I'm fed up tonight. Just posting really as feeling alone and isolated and need to vent.
I'm currently 22+6 and DH is away on a course in Manchester this week until Thursday night. He was also there Weds-Fri last week.
He's applied to go on another course with work which will mean he is away for the whole week when I'm 28w, 32w and 37w. I really don't want him to go and I've made that very clear but he's agreed to travel daily to the course for the latter 2 weeks (when I'm 32w and 37w) - it'll be a 4hr round trip each day on the train.
Today I also found out that my mother is going away to Morocco when I'm 37w and I don't begrudge her going, she did try to book for October but that trip was cancelled and this is the alternative.
This is my first pregnancy, it's classed as high risk mainly due to my BMI (57) and although I've been incredibly well and healthy throughout so far, I do feel so insecure and feeble when I'm alone. He was away for a course in July for a week and I was very teary and emotional but this week I just feel despondent. I almost feel like I'm going to be a single parent which is totally ridiculous because DH will be a great dad and has looked after me really well.
He just doesn't seem to understand how I feel about him doing this course. Although him travelling daily is better than him staying over for a week he'll still be at least 2 hours away should anything happen to me.
I just feel pathetic and miserable today, I feel like he isn't treating my feelings and my worries about being on my own as I get closer to the due date with the seriousness he should be.
I'm considering whether I should tell him to withdraw his application as they will, in all likelihood, run the course again in the future and I'm not bothered if he goes after the baby has arrived, I just don't want him to go when I'm pregnant. It'll mean that he'll have been away for almost a month of my pregnancy.
Sorry to go on, if anyone is still reading, any views on whether it's selfish to ask him to postpone the course? My mother thinks it'd be holding him back :(
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pruney1977 · 23/08/2011 21:55
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