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Negative test...but...

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babybythesea · 14/06/2011 20:56

Some help please.
We have been TTC for several (and the rest) months now. AF was due on Saturday and I am never late. And...nothing. The excitement levels on Sunday were stratospheric. So I did a test. Nothing. BFN. Ok, well, maybe too early. I just knew that I did a test after being a day late with DD1 and it came up positive. Today, 3 days late, sore boobs, no AF ... and another BFN.
I just want to know how many days after the non-appearance of AF you got a BFP? Obviously, if my system is just playing (very mean) tricks on me by delaying AF's visit, then I will be having strong words and it will be a clear negative. I have one test left so if AF doesn't show - when do I test to have a good chance of getting a BFP? (If I can contain myself - each day that goes by leaves me more convinced that This Is IT and I want to know for sure NOW!!!!

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tigana · 14/06/2011 21:00

I had 2 or 3 bfns before my bfp (well, it was more of a little skinny positive).
Is your cycle pretty regular? Assume you are testing with first pee of the morning?

Be strong, wait 2 more days before testing!

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BuffyFan · 14/06/2011 21:06

I agree with tigana - be strong and wait a few days. I was a good week / ten days overdue AF before I got a BFP.

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BelleEnd · 14/06/2011 21:11

And test 1st pee of the morning, when the hormone is at its strongest.

I was a bit like you because it took aaaaages to conceive DC2... I think that I was somehow subconciously making my period late because I was so desperate and didn't want it to come. But come it did, for eighteen months... And then it didn't. DS2 is 20m now and was worth the wait. :)

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ShowOfHands · 14/06/2011 21:18

One of two things is happening. Either you're pregnant or you aren't. If you are pregnant it's too soon to show up and I'd advise waiting a few days and then testing if your period hasn't turned up. If you period is just late and you're not pregnant it's most likely to be one of two things. Either you ovulated late this cycle (usually caused by stress or illness mid cycle) or you didn't ovulate (again normal sometimes).

Give it a few days. You can't delay your period but you can have delayed ovulation which makes your period correspondingly late.

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QueenCee · 15/06/2011 06:08

Let us know how you get on op. Fingers crossed for BFP for you :)

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claricestar · 15/06/2011 06:33

i recently got a bfp 20 days after missed af. I had 12 bfns until that point, then bfp on tests 13, 14 and 15!

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chocolatesparkle · 15/06/2011 07:52

I normally had regular periods, but when AF was delayed a month ago, it took 7 days before i even got a pale second stripe. It then took another week before the BFP was truly big and fat! Hope that helps.

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babybythesea · 15/06/2011 17:30

Right - so I need to wait a few more days.
I'm normally like clockwork so on Sunday after no AF, and a BFN, I began to wonder if I'd got the wrong day in my cycle - I knew it should be a Saturday so thought I'd got the wrong week and began checking and double checking what week I was in. But I'm definitely right!! And now four days late. And still got sore boobs - it's looking more and more positive every day!!! Didn't manage to hold out though and did another test this morning which came up BFN again. I have determined to wait until the weekend at least before buying another one, so I'm not tempted to use it too early!! Saturday would give me a week overdue - if I can hold out until then!! I'm just really pleased that other people had to wait a while after a late/missed AF before a BFP showed up. I don't know if I can wait 20 days though....!!!

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muzzy2011 · 15/06/2011 18:59

Good luck holding out until Saturday! I have been there and ended up testing every day until I got a BFP, and I started testing before AF was even due...spent a bloody fortune! Try the test which comes up with the word pregnant rather than the line-I found it more accurate. Good luck!!!

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babybythesea · 17/06/2011 17:50

Quick update in case anyone is interested.
AF came today. SIX days late. I've never been late before Ever. Gutted. Absolutely gutted. Hoping against hope it's an implantation bleed but know deep down it's not.

Oh well. Always next month. And the month after that, and after that...
How can we have had dd1 so easily, and now be struggling?

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QueenCee · 17/06/2011 19:18

You're probably struggling because you're trying too hard.
Now don't flame me because I know how annoying it is when people say that! But it is so true.
I fell PG very quickly the first time and was very relaxed about TTC as we had only just got married. Sadly it ended in MC. I was distraught and became obsessed with getting PG again. It took 11 long months and many tears and lots of stress. I ended up having a laparoscopy because I was so convinced something was wrong. I fell PG 2 weeks after the op.
It was a long, horrible journey for DH and I.
Fast forward to DD being born. I breast fed for 5 months so we didn't use contraceptive as it's unlikely to fall whilsts bf'ing.
DD is now 7 months and I've just found out I'm PG again. So really after 2 possible cycles as bf'ing before.
I was so relaxed about it as because it took so long with DD and an op I never thought it'd happen so easily.
I don't know the answer for just relaxing and letting nature take it's course. I could never do that when TTC DD but if you can find a way, that's definately the key, I'm convinced.
Good luck

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blueeyedmonster · 17/06/2011 19:55

I got my bfp approx a week after my missed af.

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Chynah · 17/06/2011 22:11

have you tried OV sticks? I got BFP first go both times using OV sticks as I wanted to mke sure I was doing it at the right time - might be worth a go?!

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babybythesea · 18/06/2011 10:24

Thanks Chynah.
The first few months, we didn't bother and I wasn't too worried - fell pg first time of trying with dd1 so thought it wouldn't take too long - clearly had a false view of how fertile we were! I thought we might have to try a bit longer having been so lucky first time. Just not this long. Then we did use some OV sticks as I thought maybe we should be being a bit more precise about it. Then, it all got a bit too organised and stressful so we decided to go back to just using lots of frequent sex as the best method!!! And after a few more months, I'm thinking maybe we should return to the OV sticks and see if it helps. Keep thinking of all the things I do with dd1 that would be much harder with two, as a way of staying positive. I am trying to see all this 'trying' time as time I can spend with her on her own - by the time no2 comes along she will be well into nursery so that will leave me lots of time to spend with dc2. That's got to be a good thing, right? Plenty of time for me to have spent with each child on their own? Might start thinking about a dr soon but dh at the moment is more leaning towards 'let nature take it's course and if it doesn't, well, we have one, which is one more than a lot of people manage. And we're lucky with that, so let's leave it there.'