Did your DP/DH change when baby arrived?(5 Posts)
My DH and I used to spend our weekends usually with a good many alcoholic drinks in us but how times have changed!
It was a struggle at first but now he drinks and I dont. Most of the time it truly doesnt bother me but he does pop for a pint after work once a week which can stem from 1 pint up to about 5 (1 when he knows Ill be home from work on time, 5 if Ive gone shopping or to see my parents). He spends his weekends with me either out with friends or we watch films/tv together (he drinks out and at home) so I dont really mind him going as its not like hes clubbing at the weekends and hes usually home by 8pm.
He does have the odd night out with the lads too (as I do with the girls) but I just dont know how Ill feel about the pub night when baby arrives. I joke (ish!) about all the night out passes Im clocking up whilst being pregnant and if I do ever get annoyed with him drinking I can whole heartedly admit its because Im jealous! (admit to me not him!)
So how did your DP/DH act when baby arrived? Did his life stay the same?
Were going to struggle more financially when baby arrives as I only get SMP so the last thing Ill want him doing is spending our money in the pub but at the same time I dont want to become a nag!
This was exactly like me and DH. His social life was much more hectic than mine with golf at weekends, and playing in the darts team twice a week. On the inbetween nights he used to go out for a drink.
DD is now 2.5 and he plays darts one sometimes twice a week, thats it. For the first 1.5 years he carried on playing golf and that was the hardest bit to stick because it was around 8 hours on a saturday and so I was a SAHM with a partner home only on Sundays. I didnt ask him to stop golf as I knew it was part of who he is etc. He hit hard times and he had to quit golf and then quickly realised how much nicer family weekends were and he hasnt been back, only to play the odd game, He still plays darts one evening a week and goes for the very occasional night out.
I think he's too tired as DD gets us up so early and he values family time a lot more now. But I admit I did a lot of moaning about it in the early days.
Newmommy maybe try talking to him about the fact he will not be able to drink as you get towards your due date as he will have to drive you so can't risk being over limit. It will give you a chance to see how he copes without his drink for a few weeks or if he can still enjoy the pub without drinking.
I don't know my dh has the occasional boys night out but doesn't dissapear to the pub on a night and spends his weekend with me maybe talk to him about it he may not realise how you feel men aren't exactly perceptive lol
My husband would still pop out for a quick pint after work once our DD had arrived and that would then turn into a few more - it drove me crazy as I couldn't eat until he got home and I would be so exhausted - having to wait a few more hours to have someone else there felt like too much. I told him about it several times but it didn't click until I left him alone with DD for a day. Once he had the experience, he understood much better why I got so pissed off with him for coming home late!
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