Aaaargh ffs I know this has been done to death but I am really SICK of people saying "you're big aren't you." A man - a stranger has just come to clean my oven. The conversation goes along the lines of pleasantries then launches straight in there with " when are you due?" "9 weeks i tell him." "oh, you're big, you look ready now". " oh, that's not really what I want to hear".
A lady in my office said the same to me yesterday. even my sister in law said "wow! it's been so long since we saw you. and we are so used to you being so tiny..."
I am so fed up it's making me a bit sad. I have already gained 3 stone so not been the most careful but my size 12 mat wear fits so I didn' t think I was doing too badly. I was MUCH bigger by now with DS1 and nobody said anything. Please cheer me up or tell me something clever to say that doesn't make me sound like I am totally defensive. I really do want to go and have a little cry 
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You're big, aren't you?
chinateacup · 06/07/2011 09:23
"I am big. It's called being pregnant. What's your excuse?!"
"Your very perceptive aren't you?!" (very sarcastic tone for that one!)
Not good with the come back lines but don't you take a blind bit of notice. I've always been a size 12 and still am at 24 weeks, BUT I've always had comments on my weight and you wouldn't believe the comments I've had from some people about the amount of weight I've put on, even though it really is just baby and bump etc!!!
Ignore them and enjoy your beautiful bump. I'm sure you look just fine. 
P.S. As for the woman in the office she has probably been jealous of your slim figure and sees a baby bump as an opportunity to make herself feel better. Silly cow!
Same here, Im due 22nd Sept, so still 11 weeks left. Last week I visited a friend, and her friend who Ive met on the odd occassion asked how long I had left, when I told her she said "wow you are gonna be huge, I was that big when I gave birth!" - how I didn't smack her in the mouth I dont know. Then 2 days ago all the mums at my daughters pre-school were commenting on how tiny I am.... cant win either way!
My babies have growth spurts so at some points I get big quick, then I stay a similar size for a couple of weeks until the next growth spurt kicks in. I felt huge at 5 months and got lots of comments about my size, then a week later people were surprised that I hadn't doubled in size again!
Ignore them, I tend to tell people, 'Yes, there is a small person in there, what did you expect?' And have said this on a few occassions. Dont care if people think it is slightly rude, I think it is very rude to call me fatty but I get that from them 
And bearing in mind I am usually a size 10 (and in 10-12 mat clothes) - some people have taken great delight in my expanding waist line. This is DC3 by the way, so it's no surprise at the size I get! Grrr xx
He is being very sweet at the min MrsRhettButler. He keeps asking the women where he works for advice and started asking the midwife a lot of questions about breast feeding when we last went!
He's also started rubbing my back and belly at night before bed to help me sleep and most days he says how well I'm doing!!!
I this this pregnancy is having a good effect on him!!
Renaissance my DP is being lovely too - he came up behind me while I was brushing my teeth this morning and said "being pregnant really suits you, you look lovely" 
I'm not sure whether I want people to say I'm big, or not. I feel huge for 19 weeks and have been wearing maternity clothes for 2 weeks (clingy show-off-the-bump stuff) and yet there are still some people at work who have come steaming round to my office in SHOCK - "OMG are you really pregnant, when were you going to tell people??" I hoped it was pretty obvious but perhaps not?? 
Perhaps I have to start sticking my belly out to make myself look even larger.
"yes but once i've had the baby i'll go back to normal. You, however, will still be a nob." Ok, ok, it's a churchill rip off, and i wouldn't actually say it!
Upahill i hope you are right, that people are tougher in your neck of the woods, and not just biting their tongue and feeling dreadfull.
I don't personally mind the remarks about my size...i'm not exactly svelt at the best of times, but the ill informed comments that big bump always equals a huge, unbirthable baby really get my goat. It's all part of a culture that likes to present birth as both terrifying (oooh, it's gonna be a wopper...good luck) and denigrates the effort involved (has she popped it out yet?)
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Just this week I have a had a conversation with a checkout lady who thought it would be ok to tell me how huge I am (27weeks), that I'll never make it to term and, wait for it, "There is no way that baby will fit out of your vagina"
Please somebody let me know when it is ok to discuss someone's vagina whilst waiting for your shopping
Thankyou all for sharing and for lovely comments and cheerying me right up. Goodnes knows what folks will be saying in 2 weeks time when I hit the Balearic beaches in my BIKINI !!!
(praying for "fit to fly"!)
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