis pain, constipation, painful boobs, feeling emotional, sleeping alot or not sleeping, dizzyness, being thirsty and thrush for the first three months it just seems to be one thing after the other that and the constant worry I have just started having recently that Im going to go into labour early(dont know why) as well as other worries keeping me up at night I will just be happy when baby is here and I can have my body and mind back (ish)

I find it hard to that some people dont understand how ill i feel too especially work and just make me feel like Im lazy. Rant over glad someone else feels the samexx

Booboostoo Mon 29-Aug-11 11:02:30

I hated being pregnant too! I didn;t have any serious problems but the 'normal' fatigue and nausea where very debilitating. It was like having a low grade, long term illness.

Now that the baby has arrived I feel active, fit, sporty and great by comparison!

benne81 Mon 29-Aug-11 11:06:56

Well folks it's not really a long time in the scheme of things and many many many people would give their right arm/leg/husband to be able to moan like you on this thread - well worth remembering.

motherinferior Mon 29-Aug-11 11:15:02

It feels like a bloody long time; 40 weeks of anything is actually the best part of a year, which is a long time in my book . And if you have more than one child, it adds up to years of feeling crap. Yes, I know that many women want to have babies. But being pregnant, for lots of us, stinks.

Fennel Mon 29-Aug-11 11:37:21

I also hated every minute of every pregnancy. and 2 of my babies were late so it went on for ever, or felt like it. I never felt I had any energy, as if aliens had taken over my body and drugged it.

On the plus side the relief of not being pregnant any more meant that I enjoyed the newborn phase - my body felt so much better straight away each time. It must be something to do with pregnancy hormones.

MsScarlettInTheLibrary Mon 29-Aug-11 12:44:35

Yep, I hate it. SPD, pelvic pain, sickness and nausea. Tiredness, constant weeing, piles and constipation. Swelling, rib flare, acne, breathlessness and insomnia. Antenatal depression, extreme weight loss, reflux, ulcers and anxiety.

I've gone from being fit and active to a pile of jelly on the sofa and I hate it. I've had to give up most of my hobbies and feel like a sick person. I understand I am lucky to be able to be pregnant but it does not ease the suffering of being so. I was a wreck last time and I'm shaping up to be a wreck this time. And to make matters worse I'm only in the first trimester and nobody even knows I am pregnant - and I don't even know if there's a baby in there myself. I've lost them before and know it's not that simple...

I would give birth every single day for nine months rather than this, but this is the only option.

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