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That I'm not estatic that I'm pregnant

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jubblicious Wed 06-Jul-11 23:53:03

I've just found out I'm pregnant. My DS is 7 months. He just started sleeping through the night. And I've just felt like I've got a hold on my life again.

I was on the pill, but I was ill after getting sunstroke.

Anyone else have babies close in age to each other and was ok?

IRCL Wed 06-Jul-11 23:54:35

Only have one child so can't comment about how difficult it might be/not be.

YANBU for not being estatic, must of come as quite a shock so your bound to feel a mixture of emotions!

Acceptableintheeighties Thu 07-Jul-11 00:04:47

Dd1 was 9 months when I got pg with twins and was 17 months when they were born!

Tbh, having them so close together was easier than it seemed to everyone else. Dd still had her afternoon nap, had no school runs to get ready for, still in the nappy stage etc and now dd1 is nearly 3 and dts are walking and interacting with her, it's wonderful.
Dd1 was never jealous as she quickly forgot what it was like before dts arrived.

They are fantastic together, they all play together, laugh at each other and encourage each other-they give each other rounds of applause for the littlest things!

When their older too, it will be easier to have days out etc as you won't have a wide age gap to bridge.

Not saying there weren't hard days but the baby stage really doesn't last long!

DancingWind Thu 07-Jul-11 00:12:06

You are not being unreasonable at all. I'd be miserable if I was in your place. I'm ashamed to say I'd probably get a termination(certainly don't mean to imply you should get one). I think you are incredibly strong. Your body and mind have barely recovered from decidedly difficult phase and now you have to go through it again. Naturally you are not going to be thrilled.
But what had to happen has happened and you have made the brave decision to go through with it. I am certain you will find the strength within you to cope. I'll pray that you dosmile In the meantime-congratulations. Not just for the new life you are about to bring into the world, but for being the strong woman you are.

SouthStar Thu 07-Jul-11 00:13:33

My ds was 3 months when I fell pregnant with dd. I wont lie, its no easy task having them so close together.
Just as I started to get really big with dd, ds learnt to walk which made things alot easier but my back is messed up for life now through the ups and down of having a small child while being pregnant.
They argue a fair amount over toys, tv, food infact everything lol but when they get on its so lovely to see.
In the grand scheme of things I dont think the age gap matters too much as their will always be hard times and fantastic times however big or small the age gap between siblings.

strongwilled Thu 07-Jul-11 00:34:04

i have 5 children. 10,9,3,1, and 7months. when i found out i was pregnant with my last baby i was very shocked. had been using contraceptive patch and came totaly out of the blue. i work 2 jobs and really didnt think i could cope with a 5th. although i didnt want to be pregnant i knew deep down i couldnt have a termination because being a mum already i knew that even if this baby wasnt planned that the minute they were born i would love him/her as much as thier brothers and sisters, i also wouldnt beable to handle the guilt i would feel. its hard when you have more than one child but i've found that with each new addition to the family the best thing to do was get in a routine, get out of the house, go playgroups and parks, speak with other mums, but also try and find a bit time for you. i'm lucky to have a great hubby, a supportive family, and great circle of friends. i go back to work in a few weeks and people ask how to you do it. 5 kids, 2 jobs, and a house. i just tell them you get on with it. if you want something bad enough and you have the will power to do it, you'll get there. so don't worry if you feel scared, you wouldn't be the first. but the rewards you get from seeing your tiny creation of love grow and flourish will be doubley as good second time round too. good luck.

QueenCee Thu 07-Jul-11 07:44:50

I'm PG with DC2. DD is 8 months, although was 7 months when I found out. There will be 16 months between them.
I think for me it's knowing what's round the corner. With DC1 you are in the dark about everything and pregnancy is easier as you just rest when you need to.... You know it will be tiring with a newborn but you can't comprehend that until it happens and knocks you for six.
Now I'm PG with DC2, although very much wanted, it's definately taken the edge off the excitement as i know exactly what we are in for and probably worse as we will already have a LO who will be running about.
I'm trying to look at all the positives.... Close in age so will keep each other company... Getting all the hard work out the way in one go rather than coming out of the baby phase and then going back in it... I never got my figure back, would have been more pissed off to have worked at that and then got PG!!
Once baby is here, you will be over the moon and full of love and happiness.
Good luck

OracleInaCoracle Thu 07-Jul-11 07:48:43

yabu. this is not an AIBU, try in pregnancy. you will get a roasting here

kreecherlivesupstairs Thu 07-Jul-11 07:53:34

I don't think YABU. My sister is queen of the fertile people. She has eight children. The first two had 11 months between them. She went on to have the next six at approxiamately 15 month intervals. She survived and her children are lovely.
You can feel however you want to feel.

hellospoon Thu 07-Jul-11 08:34:02

kreecher wow! Hat off to your sister. no way could I do that!

hellospoon Thu 07-Jul-11 08:34:02

kreecher wow! Hat off to your sister. no way could I do that!

kreecherlivesupstairs Thu 07-Jul-11 08:44:47

Nor me. I am queen of the unfertile and very happy with our single DD. Sister, oddly enough, had twin pregnancies for all of hers and lost a twin in each apart from the last when she delivered the whole set.

HeyYouJimmy Thu 07-Jul-11 12:18:24

I thought it was great having 12m 2wks between DS(6) and DD(5) as I knew it wouldn't be long before toilet training of both kids would be over and it was fab not having to spend money on nappies. That meant more money freed up for other nice things like more fishing tackle (I love my fishing), days out with DC's to the zoo/farm/aquarium etc.

jubblicious Thu 07-Jul-11 22:48:10

Thanks guys. I think the initial shock got to me as it wasn't planned. I am now getting used to the idea. Here we go again lol

KaraJS Thu 07-Jul-11 22:57:58

I'm 7 weeks pg and my youngest is 16 weeks , got to say I'm abit apprehensive! Have no Experiance of having them close together , older children are 16 and 8 so 8 years between each of them

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