Basically, I think I'm just after a moan and some sympathy here and maybe hearing that other people as feeling low and as negative as I am at the moment...
I'm 14w into my first BFP, and since week 5 I have been sick, I've been on prochlorperazine for two months now, and while the tablets help I'm still being sick 2-3 times a day. I know I've been lucky that I have avoided hospital, that some days I can keep down meals, and that I haven't lost too much weight or become too dehydrated, but it is still a constant struggle to eat. I'm sure it's making me more tired and sluggish too because I'm just not getting any real nuitrition for me at all (baby, fortunately, is absolutely fine).
I know I'm also lucky that I have a desk job with sympathetic colleagues and easy access to a bathroom, but it's still hard getting in 5 days a week and time off isn't an enormous option unless I am chronically ill as we are a very small team and also another girl is 22w pregnant. My DP is trying his hardest to help and support me but he does shift work - which I think is part of my problem, in that I am alone in the house quite a lot . My parents and most of my close friends are supportive and sympathetic but none of them are near enough to, say, come around and help out with the house or keep me company in the evening, though they are always happy to chat on the phone, so I am starting to feel incredibly lonely after two months of not being able to really have a social life.
What's really tipped me over the edge, I think, is that my oldest friend, who does live pretty close to me, has seemed a little off about this pregnancy and more concerned with how it will effect her. Then last night she called out of the blue to say that she had been reading a lot of self-help books and wanted to have a 'heart to heart' about our relationship and needed me to give her lots of feedback about how she is. Basically the conversation ended in her admitting that she is a bit 'put out' by my pregnancy (she hasn't had children yet) and is also resentful that I am ill and can't carry on going out to see her. She also said that she wasn't giving me the support I wanted as she felt I hadn't explained how ill I was, which is probably a fair point, but I didn't think anyone who isn't/hasn't been sick in pregnancy is prepared to hear about the toilet-hugging and the sore throat and the sore knees from kneeling and the inability to clean your teeth... (though I did give her some quite graphic explanations at that point...) The whole conversation really upset me; of course I support her decisions and beliefs but I just felt like.... now? Right now, you want to talk about this? Maybe I'm being incredibly selfish but I just feel as if I am owed a little 'Bella' time in my friendships at this particular point in time. Is that wrong?
I just feel like this is all starting to get on top of me now. This is supposed to be such a happy time, such a good thing - this is a very much wanted BFP - but I'm utterly exhausted, struggling to cope with being so sick, VERY hormonal and tired (I burst into tears this morning the moment I woke up, which confused my DP quite a bit!) and just... bluergh. I desperately want to be happy but I just can't be at the moment and while I love the idea of having a baby, I'm starting to hate this pregnancy. And that isn't the kind of thing you can explain to someone who hasn't been through this, so I feel I can't really talk to my friends and family at the moment.
So... sorry to moan so much, but can someone else out there please tell me that they are, or did, struggle this much? That it did get better?
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14 weeks, still very sick, tired, and really starting to struggle...
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BellaCB · 19/07/2011 12:52
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