Hi All,
This is a bit of a WWYD really.
We live in the South and my parents live in the North, so when they come down they stay with us for a few days to make the journey worthwhile. We don't have children at the moment but are expecting DC1 later this year.
We've got a relatively small house - a 3 bed semi with 1 bathroom upstairs and a cloakroom downstairs. The box room is currently empty (well, filled with baby stuff) and our 2nd bedroom is still a large double guest room and will stay that way til if and when we have a second child.
My mum and dad obviously want to see their new (and first) grandchild as soon as possible after the birth which is fine, but I'm a bit about them staying with us. I feel really mean about this but I just think it's going to be too much for all of us - my parents included - as the baby will be keeping them awake and they both work, not to mention I am planning on BF and there is no way on earth I can do that in front of my dad. I know we'll be in a mess the first few days and not in any sort of routine, and I will find it a struggle to get dressed never mind be entertaining and worrying about guests. My DH is really helpful but I wouldn't feel right just sitting with the baby while he runs around after 'my' guests IYKWIM. My mum is great but my dad can wind me up at the best of times so during this unstable period I think I will be even more sensitive towards it.
I've mooted the idea of them staying in a local hotel (there are loads really nearby) but they are a bit offended by this since we have a double bedroom spare and going begging. Also they want to come down literally the minute the baby arrives - drop everything, leave work etc - so I think they're worried they won't get booked into one. My mum wants to come down on her own for a couple of weeks later on, which will be great as we will be more settled and I can be myself in front of my mum... my dad can't do that because of work. I think my mum will be fine, but I know I am setting myself up for some sort of passive aggressive showdown with my dad (he has a tendency to write me nasty letters/emails about what a bad daughter I am, which he leaves around for me to find and we never discuss it in person) and I don't think I'll be able to deal with that again, I lost sleep for 3 months last time.
Should I just cave and let them stay with us, and go BF upstairs or whatever. Or stick to my guns? What are you doing, or what would you do?
Thanks for listening!
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MyDogHatesMe · 17/06/2011 10:33
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