Hello everyone,
I've lurked for a while now and this is my first post here.
I'm 38 weeks pg and booked to have a c-section next week (breech baby & low lying placenta) and I have a 2 year old boy.
I had my last appointment with my midwife today and she said because she was on annual leave for a bit, she would talk to my health visitor about me because I live 4 hours from my family and I have previously suffered very badly with post natal depression.
My partner and I also had a rough time when I was 28 weeks pg. Basically, he had one episode of drinking rather too much, getting shouty outside because he'd locked himself out, I was away anyway at my sisters. The next day, due to anaemia, I collapsed in town and cut my face and had to have stitches. The day after, the police turned up and said there had been a report of domestic violence, after we both explained respective situations, they were not convinced despite me saying I could get proof I had not been at the house and had been to A&E elsewhere.
The police advised our GP and partner went to see him about treatment for depression and it was mentioned then.
It was also mentioned at my next midwife appointment but I told her exactly what happened and she didn't seem to believe me but it was never mentioned again.
My partner came with me to my appointment today (he hasn't been to the last few due to work) and she seemed to take exception to that.
Today, after my appointment, my midwife rang and said that due to the history of domestic violence (which is not the case) and my history of PND and partner receiving treatment for depression plus us living 4 hours from MY family (but only live 2-3 minutes walk from his!!) they were referring me to social services because of our son and unborn child.
Whilst I have nothing to hide, I have seen horror stories (like many of us have) about social services getting involved and I am concerned.
The other thing she mentioned was that when partner was 22, he was charged with assault and drunk and disorderly, we were honest about this from the start with her as it was flagged up when partner had a child with his ex wife. Also, she thinks that because I got divorced this year, despite being seperated for 4 years, this is likely to make me depressed?
I am really concerned at the moment....just wondering if anyone has been through the same and could offer any advice on what to expect?
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Referral to Social Services...Advice Please
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memphisto · 28/07/2011 20:19
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