How do u say sod off nicely?

[Squiglettsmummy2bx]

Hi ladies,
I am hoping u will b able 2 help me not commit murder! On Friday I told my bfs cousin that I am preg Eventho I am just under 5 wks & keeping quiet as she knew my period was due & that I hav bin trying since January so kept asking had I come on. BIG MISTAKE! She is driving me mad. Friday she was telling me I can't go costs coffee anymore (from the woman who smokes throughout her pregnancies & around her ashmatic baby), she is tellinge when I can eat, drink, wee. I looked @ a buggy & got told 'ur not pushing my baby cousin in that' At which point I did say f* off! Telling me I shudnt breastfeed etc 2day my friend asked me something & she answered 4 me & I just wanted 2 punch her. I already Hav issues wiv her as her son keeps hitting mine on the way home from school, she is a lazy mum & the last person I want or need advice from. Also she found it hilarious that I hav had an upset tummy all weekend & couldn't keep food in!
Do I tell her that she is winding me up & needs 2 bk off, do I strangle her the nxt time she annoys me or do I do nothing???

[KeepOnSwimming]

Well, not spelling words correctly annoys me.

[Sausagesarenottheonlyfruit]

You sound like you see an awful lot of each other, perhaps you should find something else to do with your days.

[Squiglettsmummy2bx]

Our children go to the same school so we walk the same way & then she tends to follow me around if I have shopping to do etc so hard to shake her.
Sorry about the spelling but I am using my phone & trying to be quick, thought this was a place for advice not having my spelling checked!

[thisisyesterday]

agree with sausages. just keep away from her as much as possible.

if her son hits yours and she does nothing then tell him off.

and next time she comments on your pregnancy or anything else regarding it simply say "it's my baby, and i will do as I wish".
just keep repeating it every time she comments

[KeepOnSwimming]

It made it too difficult to read.

You'll get more responses if you set it out better, and don't use txtspk.

[MsChanandlerBong]

Can you change your routine so that you can start spending less time with her? Eg go home after the school run before you go shopping? Make excuses if she contacts you to meet up?

Perhaps if you only saw her on the walk to school or at family occasions then her comments might be more easy to manage. But if her son is hitting your child in front of you, I think you should speak up! (It doesn't sound like she is holding her tongue to protect your feelings so why do the same for her...)

[Squiglettsmummy2bx]

Thank you & I will do, just wanted to get it out before my dr calls me in.
I have told her son off so many times now she just says he is out of control what can she do. I try to keep away from her as much as possible & will use your advice, thanks again x

[thisisyesterday]

ignore keeponswimming, the rest of us have managed to read it just fine, some people are very snobby on here about how posts are set out!

[Eglu]

If you have issues with her already then why the hell did you tell her you were ttc? That was your first mistake. Agree with thisisyesterday that you need asiple line that you repeat infinitely.

[thisisyesterday]

i would say to her that if her son will not stop hitting yours and if she can't do anything about it then you will have to stop doing the school run with her.
it's not fair on your son otherwise

[IAmTheCookieMonster]

next time she says something have it out with her. Just yell "will you STOP! This is MY pregnancy will you please shut up". Your are pregnant you're allowed :-)

[MsChanandlerBong]

What can she do about controlling her own child?!! I have to say, this is the type of person I would 'fall out' with. But that is because I am quite immature/intolerant when it comes to friendships!

[Squiglettsmummy2bx]

Tbh the issues appeared after she knew I was ttc. We don't intentionally walk to school together, I walk with a group of friends & she started standing on the corner & tagging on. Same with shopping etc, I go with my friend as she has 2 small children so I go songtime & things with her so we can have a child each & then Carlah just started following along. I'm going to just keep telling her to mind her own business & am sure she will take the hint eventually. Hoping the hitting issue will be solved as my son & his friend (they r 5) told her son (6) that they don't like him because he hits them so please leave them alone & walk somewhere else. My bf doesn't mix with his family much so it's only because of school that we see her at all.

[Squiglettsmummy2bx]

That's what I was thinking cookie monster! Lol

[redexpat]

'Actually I'm finding all the conflicting advice very confusing and so to avoid this I've decided to only take advice from my MW and doctor'.

Would that do it? Failing that

'If I need/want your advice I'll ask for it'

[candr]

That sounds really annoying for you. I would keep repeating' each to their own' while counting to ten in my head and thinking of images of her with her skirt tucked in her knickers in the playground or just how different your children will grow up to be - depends what mood yr in!

[RachieJosie]

I think the fact you are asking how to 'say sod off nicely' suggests you are a nice person who clearly thinks about the feelings of others. Having read your posts I think it sounds you are being very very reasonable. If she doesn't respond to you talking to her in a calm reasonable manner (which it seems like you will) then maybe she needs to go away and reflect a little bit herself. Best of luck