My OH is a lovely, caring, loving man but I just can't seem to get past his reaction to our pregnancy. We started TTC in January but haven't made a big deal of it - I did a test a couple of weeks ago when when AF was due and got 2 very very faint positives. Was past myself with excitement and couldn't wait to tell OH. Showed him the tests and his reaction was 'Oh, looks like a line - hope you are.' and that was it - he then started planning for a night out we were meant to be on next night (big pi$$ up) - I was upset that his first thought wasn't that we needed to find out for sure before we went drinking...
Took another test the next morning - BFP and texted him a picture of the result. He rang and said 'I'm over the moon' but then went to the pub on the planned night out after work - I had to ring him to come home and he couldn't understand why I thought he should have come straight home.
Fast forward 2 weeks and I'm so disappointed by how it's going - I admit I've probably expected too much but I get so jealous (feel a tad pathetic typing that - I'm quite a strong person usually) reading about other partners fussing round and being excited etc - we've barely spoken about it and every time I mention something I feel like an inconvenience. We're meant to be going away in a fortnight and the holiday will involve camping for a week - no problem with this and I'm not being precious at all - but I did express that he might need to carry more of my share of the rucksack (we don't drive so will be backpacking) weight and that I may need a proper airbed as my boobs are really sore and may make lying on our usual very, very thin camping pads uncomfortable. We're also meant to be going to a few theme parks and when I said I was gutted I'd not be able to go on the rides I hoped he'd react (to all 3 issues) with 'of course - anything you need' but instead I got 'Why?, you'll only be a few weeks in..'
He's also told me about a lad he works with who is absolutely buzzing as he's expecting his first grandchild - apparently he can't keep the grin off his face and is dying to start buying things etc - I just wanted to cry as OH doesn't understand that this is how I wanted him to react...
Sorry for the really long rant - I just wanted to get it off my chest and gague opinion - is anyone else's OH not as enthusiastic as you hoped? I know I can't dictate his reaction etc but i just can't help being so disappointed. Feel free to tell me to stop moaning and that this is normal - first baby craziness setting in methinks! xx
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Feel awful asking but is anyone else disappointed with partners' reaction / behaviour?
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NorthernGirlie · 16/07/2011 10:57
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