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Is this just hormones or something more

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glitternanny Tue 21-Jun-11 08:08:10

Is anyone else feeling really stressed and anxious about everything or is it just me?

I had a really rough night last night in floods of tears feeling scared about everything and anxious about getting a baby at the end of all of this and everything going okay. I'm scared, I feel alone, lonely tho my OH is great I ... I dunno.. I cried myself to sleep last night and I feel I could cry all day today.

Yesterday all stemmed from needing to make a decision whether to do natal hypnothereapy or an hypnobirthing type course with a lady I know - something I feel I need to help me get through labour.

My oh suggested going to the dr and getting some pills, I have a history of depression - is this hormones or something more.

I know stress is bad for the baby.

I expected to wake up this morning and feel quiet but more positive but I'm feeling just as rubbish and crying.

Oh god, I've got so much going around my head.....

gives self a slap

JoyceBarnaby Tue 21-Jun-11 08:16:17

To a certain extent, I think feelings of anxiety are normal for pregnancy - they certainly were for me. Especially in my 2nd pregnancy. I cried a lot and at times felt quite depressed. There were times when I knew my hormones were making me feel over-emotional but I just couldn't do anything about it. Your body is dealing with a lot and you are mentally and emotionally preparing yourself for a massive upheaval. Ultimately, a good one but very unsettling nonetheless!!

However, it would be a good idea to talk to your GP, too. Especially if you've had some depression in the past. Ante-natal depression needs dealing with just like PND. I don't have any experience or knowledge of this, so I won't say anymore - but talking things over with your GP - just to be on the safe side - is prob a good idea!

Take care xx

davidtennantsmistress Tue 21-Jun-11 08:22:45

I agree althought that said I had pnd & tablets with DS, this pg have been so hormonal it's unbelievable really really up and down, have figured it's part of the course as usually happens when i'm v v tired.

tbh the hypno sounds like a good idea.

Boosaphena Tue 21-Jun-11 08:23:24

I too have periods of feeling entirely overwhelmed, panicked, stressed, anxious. Also with a supportive dh which sometimes doesn't make things easier (although it certainly doesn't make things harder!) I've had pnd twice and am very aware of all my feelings.
I would pop along to the docs if it doesn't go in a day or so. They might not want to give you pills, but they may give you an outlet for talking about all the things that are worrying you so much. I certainly found that someone giving me some time made me feel alot more relaxed. X

kri5ty Tue 21-Jun-11 08:43:01

hey hun smile i have periods where i feel very alone. My boyfriend is great, but not very good with the supportie side of things if i get emotional, i think i feel lonely as i can not go out with my friends drinking anymore (to be honest i only went out about once every 3-4 months anyway), but i think it is the fact of knowing even if i wanted to i cannot... i am 4 months pregnant and since i fell pregnant i have seen non of my friends at all

I guess for me, its the worrying that my "life is over", even though wheni think about it rationally i know its not, and that i will get a gorgeous baby at the end of it, and my life will be them from now on!

dribbleface Tue 21-Jun-11 09:05:52

I think a chat with your GP wouldn't do any harm. I was like this in my first pregnancy, looking back i was really not too well. I did have PND and it took me a while to get over it. My boss commented on it the other day too as i'm pregnant again. It could well be that this time i have already made the adjustment to mum so it's not as scary.

I'm not saying it will be the same with you at all but if your feeling that low a chat might well help you work out whats the best way forward.

msbuggywinkle Tue 21-Jun-11 10:04:54

Worry is the work of pregnancy. Not my words, but I think they're great!

If you weren't worrying, you wouldn't be taking the time to really think through decisions. Doing your worrying now motivates you do find out what you need to know, to do what you need to do to get through labour.

Sounds like you're doing great to me!

glitternanny Tue 21-Jun-11 21:14:20

Thanks everyone, I'm feeling s bit better at the moment less full of tears.
I was gonna write everything down but now u feel a bit better I don't wanna open it all up again.
I looked at antenatal depression earlier, I don't fit the boxes, I don't think. I've got my scan next fri - I may call my gp see if they have any late mw appointments for after then.

Thank u so much for listening, I may reply personally tomorrow when I'm not on my phone!!

Daisybell1 Tue 21-Jun-11 21:37:50

Please go and have a chat with your GP - even better if you can make an appointment with a female one. I had a period of feeling completely overwhelmed/scared at about week 12 which turned into a case of pre-natal depression/anxiety. Having seen the GP, I now have an amazing support network around me - GP, community midwives, specialist counsellor, psychiatric team and will be getting a pre-natal visit from my health visitor as well to help with continuity of care.

I feel much better now (28 weeks today) but its good to know that the team are there for backup if I need them. My GP put all this in place for me, and is worth her weight in gold.

Please make an appointment for an initial chat, as something will then be in your records in case you need it in the future. And no-one has mentioned me taking pills for this - the psychiatrist was pleased I didn't want to take pills at this stage.

Hope you feel better soon.

davidtennantsmistress Wed 22-Jun-11 08:04:07

Just a thought but my iron is majorly low as are the reserves, hence tired & snappy hence feeling weepy/down, i assumed hormonal, might be something like that?

glitternanny Wed 22-Jun-11 10:16:36

Thanks I'm not sure when my next blood test is. I've called the drs today to try and get an appointment with the midwife but theyre fully booked. I may call back see if I can see my dr.

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