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Am not really sure what you are trying to say or ask?

well i just wanna no if it nomal how i feel and if any one else have had any of this! sorry

hi ya I am 26+1 weeks.
I had some sex the other night and it really hurt, I still have a bit of a pain.
Also I have bad depression and I really cant wait for my baby to be here.

I moved into a new flat and I'm worried I will have her early and not have any of her stuff here, every one else is telling me to wait and do it next week or closer to the due date.

Sorry I'm not being rude, but I'm a little confused at what you are asking as well.

Have you had pain after sex?? Is that worrying you?? I would suggest discussing any serious concerns like that with NHS Direct/ your midwife/ your doctor.

I think its normal to want everything spotless and ready for your new arrival. No idea about the pains, try speaking to your MW and asking her for advice?

is your depression being treated? have you spoken to your midwife about it? there are anti-depressants you can take whilst pregnant and breastfeeding if you aren't taking anything at the moment

you sound really anxious?
personally i wouldn't worry too much at 26 weeks about having everything ready, but if it's going to cause you a lot of stress not having things done then i think it would be nice if you could do it.

do you have a husband/partner? family?

thanks i am not on tabs just now as i havent really spoke to them but its got to the point i worry about every thing! i cant even sleep just now i have had a most 4 hours sleep a night!
yes i have a boyfriend and a close family! xx

Try not to stress, you will just need basics to start - outfit, nappies and blankets for baby, you can sort the rest bit by bit. As for pain after sex I think a few people on here have said the same thing, I know my stomach goes rock hard and is uncomfertable but am sure others can give more advice but if really painful see your Dr. You still have a fair bit of time but I am like you and wanted to be ready in case I had an early baby as am a bit of a sods law person. Am sure you will be fine, do you have friends you can talk to?

yea! i think it mostly the matter that i have every thing and every one as left it at mothers house! its sound silly but i as so worried about every thing about having her in the snow! as i live in a valley we get snowed n live next to a river so 999 sevices wont come down to where i stay!! xx i keep cleanin my flat over and over again! i dont even stay there that long as i go to my mums but i seam to b so scared that social services will get in volved because i do have dispressoin xx

look, i had depression and a history of self harm and suicide attempts.

i was very open with my midwives and it helped! social services were not involved at all, not even mentioned.

a lot of people suffer from depression and have kids and never see social services at all. they would only ever be involved if they felt that you or your child were at risk of harm, and frm what you've said here that's highly unlikely!

i would really urge you to talk to your midwife and see what extra support they can offer you as a depressed mum to be. having depression may mean you are more likely to go on to suffer post-natal depression and that's horrible and not something i would wish on anybody.

so please get help now. talk to the midwife, and see your doctor about maybe getting some appropriate drugs that can help with your depression and anxiety.

then, get your partner to help you get everything ready for the baby so yo0u have less things to worry about.

thanks! ur a god send xx