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Am I the only mum-to-be in the world not desperate to have my baby ASAP/preferably sooner?

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MrsBloomingTroll Mon 01-Aug-11 19:15:07

I'm currently almost 39 weeks and all anyone can say is "I bet you can't wait to have the baby now" or "I bet you're excited to meet your baby". Well, yes I am (very much so), but I've got a few practical/nesting things left to sort out first, and I could really do with making it to my due date, or near enough, to make sure that everyone on standby to help is available. I'm also cherishing my last few days with just DD1 and I, and I'm sad to be waving goodbye to our lives as a family of three. And this is my last pregnancy, all being well.

Ok, I'll admit that the current hot weather (in the UK) is making things a bit uncomfortable, but I also had this type of weather at the end of my first pregnancy and gave birth to DD1 at the height of a heatwave.

I'm not in denial, I know this baby needs to come out. I have no fear of labour and childbirth after a decent experience first time around. I'm not especially fond of the sleepless nights, and "why the f* is the baby crying now?!" moments but know I/we got through it okay last time and I tend to cope okay with broken sleep.

I'm firmly of the belief that the baby will come when it's ready, as DD1 did, and I'm not going to agree to be induced or start on the raspberry leaf tea etc just yet!

I must say, I am dreading the onslaught of visitors after the birth. Maybe that's why I feel like this?! I'm hoping my DH will help me to manage visits a bit better this time. I'm also apprehensive of managing two DCs by myself as DH won't be able to take much paternity leave and we don't have family in the close vicinity.

Anyone else feel like this or just me?

RitaMorgan Mon 01-Aug-11 19:21:47

I was sick of being pregnant in the end but didn't want the baby out any quicker. I'm also a believer in them coming when they're ready and didn't want to mess about with curry and sweeps grin

Poweredbypepsi Mon 01-Aug-11 19:29:22

I dont want to worry you but in the day or so before going into labour with mine i normally get a sense of calm as though just relaxing into it, and start thinking ah this pregnancy isnt so bad. With a few hours im normally getting early labour signs.
grin
good luck

MrsBloomingTroll Mon 01-Aug-11 19:37:52

Thanks Pepsi but I've been like this for a couple of weeks already!

Rita I did actually go for a sweep with DD1 as the midwife was so lovely, but it turned out I was already dilating by then.

coastgirl Mon 01-Aug-11 19:39:35

I'm 39 weeks today and feel the same way - I just don't get all the people trying desperate measures to evict baby from 37 weeks+. Ok, when you get past 40, fair enough, but I want this baby to be healthy and come when it needs to, not when I want it to.

Firawla Mon 01-Aug-11 19:58:46

OP i tend to be the same because I am disorganised and I don't get stuff ready till the last minute, so I need all the extra time I can get

magicmelons Mon 01-Aug-11 20:20:16

I could do with the extra time, i've been overdue by 14 days twice before so i'm counting on that again although i remember in the end i was really fed up, mostly of people asking me when i was going to give birth and saying"have you not had that baby yet".

I definitely don't feel like i'm waiting some of my colleagues are pregnant too and they are counting the days and have bought everything, just generally excited, i'm a realist or rather i've been there.

MrsBloomingTroll Mon 01-Aug-11 21:36:59

I forgot to mention that my EDD was already moved forward by 10 days at my scan. So I've still partly got my original due date (based on LMP and conception date) stuck in my head. Which would give me another 2-3 weeks to go.

A good friend of mine who has had 3 DCs always says that each one was born soon after she ticked the last thing off her "to-do" list and decided she was "ready". I'm subscribing to the same thing. Got a couple of important deliveries of baby stuff that it would be useful to have before this one arrives, and I'd like to hold out for it.

babylove80 Mon 01-Aug-11 21:43:41

I totally agree and understand. I'm really lucky I've had a really good pregnancy and got lots to organise in the house so no rush. Also enjoying just having time to myself as I know I will never be this way again. I got pregnant on honeymoon so still a newlywed and so just enjoying being the two of us and having lie inns and doing what we want. Obviously we are so so excited but all in good time! Don't feel guilty just enjoy and live in the momentgrin nothing wrong with that x

RobynLou Mon 01-Aug-11 21:45:57

I still had things to do at 39 weeks, I needed DD2 not to be born early, but by 41+4 I was very much over being pg!!!

she was due on the 26th Jan, it was when it went into feb that I got fed up!

Mumswang Mon 01-Aug-11 21:49:54

I'm 39 weeks today. Ds was 3 weeks early do I've been keeping my legs firmly crossed for the last few weeks

We've just moved house and still have so much to do before I can have it!

Today I built a wardrobe and painted our bedroom. Oh and dog proofed the hedge

Tomorrow I must get the spare bed put together in case we need ut for a granny when I do have this baby

Must also buy sone maternity pads and pack my bag

No - it's not allowed to come yet. I need another 2 weeks grin

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Mon 01-Aug-11 21:59:40

Op I totally understand am 34.4 and would be quite happy to have an extra month or two added on the end.

