have you considered your mum / sister / best friend? Lots of people do this or alternativly having a Birth doula is very popular. I have been a birth doula for quite a few years now, so if you would like any info about us and what we do please feel free to get in touch. You can email me at Victoria@northlondondoulas or go through the site www.northlondondoulas.co.uk and i would be happy to answer any questions about costs etc and point you in the right direction.
Aww dont be scared! When i had my second daughter i really wamted the birth filmed so asked would my mum be willing to do it. She said yes and as my due date drew nearer and nearer i started to wonder if i had done the right thing as my mum is a gem, but she can be very assertive and opinionated and i feared she would get in the way and irritate me. But as it turned out none of the above happened and it was actually quite nice having her there with us.x
I think its important you do what ever feels the most comfortable for you kate as the more relaxed and in control you are the better your birth experience will be. I think your way out of my catchment but if you would like any advice or someone to talk to you know where to find me