Sorry I just need to let off some steam. Am furious at the moment and have nobody here to chew their ear off...
I am 34 weeks pregnant with a DD, and have 2 DD's at home aged 3 and 4, I lost a DD last year due to a severe heart defect when she was 15 weeks gestation, so yes I may be slightly sensative to other peoples reactions, however, if one more person gives me the sympathy look and say's 'oh well, not to worry' I am really worried I may just hit them!
Yes I have 2 daughters already, and yes this baby is also a girl, but NO, I am not sitting at home with my head in my hands weeping because she isn't a boy. And how DARE the woman in the high street today tut and tell me I have 'just been unlucky' to be expecting another girl! A total stranger telling me how unlucky I am to be having a healthy baby girl!!!! I just stood there open mouthed. She then said, 'but your girls are beautiful though' - yes they bloody well are, who the hell does she think she is!
I understand the gender disappointment for some couples, DP suffered with this slightly when we found out DD's sex, but for friends, family and complete strangers to look so sorry for us because we are having another girl is in my opinion bloody rude. My brother-in-law (who doesn't pay much attention to anything outside his own bubble) asked me a couple of days ago if we knew what we were having, then rolled his eyes and and shook his head and said 'oh no' when I said we were having a girl. In fact I can count on one hand how many people who haven't reacted in a negative way.
I really wish we hadn't told anyone what we are having because I would hope they wouldn't react so negatively when baby is here.
Being that this is our last child, we would have loved to have had a son too, but there is not one part of me that is upset that our baby is a girl. And no, for the thousand time - we will not be 'trying again'! The amount of people who say 'yeah, right' when I tell them this is our last baby is really infuriating. We wanted 3 children, not 2 of one and one of the other. We didn't have a boy, so what?! Our daughters are healthy and happy. People's reactions are really getting me down. I want to enjoy my last pregnancy and especially as I am in the final weeks now. Im just so fed up of all these negative reactions!
DP said I should just tell people that we dont know the sex or that baby is a boy if it's getting to me so much. But why should I? I am happy to be having another girl, as happy as I would have been if she had been a boy. Why should I have to lie?!
Sorry, rant over. Thanks for listening x
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NatzCNL · 15/08/2011 19:52
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