Dd will be 3.6 when ds arrives and have had a funnny old time throughout this pregnancy.

MrsBloomingTroll Mon 01-Aug-11 22:14:59

Mumswang you sound just like me grin.

MoonFaceMamaaaaargh Mon 01-Aug-11 22:57:05

i'm 32 weeks and not in any hurry. Yes looking forward to meeting dc2, and even the labour etc (was fine with ds) but have lots to do.

I'm self employed and need to tie things up...can't just go off on mat leave if the lo comes early. It's hanging over me!

Also enjoying ds while it's still just him and relishing what will prob be my last pg. sad

So yes op, i completely understand. smile

PrincessJenga Mon 01-Aug-11 22:58:31

I did agree. Then my midwife started talking induction and now I just want baby to arrive... Naturally!

rooks14 Tue 02-Aug-11 00:23:45

OP i can understand a bit being 39 weeks, but everyone else who's 32 or 34 weeks saying it, I can't wait to read in six or seven weeks times when you're fed up, overdue, no one will leave you alone from texts and and then I'm going to laugh grin. 32 weeks is a long way off to be saying you want more time!

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Tue 02-Aug-11 06:36:26

Rook I understand what your saying, partly in my defence when o had my daring scan I did lose 3 weeks shock

bunnyfrance Tue 02-Aug-11 06:45:42

mrsblooming I could have written your post. I'm 38 weeks and am just trying to enjoy the time I have left alone with DS1.

I get the impression most people who feel like this already have DC....we know what's coming and are fully aware that babies are much easier to look after on the inside than out!

KateBC Tue 02-Aug-11 07:06:41

I'm 33 weeks and by 38 weeks I will definitely be ready! I say this because DS1 was born at 38 weeks, which was a complete shock as o was expecting to go overdue, so have made sure everything is ready well in advance for this one.

The other reason is that my uncle from Australia who I very rarely see was over when I was pregnant last time, stayed for 3 months, and left 2 days before DS 1 arrived! He's over again, I'm pregnant again and his flight home is 7 days before my due date, so would really like him to meet this one before he goes back home

If it wasn't for that, then I'd be happy waiting (apart from SPD that's getting steadily worse) as I'm enjoying time with our family of 3, and making the most of My time with DS1

MrsBloomingTroll Tue 02-Aug-11 07:38:45

DH's parting comment on his way to work this morning was that I am banned from going into labour today as he is far too busy at work (which, to be fair, he is - he has cleared the decks from next week).

So it's not just me, in our household at least!

tawrag Tue 02-Aug-11 07:43:28

mrsblooming, I hope all goes well when you're ready (and baby of course). Re visitors, I suggest you put your foot down now. Tell people you'll invite them when you're ready.

MrsBloomingTroll Tue 02-Aug-11 08:43:27

I am going to be stricter about visitors this time. No ILs on the day my milk comes in and I'm trying to establish breastfeeding. No visit from DH's boss and his family (luckily he has a new boss now) who brought lovely presents but whose kids woke up baby DD1 repeatedly. No visits from any family members not willing to pull their weight on the tea-making front or at least offer to assist with meals if staying to eat. No overnight guests other than my Mum. No snidey comments allowed about the state of the house or the fact that I'm still in my pyjamas (if I am). And I am not being banished to the bedroom of my own house just because breastfeeding might make some older male family members feel a bit uncomfortable (disclaimer: I cover my top half with a shawl when I feed, not like I sit there boobs-out when they're around!).

Just had the daily text from a member of DH's family. Thinly-veiled way of trying to find out if I'm in labour yet - she sends daily texts with her latest theories about the gender of the baby (we don't know) and when it will arrive, and asks for my thoughts. She's even having dreams about the baby, FFS. It's my baby and I'm not having dreams about it!! Wish she would just get on with having some more of her own...vicarious broodiness drives me mad!

And breathe...

Right, on with the nesting. Cupboards to clear out and sort!

NigellaLawless Tue 02-Aug-11 09:08:17

I love this thread!!!! grin And am so glad to find out I am not the nly one who feels like this.

I have had to finish work early due to truely awful carpal tunnel and they have now found out I have high blood pressure. Everyone keeps telling me 'don't worry its not long now' (5 weeks to EDD) but quite frankly I have too much to do to be impatient for him to arrive. I would really appreciate him staying on the inside for the next five weeks so that I can regain the energy sapped by full time work and get the house sorted out so that when he does come everything is ready for him.

I honestly thought I was the only one who felt this way. Thank you all for reassuring me I'm not mad/bad/uncaring for wanting my baby not to make a surprise appearance tomorrow! smile

MrsBloomingTroll Tue 02-Aug-11 09:22:24

Welcome Nigella, hope you feel better soon!

SpottyFrock Tue 02-Aug-11 09:22:39

I'm not due til 10th sept but the teacher in me is really hoping he or she can hang on until at least sept 1st. All my other three have been early though so I'm considering bedrest for the lady week in august if I can persuade dh to take it off!

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